John McCain 2008
you ask a lot of questions that could've been answered during the dating phase. women know what kind of guy they're with, i'm not buying that they don't. they know. if he's a drunk when she's dating him, he'll be a drunk when they're married. if he's violent towards her when dating, he'll be violent in the marriage. if he looks at other women now, he'll look then. if he cheats on you when you're dating, he'll cheat on you during marriage. if he goes from job to job when she's dating him, he'll job hop when they're married. if he gambles heavy now, he'll gamble heavy later. if a woman settles for destruction and misery, she'll get exactly that.
if i were in a terrible marriage for one year, i'd get out. there's only so many years on this earth, herbgal, you get only one chance at this life. if you waste five years of your life...don't waste another ten. if you stayed in the marriage for the kids, now the kids are grown, maybe it's time to make sure the next 30 years of your life are lived on your terms. how 'bout that for a plan? you with me?! i'm a "cut your losses" type guy in everything. there's no nobility medal of honor for living with a loser and getting to the finish line saying, "at least i didn't leave him." you lose. you are the loser. you lost the race of life. if you're in a bad relationship right now, i mean exactly right now as you read this post...every month you hang on to that worthless piece of garbage of a person you decided to be with, you have a chance at a "do-over". it's your call, don't ask me to do it for you. i made a correct call the moment i chose my wife over another. my reward is 22 years of successful marriage and counting. just maybe it's time to start your counter at zero from this date forward.