herb-gal
Who cares WHY he drinks, or WHAT kind of help he needs, or HOW much it will cost, or WHEN he will be better!
YOU HAVE CHILDREN.
I don't know how difficult it is for you to understand what you're putting them, and yourself through. How could you even CONSIDER this guy to be a suitable partner for you? You're pregnant. IF YOU'RE GOING TO BE WITH ANYONE, then it should be a nice man with a stable job and a steady head on his shoulders who WANTS to rub your feet at the end of the day, NOT BRING OTHER GIRLS HOME FROM THE BAR.
What the heck?!
Let me guess, you feel guilty and have no self esteem whatsoever.
Well let me tell you, everyone has their inner demons and you don't have to punish yourself by dating losers. That guy is a jerk. He's not going to stick around, or be there for your kids, or treat them with respect. He can't even treat YOU, or HIMSELF with respect.
OR--- DON'T HAVE KIDS UNTIL YOU ARE PREPARED TO BE A GOOD PARENT!!
Of course you can't really follow that advice since you've already got them, so do what's in you to make you a good parent. Screw that guy, he's not worth your time.
And ROOTH was right, it is just going to be the same ol' story on repeat...just as it has been with all the threads you've started lately. It's all the same. He's a jerk, you're trying to find any way to word any one situation to get some sympathy for him from anyone on here, and it has yet to work.