If you can get a copy of the Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz there are some great ideas in there for not taking things outside ourselves personally.
I hope you find a safe place and when you do I will do everything I can to help you get detoxed and regain any health you may have lost in all of this. Don't under estimate the stress beyond the actually physical toxins.
Once you get through all this you will be a valuable asset to others in the future.
Hang in there Julie.