and no offense intended to John, but forget the ball and chain concept. That's an ugly way to think, and it never works. Somebody always loses; Usually both parties do. You can aim higher than that.
All I can say to John, with all due respect, is:
1. Young ears are hearing something different than what (I hope) you mean. Trust me on this.
2. What, she's a dramatic high-schooler and he's not? Wow. That's unique. Pardon me if I don't believe it.
3. Drop the double standard. There isn't any 'Boys' Club' here. He'll be in trouble later in his life when things really are life-and-death serious if he believes you and falls into that way of thinking.
122535, your lady should give wings to your spirit, and you should give wings to hers. It has to go both ways. It has to be win-win for both of you, and fear will not get you there. Each of you should make the other's life better. That *will* get you there.
Whether you meant to or not, you shocked her. She went from "we're together" to "he might be leaving because apparently I'm boring him" -from out of the blue. Of course she's scared. Talk to her the same way you're talking to us. Give her time and, I repeat, Gina's advice is good. I suggest you take it.
Rely on the warmth of companionship for awhile and find productive, healthy things to do separately or together that don't produce this 'pressure to stay entertained only by each other'.
These are formative years. Life will force you to include other people in your life, and those same forces will be acting in hers. That's OK. It's all part of living and learning to live. It doesn't mean you have to lose each other, either.
You both need to trust that whatever is good for you both will be. Beyond that, *always* act in good faith, and everything will wind up happening for the best, whatever that best is.
High school is a dramatic time. There's no way to avoid it, so put your 'dramatic' energy into planning for your life.
Decide what kind of life you want, decide *how you want to feel within your life*. Think about that, then decide what's important in getting you to that point, then stick to the objective and go for it. *In good faith*.
Good Health to All of Us,
Ladylove