I think it's something to do with a woman hitting her sexual peak in 30's & 40's and men hitting theirs from 15 - 25, or something like that. I know that now, I simply desire it more than I did at 19. I am also more self confident and in tune with my body and what I like, I'm not uncomfortable or self conscious in sexy lingerie and all that stuff like i was when I was young. I think the feeling of freedom of comfortable sexual expression is a turn on for me and having a man sleeping right next to me every night just makes it that much more accessible in my book, not more boring!
I agree with the gentlemen's posts about foreplay and better sex, but I think my problem is having sex at all! If I want it I have to initiate it and practically beg for it because he's too tired or has a headache or something's on TV, I mean - really! After all those years of being chased for it, now I have to do the chasing? bummer!
Our problem isn't lack of sexual creativity - we have lotions and oils and toys and I have sexy lingerie... the problem is that he just plain isn't all that interested in it. Plus, I don't think I should have to do a horse and pony show every time I want to get laid! I mean, I understand doing that sometimes for fun but I don't want to feel like I have to advertise and solicit sex from him.
I'm just so frustrated, I miss the passion and thrill of being "in love" and just can't get enough of each other. I still feel that way about him.