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LBS Syndrome: Are you "normal?!!!"

Late Bloomer you suffer from it? A new diagnosis for those who do not fit into the box.....

Date:   2/7/2006 9:46:31 AM   ( 15 y ) ... viewed 5397 times

Make *Light* of it All

SpiritPlay Update: Late Bloomer Syndrome

A beautiful female colleague of mine is getting married for the first time at 51. A friend of mine in his late 40's just found a line of work that truly suits him. A brilliant 46-year-old acquaintance recently adopted a baby. Do these ages seem a little "late in life" to you? It appears these days that people are taking longer to "get it together." If someone had told me in my twenties that I would be single and childless at 36, I would have said, "No way." More and more frequently I meet adults who have insight, vitality and presence, but none of the hallmarks of a traditional life. It's been a topic of concern for some who feel stigmatized by their difference. So I decided to shed some light on this phenomenon of our times and do what our culture loves to do: Label it.

Introducing Late Bloomer Syndrome (LBS), a diagnosis for highly sensitive people who, at a very young age, saw and deeply felt the negative effects of unconscious behaviors and dynamics in their immediate environments, and made a firm, albeit unconscious choice to avoid perpetuating these patterns of living. This choice lays dormant in the cells of the carriers until they attempt to live "normal" adult lives, at which point it is evident that something is wrong. Symptoms of depression, restlessness, ADD, OCD and addictive behavior may present themselves. By the time these symptoms are fully addressed and worked through, and new models of living in the world are sought out and incorporated, a person with LBS is considerably older than a non-LB.

LBS is not to be confused with Adult Baby Syndrome (ABS), which unlike LBS, is a real diagnosis for low-functioning people who can't seem to grow up. People with LBS are able to function. Many wind up deeply involved in the processes of increasing their functionality and, ironically, truly growing up.

LBS does not apply to highly driven women who need to establish their careers before having a family. LBS occurs in both men and women. Many people in conscious communities are afflicted with it. What can you do if you if you or someone you love is suffering from LBS? How can you avoid feeling bad about it?

LBS is not in itself a bad thing, it's just that being separated from the norm, from the culture's prescribed recipe for a full and complete life, is a natural source of consternation. This discomfort is useful in that it sends most people in search of help and answers. Often referred to as a "prolonged adolescence" LBS is obviously due to psychological issues. The real question is, whose issues? People with LBS are often the first people in their entire lineage to look at their "stuff." Metaphorically speaking, it is like if no one in your entire family history had every done their laundry, and then one day you woke up buried under a pile of dirty towels and socks. If you wanted to climb out from under that mountain and leave it clean, it could take a long, long time. Likewise, LB's spend a lot of time cleaning up the emotional baggage handed down to them through centuries of repression.

Do you have LBS and feel some shame about it? Shame and self-blame are common symptoms of LBS. Even though it may feel hard, every culture goes through an awkward transition when real change abounds. You're a leading factor in that change. Think about your parents and grandparents for a minute. Think about the times they lived in and all the factors involved in their choices to get married and become parents. In a large number of cases, there wasn't a sense, as there is today, that there was much choice in the matter. Everyone got married and had kids. Straying from the norm was much more threatening then than it is now. Therefore, you may have been born into an unhappy marriage that was based on control or manipulation, or you had an absent father that worked all the time and a mother who was extremely depressed. Or you are a child of a messy divorce, or of alcoholics. If, before you could articulate what was wrong with it, you saw those distortions and said, "not for me!"; if you once thought adulthood looked more distasteful than Peter Pan did, that doesn't make you abnormal, just smart. Is it any wonder, when the blueprint of the traditional life seems at best stale and stilted, and at worst abusive and morose, that one would be reluctant to "get it together?"

So remember, LB's: You have been doing important work. One positive result of LBS is the great wisdom that comes from the recovery process. It's important for people with LBS to congregate together, as getting in touch with one's innate wisdom often feels even more isolating. So when you find yourself in the fourth wedding party of the year and you have had only one real relationship in your whole adult life, or when you spot a copy of an old friend's newly released novel while browsing in Barnes and Noble on lunch break from your temp job, remember: You have been doing important work.

And the good news is that as we speak, prescriptive medication for people with LBS is currently in development, to help acquire "normal" lives faster! Unfortunately, it is currently reported that the side effects, which include giving birth to wildly dysfunctional children, are deadly. So until then, here are some playful reminders of how to deal with being young, wise and seemingly anchorless all at the same time:

When are you going to . . . ?!

Tell your elders who have a hard time with where you are that they should go to therapy. Since it helped you feel better about yourself, it will probably help them feel better about you too.

Reframing Your "Career Issues"

New Stance: I decided a long time ago to accept a job as the healer of myself and my ancestors. I am moving to part-time soon so I'll have more time to focus on my other jobs even though I haven't decided what they are yet. (By the way, if you've been at the healing thing for a while, give yourself a raise.)

Reframing Your Commitment Issues

New Stance: I am in the process of a very lengthy and complicated divorce from my programming. Although there have been corrupt judges and the need to change lawyers a few times, it will eventually go through. In the meantime, I am available for love!

Reframing Your Intimacy Issues

You want real intimacy? You're going to have issues. Who doesn't? Really!

Think Outside the Box

Remember: From the perspective of those inside the box you may appear to be a drifter and a dreamer. From those outside of it, you can be celebrated as an explorer and pioneer of consciousness.

And always,

-- Love yourself no matter what.

By Blair Glaser, MA, RDT

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