"I don't care how well educated you are in judging others" - no judgments were pronounced other than viewing the forest instead of the trees. Nobody claimed to be the Ultimate Authority On Human Behavior - the only references made, until YOUR blind assumptions and judgements, were based upon personal experience AS VICTIMS and SURVIVORS of domestic violence and abuse, not as "judge jury and executioners!"
I daresay that, if you took the time to re-read the posts with an objective eye, you might see the language that pertains to personal experiences as victims and NOT people who are attempting to judge or label.
I will keep your well-being in my positive thoughts. Best wishes.