Naturally, those addicted to the internet will not be able to resist your temptation to participate. Thus, all respondents may be internet addicts, and the responses that indicate low internet usage will be suspect.
Within Man's existence, the internet is a relatively new dynamic of communication. "Internet addiction" applies equally well to those seeking information for purposes of learning, as it does to belligerent disturbers (trolls) in "chat rooms". Accordingly, the term "internet addict" itself requires further refinement to distinguish those seeking to learn, from those who are disruptive to learning, for each may be an "internet addict" I am an internet addict, but only to the extent that I gain from the experience, when I do, I naturally want to read more. If anyone exists who wants to label me as "internet addict" because of my desire to learn, such people need to find better things to do than concern themselves with labeling others who merely find the screen an easier to use method than paper pages in a book.
My name is Nolan and I'm a former game addict who was addicted to some of the most powerful games for nearly 6 years. Which included the online game World of Warcraft and some of the system games like Halo and Final Fantasies. I turned away from all forms of social interaction except the friends I had on WoW and Halo online. I was a straight A student and flunked out of med school believe when my game addiction became overwhelming.
After flunking out, losing my friends, and almost losing the one I love, I decided enough was enough. I decided to get help and turned to my mom and fiance for help. My mother and fiance got a lot of $$$ together to pay for a therapist to see me. They sat in with me on a lot of the meetings because I knew I could use all the support I could get. After nearly a year of therapy I finally became strong enough to handle being around a game and not having to give into the desire to play it. I can go to my old friends houses and see them playing games and not fret about picking up the controller in indulging into my addictions again.
The strange thing about my experience with breaking a game addiction was I felt the need to keep a journal on all my thoughts and experiences. I even took it with me during my therapy sessions and would write down all the answers the therapist would give not only to my questions but my fiance and moms questions and concerns too.
Now after reading the journal I have decided to share what is important in it to help others. But most people with a game addiction aren't looking for help, its usually quite the opposite because they don't think they have a problem. I'm here to try and help the mothers, fathers, wives, husbands, and friends to those who have a game addiction by giving them the information they need to help the addict. In order to do that I need to know what information is most crucial in answering the biggest questions and concerns in the book I'm trying to write.
The help I need from you is simple and will only take about a minute and I will send you a copy of the book for helping me out. All I want to know is if you can email me your biggest question or concern about how to help a game addict. No matter how silly or stupid you may think your question may be please send it anyway because you never know what kinds of information can help someone.
Please send your question or concern to GameAddictionsAreSerious@gmail.com and after the book is finished I will email you a copy of it.
Thanks for taking the time to read this post and hopefully sending your question or concern,
My 11 yr old son lives where there are no neighbors to play with and I, his dad, have little free time to spend with him. He's never showed much interest in anything other than dinosaurs for a year. Now all he wants to do is play Minecraft and watch youtube videos about it. I keep trying to limit him to 2 hours a day (which his mom often opposes since he's "bored") but am thinking about selling his laptop. Tonight I tried doing a mathematics overview with him but his mind was so buzzing with "electronic" activity he couldn't even add 9 plus 7. really. So I stormed in to his mothers room (my ex) and said that he was completely restricted from using the computer till after he takes his exams in a few days. Then I need to decide what to do. Please vote:
A. limit him to 2 hours daily
B. sell the computer
ps- we live in one of the hottest countries in the world and we are in the middle of a 6 month long summer and so "playing outside" is not an option. Sometimes we pretend to play tennis right as the sun is going down and wind up drenched in sweat.
I've bought him remote control helicopters and a car but they didn't much interest him. Last report card he basically got the lowest score possible in 4 of 6 classes. I feel so guilty for buying the laptop for him and the anguish he will have if/when I sell it. If he keeps it then I am guilty of allowing this destructive addiction. If I get rid of it then I'm guilty of selling the only thing he's ever loved 9other than the dog he used to have). I'm F'd
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In Connecticut, in one of the nation's wealthiest counties, Adam Lanza killed his mother,26 people at Sandy Hook
school and himself. His father Peter was interviewed in the New Yorker and gave the opinion that
the chief cause of Adam's violence was a mother who did not hold him accountable and was in denial
about his problem. When Adam was 8 years
old he wrote a story and tried to sell it at school. In it his character enjoys hurting people.
Lanza's father did not hold video games, medications or guns responsible, but others do.
Below are some causes of violence in children and teens:
Medications: Socalled antipsychotics are actually often propsychotic. Zoloft, Paxil, Prozac are some of
many medications correlated to suicide, homicide, and other violence.
Guns: Children of hunters, police or the military are more socialized to the use of weapons and more likely
to be involved in violent crime.
Media – Violent video games from Nintendo and many other corporations, movies, tv,
comics which glorify violence desensitize children to it.
Diet: The adrenalin animals and fish secrete as they are slaughtered is a long chain molecule, some of whose
links remain intact after cooking to recreate terror, anger in those who eat the flesh.
A Home Environment which is totally permissive
Violent Peers – Peers in gangs, in the school yard. We are all influenced by the company we keep, for good or ill.
A feeling of Rejection: from being slower or considering oneself less attractive.
Bullying Victimization: Being a victim of bullying or corporal punishment from violent parents,
schoolmates, street gangs etc.
Desire For Attention Or Fame
A Depression which feels trapped
Earthbound spirit influence
Alcohol, drugs, antipsychotics and other medications, anger can all rend the aura, the electromagnetic field,
allowing earthbound spirits to enter and control
While I don't disagree with most of what you write, please don't forget that the young man probably had underlying biochemical health problems. There are reports that he had a diagnosis of Aspergers or other Autism spectrum disorder.
For some, the diagnosis changes over a number of years as various interventions allow the young person's health to move from Autism to the higher functioning Autism spectrum disorders--Aspergers, PDD-NOS, etc.
In a large survey of parents of kids with Aspergers and Autism the #1 rated intervention was Detox (chelation of heavy metals). Other highly rated interventions include diets that lower intake of gluten and certain carbohydrates, etc. http://www.autism.com/index.php/treatment_ratings_asd
"Detox. (chelation)" 74% report "got better", 3% report "got worse", 23% report "no effect"
When I was a youth I was more commonly a "teacher's pet" than a problem. I graduated in the top 10% of my high school class and received awards at graduation for academic achievement and service. I managed to avoid even one demerit in four years. I certainly did not have ADHD.
From my late twenties through my forties I had list of strange, life-limiting symptoms, including the following:
"Difficult", critical, competitive mood but not yet to the point of being violent
A bone density problem that an award winning doctor in my metropolis and former med school professor did not understand
Various food, chemical and odor sensitivities
Fatigue and brain fog
A somewhat weird personality that probably made me grow introverted and more socially isolated.
Other strange, minor symptoms.
Even though I had once earned an M.A. I had to settle for just being a handyman carpenter.
At its worst I was on two psych meds, a mood stabilizer and stimulant for ADD. They generally worked very well except when I would consume caffeine. That combo could make me like a crazy Meth addict.
Thankfully I was lucky/blessed to guess correctly that exposure to lead and other heavy meals from my family's business was a major factor. (Thx to Dr Mark Hyman)
After silver-mercury Amalgam filling removal and 1.75 yrs of detox (Cutler protocol) my third bone density scan indicated my density was essentially back to normal. My doctor suggested that I no longer needed the last of the medications, just supplements.
He was correct. A couple of years later I'm still taking many supplements but most symptoms are improved or gone.
The improvement in my "difficult" mood is the one that is most impressive to me. I was doing the detox in order to avoid ending up in a wheelchair due to bad spine. I did not expect detox plus supplements to have such a major effect on mood, on personality!
For years I spent much energy trying to control my powerful, disruptive emotions, now I am like the normal youth that I once was. I really don't think I am less "chilled out" than the average person. I don't have to make much effort to be pleasant and cooperative.
Supplements that seemed to have the biggest impact were fish oil (2 caps per day), a couple mg of lithium orotate, magnesium citrate and low dose pregnenolone.
When I was a teen I recall looking down on others who were brain fogged, had mood problems or were undisciplined. I wondered why they did not try harder or did not snap out of it. I assumed there was a moral deficiency.
Fifteen years later I was one of them, and trying hard to avoid being that way! I understood why people looked at me strangely.
I was very fortunate that a close female friend who had known me in a church youth group during my healthy young years did not give up on me, even after I gave up on myself. She kept buying me books and recommending various medical professionals, especially those in alternative or semi-natural medicine.
Today I am an assistant manager of a non profit org. Young adults with Aspergers and high level Autism come to volunteer with retired Seniors and others to learn social and other skills. They seem to connect well with me. In some way I feel that I understand them. I'm not going to give up on them.