|Date: 1/29/2008 10:45:21 PM ( 9y ago )
I believe that love is the most over used and misunderstood word in the English language - and it is tied to forgiveness. I suspect that when many people think of forgiveness they believe they have walk up to the person they are forgiving and hug and kiss them. Ain't so. To love someone or to forgive someone is to simply allow them to be who they are without any interference on your part.
I used to go to an old fart chiropractor (now I'm an old fart) who had a little plaque on the wall of his waiting room that read: "Do you love someone enough to let them do anything they wish?" And for me, that's the basic meaning of love. Love also doesn't mean you have to be accepting of everything that another person is doing. But it does mean to at least try and stay out of their way.
I think that forgiveness is also misunderstood right along with the word love. To forgive someone, to love them - is to let them go. There are some people who I have forgiven who I wouldn't walk across the street to say hello to if I saw them, but that doesn't mean I haven't forgiven them. It also doesn't mean that I don't love them either.
Before you love others, you have to love yourself first. I'm still working on that and the more I forgive myself, the more I love myself and am able to let others be just who they are.
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