Well folks, I finally got to the bottom of it. If you read my posts, you'll see years of me crying about not getting sex with my husband, getting over my reaction to not getting sex, the wierd thing that we would have vacation sex but not sex at home, about how everything is good in our relationship and I take care of my looks, etc. etc. etc.
Well, things were coming to a breaking point in that arena and he finally came clean. p 0 r n! Okay, maybe it shouldn't be such a surprise, but it kind of is. I knew he watched p 0 r n, sure, it didn't bug me. I never imagined that a man would PREFER p 0 r n, actually go there first before he goes to his loving, warm, cute wife. Why would any man do this??? He feels awful about it and is worried that he can't stop. He's sad that he's the cause of our biggest marital difficulty. But why? How could anyone prefer anything to a live person with whom they have good sex?