I think you are entirely right to be concerned. Six x-rays and wanting to do still more to a child whose bones and organs are still forming and developing? To me that is just way too much, given what you have described.
If it were me, I would give my child loving care and good nutrition, make sure she gets plenty of vitamin D and give her some potassium iodine to help offset the effects of the radiation. It might also be a good idea to have her take small amounts of oleander (perhaps half a capsule ever other day) for awhile and add a bit of curcumin.
I think that the product IntraKID (which is a version of IntraMAX made especially for children) is simply wonderful. To help insure proper bone repair and growth, some extra silica should serve her well.
This is just my opinion, but the last thing I think she needs is further x-rays and getting into a cycle of managed illness, where one doctor refers you to another and you get tests and x-rays at labs owned wholly or in part by the doctors and then possible medical procedures and medications which may not be necessary, etc., when there is every indication that she is already on the mend.
All the best,
Why hide anything? I would simply say that she appears to be doing fine and be well on the mend, is now running, laughing and singing, and you have chosen to forego any further medical treatments, Xray radiation on top of what she has already had or anesthesia unless you notice any further signs of products and instead go with good nutrition, healthy lifestyle and mama's intuition and observation.
All the best,
It is sad to me to see so many children being raised on fast foods, junk foods and processed foods off the grocers shelves that have had the nutrition processed out and additives processed in for taste, texture, color and shelf life - and then they may throw in some synthetic petro-chemical vitamins and crushed rock minerals and call it enriched. Reminds me of the old commercial that said "Wonder Bread helps build strong bodies twelve ways". My arse!
Even when one includes plenty of vegetables and fruits, they often come off the grocers shelves with pesticides, low enzymes due to being picked early, artificially ripened and shipped in cold storage cars, and from soil that has been mineral depleted. Given that and all the toxins we have introduced into the environment, it is little wonder that we see so many developmental problems in children these days, even given the propensity of child psychiatrists and other doctors to over-diagnose and over-prescribe.
All organs need optimum amount of a very great many vitamins, minerals, trace minerals and other nutrients, including healthy fats, to develop and function properly. That includes the vital organ known as the brain.
And yes, I'm loving the weather even if it is a bit soggy. I actually had to wear jeans and a long sleeve shirt yesterday evening and last night. I'm sitting here tonight with the windows open and listening to the night critters on my tree shaded lot. We just love our new place nestled among 28 big oak trees.
Time to go hit the back2life back machine and read myself to sleep.
All the best,
Bless your heart Mama Crow. I just want to jump in here to give you some moral support. I cannot imagine what you have gone through emotionally. I am so very glad your baby girl is doing so much better.
And she will Mama Crow. Follow Tony's advice. Thank goodness, the worst is behind you.
It's kind of like trying to read what a doctor scratches out on a prescription pad to be deciphered by the pharmacist.
My late uncle always swore that what is mainly said was "I got mine, now you get yours."
Excellent email! Your concern and love come through so clearly. So many emotions. It truly touched my heart.
I am glad the doctor has agreed.
Bless your heart, I am going to make this post as kind and compassionate as possible, but as I read your description of the events leading to your daughter's injuries, I am going to state that something is terribly wrong and I am extremely concerned. First of all, were you there to witness these events or are you taking your boyfriend's word for it? I know that it is very difficult to accept that someone you love may be abusing your child behind your back, but it happens every day without the mother having a clue. When the abuse comes to the surface, this becomes a crisis for the mother because not only does she have to deal with the injured child, but also with the betrayal inflicted by the one they love. One cannot believe that our partner would inflict such harm behind our back. The reaction is immediate disbelief, then as one comes to realize what has happened, betrayal, anger, grief, confusion, all types of emotions surface. And this is what you are going through now. Please realize that it is up to you to protect your daughter from anyone that harms her. She is only a mere four months old.
Okay, let's go through the steps of the story, one-by-one, as you described them.
why he was jocking aroung face slapping her and she was fack kiking back just kidden around she started to cry
Why was this man joking around slapping a four month old? The child was kicking back for protection. Then she started to cry. This is a big clue. Obviously, the baby was not happy with this situation. A baby has no means to protect themselves, no defenses. Slapping is no form of play, not even for a child, much less a baby.
and he though he hit her to hard so he picked her up and tryed to culm her she did at first then started crying again he got scared and though he was squezzing to hard so he let go he tried to ketch her as she fell but he only slowed her down she hill her head of her round about and hit the floor he pick her up and tryed to calm her after she was calm he checked her oven and took her in immidetly hopping she was ok luckly the hospital is in town
Let's look at the above paragraph step-by-step. He thought he hit her too hard? If someone is merely playing with a baby, why would there be concern that said baby was hit too hard? Why was he scared that he was squeezing her too hard? And then he let go? And then she fell and hit her head? Cattrina, something is very wrong here. Your four month old baby was undergoing violent abuse. Please look at this picture objectively. It looks like he became exasperated with this baby for some reason. Maybe she was crying and wouldn't stop? From where I stand it looks like the slapping was out of anger and one thing led to another and became out of control. Then he became either scared or sorry as to what he was doing and what ensued were attempts to calm the baby while becoming more frustrated and/or more frightened, inflicting more damage in the interim. This is the normal profile and steps taken in abusing a baby. Is it possible that this baby was forcibly "shaken" during this process? This was not playing Cattrina, I would venture to say that this was anger. I would also venture to say that this is not the first time it has happened behind your back, this is just the first time he was caught, the first time the baby got visibly hurt. From the fractures that you describe, it is possible that it is not the first time the baby got hurt. I also want to point out that forcibly shaking a baby can impair their spinal cord.
From what I have read of your account, the doctors made the right decision and this man belongs in jail. Cattrina....... What if he would have killed your baby? Then what?
so now americans can play with there kids when did this law happen
Cattrina, this was not playing. This was violence. When a baby is playing, they are happy, laughing, they are not crying. Even if I should be playing with a baby and that baby should not be in a good mood, or maybe not feeling well and starts to cry, I immediately stop playing and do not force the issue. Forcing the issue in such a case is abuse.
so we cant have accident well then americas screwed
Cattrina, this was no accident. The only way that this was an accident is that his slapping in attempting to stop the baby from irritating him got out hand. One thing led to another and the baby either ended up getting dropped or fell, injuring her head. Cattrina, this is the way babies die. Please see that this is most serious.
also st.john hospital is a joke they bsaid the found fracktures in her legs and arm the havent told me where exacly there at or showed me i asked them to and they wont they say that this chouldnt of bin an accident they dont know that and it WAS
The above sentence is most serious. Your four month old baby has been undergoing violence when you have not been at home. What type of accident or what type of playing would cause these injuries? Cattrina, listen to the doctors, they are on your side and are doing what is right. Please protect your baby. She is helpless, innocent, and in no way deserves what she has been going through. My gut feeling is, should you get back with this man, he will end up killing her.
The pattern of an abuser is that they will deny what they have done, lie quite convincingly, knowing that because of your love and trust for them, you will believe them and side with them when, in actuality, it is the injured child that you should be siding with, your child. Your anger should not be aimed at the doctors and the system in this case, it should be aimed at your boyfriend which you should break contact with immediately.
I don't know why they won't let you see the test results showing the fractures, but I sense there is more to this story that I do not know.
I am sorry if my reply upsets you, but from your side of the story I see huge red flags. Stop and look at this whole scenario objectively. This, even in a playing fashion, is no way to treat a four month old baby. I am going to implore you to get this man out of your life before a tragedy occurs.
Thank you Mama Crow. I hope she has read this post and does some serious thinking. Most of all, I hope that she does not become offended and think that I am just part of the crowd that doesn't understand. Her baby's welfare is at stake. No, let me rephrase that. Her baby's life is at stake. This is one instance where I hope that the appropriate parties step in and do all it takes to help that little girl. Hopefully Cattrina will receive guidance along the way.
Swetheart, we have all heard horror stories about the abuses and overzealousness of Child Protective Services, but what you wrote was simply horrifying: Face slapping a four month old? Dropping her instead of sitting her down? Signs of previous fractures?
We have all also heard that love can be blind, and I believe that such blindness is causing you to overlook what is happening to your precious baby. I pray that you listen to Luella, because what you have described just does not add up to a mere series of accidents.
All the best,