Thank you so much, SS!
I keep going back to what you wrote, particularly the following:
Relocating, in some people's views, may be an attempt to run from a situation. Other people may view relocation as an opportunity to start over. It depends entirely upon what the motivations are.
That is so true. I have a brother who is never happy where he lives. He is always looking at some other place and thinks that life will be so much better in the other place. For example, he'll point out things that he hates about the current area he lives in, then point to another area and romanticize life there. In his case, I'm not so sure just what it is he's looking for and expecting to find elsewhere.
For me, what caused me to post here was that I had a meltdown earlier this week. I can go weeks without thinking about what happened with our daughter, then it all wells up in me. When I got out of bed on my meltdown day, I told my husband that I hadn't slept well and he asked why. Then the meltdown happened. He asked me a very good question --- what exactly triggers it for you? This is where I'm at now, thinking about what exactly are the trigger points. Then it hit me that it wasn't helping being in the same place where it all happened.
Well...I have to work through this myself and come to terms with it. When I've tried to talk to our daughter about it, she clams up and answers any questions with "I don't know". Then she will go silent. It doesn't help when people in the extended family tell me not to bring it up and let sleeping dogs lie. So...sometimes I pick up my notebook and write it all down...
Again, SS, thank you for your post! I do truly appreciate your input. And thank you for the hugs. Hugs and loving thoughts are always appreciated :)!