First of all, thank you so very much for your reply. It's nice to be reminded that nothing is hopeless or impossible.
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Now, with regard to my brother. He will be 44 in July.
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He is 5'7" tall and probably around 155 - 160 lbs.
COOL, A NORMAL WEIGHT AFTER ALL HE HAS WENT THROUGH...
His accident happened July 10, 1977; eight days shy of his 12th birthday.
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A group of young boys gathered in the front yard were fixing a flat tire on a bicycle. There was a disagreement between my brother and my cousin and my 13 year old cousin stabbed him with a screwdriver.
NASTY KID.....
It went right in his ear and into the base of his brain.
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He fell to the ground and began convulsing wildly (I was right there - at the tender age of 10
SCARED YOU FOR LIFE, OR UNTIL YOU ACCEPT THAT ALL HAPPENS FOR A PURPOSE...AND EVEN THEN, STILL A HARD THING TO ACCEPT.
- looking at my big brother.) He was in a coma for approximately a month.
OK, FROM DRUG "INDUCED" OR AS A RESULT? MAKES NO REAL DIFFERANCE AT THIS POINT.
My parents were told he would not survive, and if he did, he would be a "vegetable." Nice, huh.
PLANTED THAT IN THEIR MINDS AND THE YOUNG BOY "FOLLOWED" THE WILL OF HIS PARENTS OR SHOULD WE SAY, WHAT THEY "BELIEVED" SHOULD HAPPEN.
I don't know what meds he was given during his hospital stint but I do know that he wasn't heavily medicated when he came home. They had him on anti-seizure medication for approximately one year b/c they were certain he would suffer from seizures.
NORMALLY THE SEIZURE DRUGS CAUSE LONG TERM DAMAGE, SURPRIZED THEY DID NOT KEEP HIM ON THESE FOR A LIFETIME.
He never did and my mother took him off those meds.
GOOD FOR HER.
He also had to take a potassium supplement during that time - something to do with the anti-seizure meds sucking potassium out of his body. But those supplements stopped when the other med stopped.
GOOD
He spent four months in Kessler Institute for Rehabilitation when he was released from the hospital so he could learn how to walk/talk, etc. again. It was a slow road with a lot of tears. Finally, when my mother could no longer bear leaving him there as he cried each time she left, he came home to live and would go back every day. He did physical therapy everyday.
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Yes, he talks, but has a strained voice.
FANTASTIC
Yes, he walks,
SUPER COOL!
but with a severe limp.
AOK, THEN THIS KID IS NOT PARALYZED SO BAD, JUST DAMAGED BADLY AT AGE 12.
His left arm is tightly bent at the wrist and elbow and has severe muscle atrophy.
LEFT ARM, OK
He had surgery in 1980 to move the muscles in his forearm and wrist to release the tension.
YIKES, WISH THEY HADN'T DONE THAT.
It did nothing.
BUT HARMED HIM MORE....
He now has a large scar from elbow to wrist
THE BASTARDS.....
on the inside of his forearm. His spine is twisted and resembles an upside down question mark from relying on his right side so much.
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(He WAS left-handed.) When I mentioned that he would not express himself, I meant more in the way of his being unable to put the words together to express himself. Rather, he gets frustrated and curses and walks off.
GETS PISSED OFF, COOL, THEN HE HAS SOME LIFE LEFT IN HIM AFTER ALL THESE YEARS....
Imagine knowing exactly how you feel and not being able to spit it out.
SURE
When I said he couldn't be cured, I really wasn't questioning God intentionally,
NO PROBLEMO, I WAS JUST MAKING A POINT FOR THE ON LOOKERS...
but I guess unintentionally is equally as bad, dangerous and just plain ungrateful. I should have said, I know that portion of his brain that was damaged, will never function again. At least that is my understanding of it all - as there has never been a documented case of dead brain matter becoming active again.
THE BODY CAN REBUILD ANYTHING AND DESIRES TO 24/7 TO KEEP US IN THE BEST CONDTITION POSSIBLE.
I truly believe that other areas can compensate for that. At least that is my hope. His maturity level stopped at age 11 and he thinks like an 11 year old.
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He is not stupid,
GREAT
but has no short term memory at all so he can't retain current events, etc.
OK.....NOT THE BEST NEWS, BUT NOT DISASTER EITHER...
Unfortunately, my mother tried so very hard to mainstream him back into society.
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In 1977 there were no support groups, etc. You were either "not normal" or "normal" and she didn't want her son to suffer the stigma of being not normal. He attended regular schools, albeit special classes and tutors, and graduated high school.
COOL
Equally as unfortunate is that the mainstream lifestyle came with it. My mother is a phenominal cook. Homemade pasta, ravioli, etc. Seafood galore
THE DIET THAT FILLS THE CEMETARIES
(which I never ate) - she mastered almost every cuisine. The woman can seriouly cook.
COOKS GET NO PRAISE HERE, GOD PROVIDES ALL IN PERFECT CONDITION FOR LIFE, BUT I GET YOUR POINT....
She was almost famous for it. And even though she always made from scratch,
I AM SURPRIZED THIS GUY DOES NOT WEIGHT 400 POUNDS BY NOW..
we all know that the traditional diet, even using the freshest ingredients, is bad for us. My mother will disagree.
MORE OFTEN THAN NOT, THE MOTHER IS A CHILD'S WORSE ENEMY OF HEALTH AND LONGEVITY...
So, until such time he comes to live with me, I don't think I can change his daily diet. They are all smokers.
SUCH AS YOUR BROTHER AS WELL????? THAT IS THE WORSE KNEWS OF THIS ENTIRE STORY TO POINT, THE OTHER STUFF CAN BEDELT WITH....BUT SMOKING ON TOP OF THIS TYPE OF INJURY WITH 2 BRAIN DEAD PARENTS IN CHARGE???
My brother, who has no friends at all, spends his weekends at the local watering hole where the regulars look out for him. He drowns his sorrows in booze
WE HAVE A LOCAL GUY THE SAME AGE HERE, AND YES, THESE 2 LAST THINGS PRETTY MUCH DEAL HIS DOOM.....IT WAS LOOKING PRETTY GOOD UNTIL YOU MENTIONED THEIR WILL TO COMMIT ACCEPTABLE SICIDE.
(only on Fri. and Sat.). When he comes to me on some weekends, we drink red wine, but do not get trashed. He is so lonely. The whole situation is sort of toxic in terms of diet, etc.
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Oh boy, I could go on and on, but this is already a novel. So, where to begin? I have faith, but I don't know if my faith is enough.
YOUR FAITH SAVES YOU, HIS FAITH DIRECTS HIM.
My brother can't implement those changes (he wouldn't remember and he's not so mature).
SORRY, IF HE REMEMBERS TO SMOKE AND DRINK, THEN HE IS CAPABLE OF ALLOT MORE THAN YOU SUSPECT AND HIS PARENTS HAVE BEEN HIS LIFELONG PROBLEM ALONG WITH THE IDIOT THAT SLICED HISARM.
My mother won't be swayed unless and until she sees some area of improvement.
SHE CAN FOLLOW HER MASTER, IGNORE HER, DON'T BOTHER WITH HER, YOU WILL ONLY WASTE YOUR TIME. TALK WITH YOUR BROTHER AND IF HE HAS NO WILL, IGNORE HIM. HE IS FAR MORE CAPABLE OF DOING WHAT HE REALLY WANTS TO DO...
So, I wanted to start him slowly but I don't know if that is enough. I could set him up with sprays and some herbs in hopes that they will see or he will feel something and just pray that they will all decide to try something new. My mother hates doctors and their medications. She also believes that herbs are medications of sorts and is hesitant about dabbling.
AT THIS POINT, YOUR THE OUTSIDER, I SUGGEST YOUR BROTHER IS OLD ENOUGH TO DO MORE THAN YOUR LETTING ON, SO HE CAN WALK AWAY FROM HIS OLD LIFE ANYTIME HE WANTS....IF HE HAS A MIND OF A 11 YEAR OLD THEN HE HAS NO ABILITY TO DRINK ALCOHOL OR SMOKE, ETC..OR FOR THAT MATTER LEAVE HIS HOME UNATTENDED BY A GURDIAN.
Final important notes. My brother recently had all his top teeth removed. His dental situation is dire. He now wears dentures on his upper teeth. His gums were horrible, as are my mother's. I work very hard to keep mine in check. He had abscess after abscess, which required antibiotics, etc.
I have no clue why I decided to share this in this way. Desperate, pehaps. Or maybe I just needed some guidance on how to inspire them. It seems as though this post should be somewhere else on CZ but hey, you asked! Thanks again for listening.
NO WHERE ELSE ON THE CUREZONE OR THIS WORLD, CAN YOU PLACE THIS STORY AND GET AN HONEST OPINION.
PS: Mom is very mad at God.
SHE SHOULD BE, SHE IS IN DEEP #### LIVING OUT HER OWN NIGHTMARE, WHICH HER SON IS PLAYER HER PART, FOR HER EDUCATION, WHICH SHE HAS DENIED GOD FOR HOW MANY YEARS!!!!
Why would he do this to a child?
WRONG QUESTION, BECAUSE GOD IS IN THAT CHILD, SAME AS HIS MOTHER, YOU, THE ENTIRE WORLD......TRY TO UNDERSTAND THIS ONE MEGA POINT:
YOU AND GOD ARE ONE ON ONE.....NO ONE ELSE MATTERS.....ALL OTHERS ARE PART OF YOUR EDUCATION, YOUR PARENTS, YOUR BROTHER, YOUR HUSBAND, ETC....AND BELEIVE IT OR NOT, YOU HAVE HELPED DIRECT YOUR OWN PATH IN MORE WAYS THAN ONE, BUT NOT ONE MINUTE OF YOUR LIFE CAN BE CHANGED, YOU WOULDN'T WANT IT TO CHANGE, BECAUSE IF YOU COULD CHANGE IT, YOUR LEARNING WOULD NOT BE THE SAME.
YOUR BROTHER IS NO MORE HARMED THAN YOU ARE, HE WILL LIVE FOREVER, SAME AS YOU ARE....YOUR ONLY CONCERN IS IN THE PRESENT, WHICH OK, BUT ONCE YOU REALIZE THE SCORE AND TURN IT ALL OVER TO GOD, LIFE WILL GET SMOOTHER AND IT WILL ONLY HAPPEN, WHEN IT IS MANT TO HAPPEN.
She still believes, but is still mad.
STILL HITTING HER HEAD GAINST THE BRICK WALL SO TO SPEAK.
PSS: I will send you the ingredients regarding the toothpaste. I'd like your input. The toothpaste is not white...sort of clay colored.
NO PROBLEM, NO NEED AT THIS POINT....HIS DENTAL AND SMOKING, ETC....ALL ARE FAR WORSE, ETC...
THE BEST YOU CAN DO IS TALK TO HIM ABOUT IT, BUT IF HE DRINKS AND SMOKES AND USE TO WELFARE $$$$ PAYING HIS HABITS, THN YOUR TAKING ON A MIGHTY CHALLENGE AND IT WOULD SUPRIZE MOST THAT SUCH A PERSON COULD LIVE TO SEE AGE 50, SO HE NEEDS TO STOP DIEING NOW AND WAKE UP, GROW UP AND QUIT PLAYING "DAMAGED" GAME...HIS SPIRIT IS JUST AS HEALTHY AS YOURS, ONLY HE IS PLAYING/ACTING OUT HIS LIFEIN A BODY THAT WAS DAMAGED 30 YEARS AGO AND ALL THE DAMAGE SINCE THEN HAS BEEN SELF-INDUCED BY HIM/PARENTS.
CAN HE IMPROVE HIS LIFE 100%
OF COURSE, JUST STOPPING ALL THE THINGS THAT ARE KILLING HIM WILL DO THAT IN 30 DAYS OR LESS.
MH