Thank you so much, Soulful, for your insight and suggestions. I will definitely do the exercise that involves writing about my anger. I have been saying all along that she acts like she "owns" him, so that really rang true with me when you said it, too. When I tell my friends about some of the things she has done, they are shocked and disgusted. Up until about 2 months ago, I would still occasionally attempt to spend time with my son. But one Saturday his dad and I invited him out for lunch. He was at her place and she took his car, which made him nearly 2 hours late. At that point I realized that she will do anything to stop him from spending time with anyone. She actually said in an e-mail to me that she and my son would die for each other. Scarey stuff, huh? Of course, when I asked him about that, he just said "that's crazy." I wanted to scream, "Exactly, you dumbass!" But, I just don't want to fight with him anymore. I was at his dad's house about 2 weeks ago and he offered me a sip of water from a glass he was drinking out of. I actually didn't want to drink out of the same glass as him because ... well ... knowing he kisses her, etc., it turned my stomach. It's just all so sad. I suppose I must give up on him, for the sake of my own mental and emotional health. I have a 16-year-old daughter, too, and I try to just focus on her now. Thank you again, Soulful; you really seem to understand all of this. And it helps just to vent and get some feedback.