Yep, "settling" for a life of vibrators works just fine unless it doesn't. In that attempt I came to understand 2 things: first, that as I suspected, I'm not much into vibrators. Seriously, I'm open minded but they do nothing for me. In fact, I turned it off b/c the vibration annoyed me.
Second, and most importantly, after deciding to supress my sexua| side, it didn't submit and the issue came to a head as more than just a physical issue but one connected to some powerful emotional needs. So even though I would make the choice to drop sex for him if I could, I literally can't. I now understand that this is a deal breaker.
So I've laid it out for him and now we're in a state of transition. Something has to give and he knows that the "something" could be our marriage. And it scares him b/c everything else in the relationship is very good. I can't imagine dropping him for this, but then when I'm looking for attention outside the marriage... not so good.
So it's become personal, and he gets to decide what's important.