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My son is 2 years old and suffered partial 2nd degree burns on 20% of his body 6 days ago. He was treated with debridement, a silver foam/compression dressing. The doctor stated that the foam is good in place for 7 days and just to change out the compression gauze. I have been doing what is ordered and everything seems to be progressing smoothly, but he has an odd smell coming from the areas. Not foul, but if you are close to him you can smell it. Kind of like a copper/sweaty/stale smell. Is this normal? The drainage is of normal color. We did speak to the physician who did the debreidment and is over looking his care on the phone, he says my son has no indicators of infection. He has an appointment tomorrow to assess what Should be done as far as further debridement. Anyway, I was wondering if a smell can come from burns just as a healing process? How can I wash his hair if he has burns on his neck and close to his ear? I'm so lost as to how to deal with this, he's my son and this is the first time he has even been ill in any way. Can anyone help me out here?
Refeeding syndrome is a metabolic complication that occurs when nutritional support is given to severely malnourished patients (Box 2). Metabolism shifts from a catabolic to an anabolic state. Insulin is released on carbohydrate intake, triggering cellular uptake of potassium, phosphate, and magnesium.
This as per Medscape
Basically the body uses up too fast the available minerals, in case of overly zealous and inappropriate refeeding, and not only the body but also the blood even get depleted from minerals. Potentially one could die if the depletion is important.
It is important to introduce food slowly and to eat high mineral density food, which will be also high vitamin and nutrient dense vegetables and fruits.
Eating bread, pasta, tacos, fried stuff, the heavy dairy and meat and concentrated protein of any kind may make one loose the benefits acquired with so much effort.
My husband is a cancer patient. He has also had a Quad Cabbage with Grafts x 4. He has arthritis, osteoarthritis, osteoporosis, hemoroids, double torn right rotor cuff surgery. Doctors want him to take medicine for high blood pressure, high cholestrol, and his heart but he takes nothing but pain meds, which are awful.
He was diagnosed with NHL in the Spring of 2001 and told he had 6 months to live if he refused Chemo. He refused all treatment at that time.
I researched online, located Dr. Hulda Clark information and placed orders for several of her recommended products. I devoured the book while he continued to work. He daily used the Zapper, took the parasite cleansing herbs, and made what diet changes could be done at the time.
From her website I was able to obtain the name of an N.D. in Houston. We did a follow-up with her after completing Dr. Clark's protocol. The N.D. did a parasite test, iridology, etc and said that my husband had one remaining fluke which had moved into the chest area but not the lung. We obtained specific herbs from her, treated him following her suggestions, retested at a later date and he was fine....for years.
In hindsite, We should have remained on a maintenance type program of herbs, but failed to do so for a variety of reasons, ignorance being the first; extreme financial crisis being the second.
About 4 years ago he was diagnosed as having Diffused Large B Cell Non Hodgkins Lymphoma by a small town hospital. A scan then a biopsy was done to confirm. He was admitted to the hospital but only to manage the pain. That hospital did not offer cancer patient care specialized enough and transferred him to M.D. Anderson in Houston.
We spent the evening of our arrival in the emergency room waiting for a room to become available. The only room that night was one in ICU. We were moved to ICU and told that my husband was not a high risk patient, he had no heart health history, wouldn't die that night from cancer and was what they called a low maintence patient. He was told to rest well, get a good night's sleep. The doctor turned off the light, closed the door and left. That night he had a heart attack unbeknownst to anyone until the next day when yet another heart test was done and it showed up on the results.
The chemo dose was reduced to half on the first cycle of chemo then we were sent to another hospital which was to see if he needed stints. We went on a Friday morning at 6 a.m. to Memorial Hermann Hospital. At about 4 p.m. the doctor took me to a room with a computer monitor to show me the results of the tests performed on him.
He was still in a hospital bed hooked up to all the life support machines and monitors, waiting in the hallway nearby. The doctor informed me that he had not had any procedure performed, no stints put in. He then went on to explain what we were looking at on the computer. The heart specialist said that my spouse was not a candidate for stints, that he required open heart surgery because he had blockage on 4 main arteries. Not only that, but that he did NOT know that he had nothing done.
We then proceeded to explain it all to him, he began immediately having severe chest pain and was rushed into an emergency operating room. The hospital called surgeons back to the hospital to perform the emergency procedure. It was after Midnight when I saw him again. He was given several pints of blood.
One week later we were taken by ambulance from Memorial Hermann Hospital back to M.D. Anderson to resume chemotherapy but it was full strength.
Including the first reduced dosage of chemo, he has taken 19 seperate 'rounds' of various types of chemo. The hospital stays have varied in length from one week to a month.
Perhaps I should also let you know that during that time he lost his job because he couldn't return to work. The employee health insurance monthly rate was raised from a managable amount to over $1200 monthly which could not be continued with no income.
He then began using his VA Benefits for health care because he was still in horrific pain, still had cancer and was by then told that he was no longer a stage 2 but was now a stage 4.
The last chemotherapy was as recent as this month, February. The doctor had him take a 2 drug cycle which lasted a total of 2 days with the entire hospital stay of 12 days. We discharged February 19. The doctor made it clear that they have nothing more to offer him and will no longer try to save his life. He is to enjoy 'quality time with his family.' This is NOT QUALITY TIME!!
He has lymphs in the left linguinal area and the abdominal area. There is no cancer nor enlarged lymphs in any organ nor bones. A PET Scan was done during this last hospital stay, the doctors were instructed to make a hard copy of the findings for us but did not ever do it. It is my understanding that the lymphs have increased dramatically in the groin area but only slightly in the abdomin area. There was only one new lymph which is near the colon but not on nor in it. That lymph was said to be small in size.
He must use something which does not cause swelling when die off ocurrs. So many of the alternative methods of healing cancer causes swelling or are much too slow to be of assistance in our situation.
The prescription meds being used are 60 mg morphine, twice daily and 100 mcg fentanyl patch also for pain. I understand that also complicates the issue of finding something that will work well, quickly, and with no die off swelling.
The other unfortunate factor is that we are now living on a fixed income which makes it nearly impossible to buy most products and supplements to do the majority of alternative cancer protocols.
We have been married 44 years. I can't imagine living life without him.
Is there anything that can be obtained that will work quickly, not cause swelling as die off happens that we might afford?
Thank you for allowing me to post, taking your valuable time reading it, and for any suggestions you might offer.
Have the doctors given you an estimate of the time they believe he has remaining? ... ... There are several things you might do, even on a very limited budget - but much depends on how much time is available for natural and alternative items to work. ... ... The ozone suggestion is a very good one, particularly to help eliminate the cancer if there is not much time thought to be remaining. However, there are many other things which you should also do to make sure the cancer is eliminated and does not return. Examples include: ... ... Eating the flaxseed/cottage cheese combo which is an integral ...
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I know this is DQ's speciality but still - great post! I couldn't agree more with the Budwig Protocol Cottage cheese/FSO and juicing.
Several years ago I had a colorectal tumor that was so large I was almost completely clogged and seemingly had no choice but to submit myself to the colon surgery, chemo and radiation.
I started Budwig at the 11th hour and gave it a week to work before heading to the hospital (even though I heard it often makes tumors larger initially). Here I am years later with the tumor still there but shrunken to enjoy normal bowel movements. And any occasional colorectal pain I have instantly disappears with my daily Budwig goop.
Since I started fresh vegetable juicing twice a day I've had so much vitality increase that I not only never feel sick (unless I have a flu or something) but look and feel younger and more energetic that most healthy people my age.
Of course I do many of the usual curezone protocols also like Iodine supplementation, oil pulling, rebounding, chelation, regular sauna and steam room etc. But it's the Budwig and Gersonesque vegetable juicing that have had the huge initial impact.
And whatever else you do I agree with DQ that Budwig protocol and juicing (Gerson) is a solid foundational place to start and often all you'll need. In fact once you start with them, you'll do more to improve your health with increasing your compliance rather than adding in all kinds of other alternative therapies.
Also as someone else has said, the spiritual angle is a VERY important. Whether it's nurturing your soul with nights out with good friends, belief in religion, or my personal favorite - taking long walks in nature chanting mantras or listening to music or books on tape - if its good for your soul do it. Yoga, meditation, Rosary beads, a night out at the theater? YES YES YES and YES.
With all the concentrated spiritual pampering your husband could find like I have that these are paradoxically some of the most enjoyable years in life.
Additionally, this article outlines a protocol for enzyme therapy that was developed using the work of Beard, Kelley and Gonzalez--The poster above used bromlaine, the wobenzyme-N product is perhaps more complete:
It sounds like your husband is understandably scared and feeling abandoned by doctors. If he can read these things as well to build his hope and confidence it would really be beneficial. You can read to him, and provide constant positive and uplifting material. I would get him on as many prayer chains as you can as well. Both local and non-local prayer have been researched and proven to have miraculous healing effects. Dr. Dossey wrote "Healing Words" here's his site:
there is something called the sun, you might know about it if you ever walk outside and look up. it is no big deal, just the source of all life on earth, really no biggie. without the sun there would be no life.
then we have this guy marshal, who has no medical training whatsoever, not that it matters, who advises people to stay out of the sun. in other words to avoid the source of all life on earth.
That's true about the sun being a good healer for most people, but MP is for people whose body's are overcome by bacteria, virus' and microbes that block the hormone D receptors (VDR or vitamin D receptors) and allow virus' to take over immune cells. (I call it hormone D because that's what it is.)
Cell receptors are like key holes and when certain things fit in them it's said they have an 'affinity' for that receptor. Well, bacteria has a higher affinity to those receptors than hormone D, but it doesn't fit in, so it blocks them from being turned on and becoming active by hormone D. People become flooded with "vitamin D"- a feel-good immune supressing steroid hormone.
Hormone D is a steroid hormone, so people feel better taking it, but it doesn't help them get well, it actually keeps them sick.
Marshall figured out that benicar, olmesartin, turns on the D receptors allowing transcription of 913 genes, and the immune systems to work, killing bacteria and virus', ultimately bringing the body back to homeostasis.
As one article skeptical of Marshall noted, his views that people should avoid vitamin D and avoid sunlight run counter to the overwhelming bulk of qualified opinion. None of his theories about vitamin D have been proven in vitro, and especially not in vivo. Sometimes a lone wolf who turns out to be against the overwhelming tide of opinions and evidence to the contrary is correct, but I don't think Marshall is such a wolf.
Convincing people about Vitamin D dangers is vitally important to attract people to Marshall's highly controversial protocol, and thus vitally important to the profits he and his fellow board members with vested interests in the protocol depend on. It is Marshall and his group who have authored numerous articles and papers against Vitamin D and in support of his protocol. Proper scrutiny reveals them to be self-serving articles where they cherry-picked and misrepresented studies and facts to support their premise about vitamin D and thus their protocol.
To put is succinctly, most things you see which support the Marshall protocol originate from Marshall and his group and boil down to much more salesmanship than science.
For more on Marshall, his protocol and his cohorts:
I can understand how important this issue is to you! You seem very determined. All one needs to do, is ask his Dr to check Vit D levels with his next blood test. I certainly didn't think, that Vit D was any part of my problem, I walk outdoors 5x a week! Imagine my surprise, when I tested at almost no Vit D in my system! I was started on a super high dose, then I tapered down. My doctor calls me many times a year to tell me I am Vit D deficient!!
Some Dr's are now saying we need much more Vit D, then previously thought. 5-10,000 IU per day 'may'
be a more needed dose.
I am certainly not condoning some 'diet'. But I do believe everyone should check their Vit D levels, and re-check them often, if low on D.
I dont mean to be critical and maybe I'm too set in my ways but why didn't you immediately start using the herbs and zapper to kill the flukes? This may slow down the progress of the lymphoma and give you more time to decide on further treatment. I did a search for "lymphoma herbs" and this was one of the results
Herbs For Lymphoma | LIVESTRONG.COM
Herbs For Lymphoma. In lymphoma cancer, the cells of the immune system change and grow out of control or order. These abnormal cells form too much tissue and become a ...
Has your husband had complete testing for Celiac Disease? This autoimmune disease if untreated, leaves people more succeptable to lymphomas. If the tests are too pricy have him start a strict gluten free diet, no wheat, barley, rye.
I have a 12 & 8 yo stepdaughters both have the same mother. I have been married to my husband for 4 years and have a 22 month old lil girl. My 12yo has ADHD and has had numerous behavior issues of lying, stealing, sneaking around, etc. During the summer we have the girls every other week. During the school year every other weekend. My husband works full time and I work 50hrs every 2 weeks. When I am working my baby is either with my Mom or her daddy. Both step daughters are involved in the care of their sister with helping out when need be. Recently we started letting the 12 yo babysit from 30mins-2 hrs when me and my husbands hours overlap and I have a neighbor who checks in on them and is available to them. Sunday morning the girls were all in the living room together having breakfast and watching TV. My husband was still sleeping and I was getting ready for the days activities. I went to get something to drink and found my 8yo in the LR. I asked where her sisters were and she said in the bedroom. I noticed the bathroom light was on and went to turn it off. I peaked in the bedroom and seen my 12yo straddled over my baby girating(sp) herself on my baby's leg. My baby had her PJ top on and her diaper was wide open and laying under her. I stood and watched for a minute to verify what I was seeing. 12yo was "going to town" on my baby's bare leg as if she has rubbing her privates on her in a sexua| way. My baby was just laying there looking at her. When she started to whimper and fuss I said " ______ what are you doing?" She jumped off quickly and defensively as if she had been doing something wrong. I took my daughter and went outside for a minute (to smoke and take in what I just saw) I went in and talked to my husband. His response was he would talk to their mother. I made a phone call to a friend to get her advise. My husband did talk to the 12yo and she said the baby was kicking at her so she was trying to hold her down. So I called her in there and said I wasn't comfortable with what I saw and it was not acceptable. That we would talk about it more later (we were getting ready to leave and I wanted her mother to be included) I explained to her for now she was not to change the baby's diapers or be alone with her. We went on about our activities and when I dropped them off to their Mom I tried to talk privately with her. She stated my husband already called her and snottily said what's your view...because my child wouldn't do something like that. I explained that I stood at the door and watched her do it! She told me to get to my point because she was getting pissed. I told her then we don't need to have this conversation. I just thought I could come to you as a mother and try to come up with a plan to help _____, but I guess that's not gonna happen. I stood up and stated my priority is to protect my child, she stated so was hers, I said well your child needs counseling and then I left. She has full physical custody, my husband never tried for joint although he has been very involved in their lives from the beginning. He pays his support and is there for them 100%. My husband also has a very dosile(sp) personality. He doesn't like conflict and doesn't like to have to deal with stuff, especially between me and the girls mom. So I'm at a loss here on what to do. I know I can do everything in my power to protect my daughter. Safety guidelines have been put into place. But how can I make sure my 12yo gets the help that she needs???? I understand what its like to be a curious preteen , and with music videos, lyrics, and TV pushing sexua| stuff in everyone's face its almost impossible to keep them away from it, especially being in dual homes. The other factor is the ADHD and impulse control. And lastly the question of if someone has molested her to make her think that's OK to do it to her baby sister, and then what about her 8yo sister...who's to say she hasn't done it to her. Our 8yo is very quiet , shy, and a loner. There's just so many factors!!! I considered calling Cps because of their mothers uncooperativeness thinking that would be the only way I could guarantee she would get the help she needs. However with that it could make some innocent curiosity turn my 12 yo get a record and make her a sex offender. They could also make it so she couldn't be a part of her sisters life and I don't want that either. She's not a bad child, she just has some issues. I am only one person, I fear my marriage will be put on the line for this if my husband can't get on board and help me make sure his daughter gets help. I love those girls, but my main priority is to protect my baby. What do I do?!?!?! Also about a year ago there was a Cps investigation involving her mother after she whooped our 12 yo with an extension cord "to keep her from getting molested" I have spoke with my mother and a couple friends for advice...but I'm just so lost on what to do. Please offer advice or share your expierences!!!
Momindistress, I am very sorry of your situation. I am NOT a professional, but you are describing what sounds like Oppositional Defiance Disorder and ALL parties involved must be on the same page and in complete cooperation with professional counselling therapy. There is no medication, sugery, or wishful thinking that is going to "disappear" the genetic and/or environmental impact that this child has experienced.
Having typed that, I don't understand your husband's hesitation (or negligence) in seeking joint or shared custody of his offspring. Unless there is some parental disorder that would damage a child, parental cooperation is vital in raising an emotionally healthy child.
From your own description, your baby is AT RISK when left alone with your step-daughter and has most likely already been abused to some degree ~ emotionally, physically, or sexually. She was obviously masturbating herself on your baby and, at age 12, her actions are NOT simple "exploration" or harmless expression.
It would be a very wise decision to disallow this child to be left alone with your baby, at any time under ANY circumstances. It also may be advisable to examine the dynamics of your marital relationship ~ just saying.
I just read your post, again and you mentioned that the father of this 12 year old child leaves YOU to iron out the issues with the child's mother. He may seem "docile" and avoids drama, but he is clearly triangulating you in a situation that is 100% his responsibility.
The mother of this child may seem nuts and in denial, but it is a rare situation when divorced parents put their issues aside for the best interests of their offspring. That you attempted to discuss the behavior with the mother and subsequently met with hostility only further indicates that this is the responsibility of the father and that you are assuming HIS obligations as your own. You do not have the power, responsibility, or obligation to get this child the help that she needs, unfortunately.
I would strongly suggest that you read up on passive/agvressive behavior and how to manage it and focus your energy on your baby and her well being, as well as your own.
Thank you so much! I did some crazy Google searches and came up with some articles and found one on here that you had responded to and I loved the responses and advice you gave. I chose to post in this site hoping you could give women insight to my situation also. My husband was never married to their Mom. In fact me and him were in a solid live together 2 year relationship and then were apart for 10 years and that's when he had the girls. It was always a very up down relationship with him and the girls mom and very on and off. I am white, so is she and my husband is black. She is very "ghetto" which for me is difficult to deal with. My husband never had a father and was raised by his mom and grandma until his mom passed from cancer during his junior year of high school. My husband is hard working dedicated provider. He does not drink, smoke, or do any type of drugs. He has always been a very quiet reserved person . I however am a very organized, outspoken, have to have control of the situation individual. I was raised in a 2 parent christian home until my parents divorced my senior year. I had an awesome dad who could fix anything. People always came to him for advice. He passed in 98. I work at a mens high behavior group home, been there 7 years. I have a huge support system of friends and family, my husband does not. He pretty much has no one but me. I haven't had the chance to have a conversation about the aftermath of this and our plans on what needs to happen. Hoping tonight as I had today off. I am almost 40. I had gastric bypass surgery and got pregnant with my lil miracle baby 8 months later. I tried for years and years to have a baby with no success. So she really is my life. And I care dearly about my stepdaughters and their futures...but this is my flesh and blood child I carried for 9 months. I will protect her with my life!!! So no matter how much I love my husband and step kids... her safety WILL come first. I never ever ever in my wildest thoughts ever imagined myself in this situation. I'm a very hands on attentive mother. I'm still shaking my head as to how this happened! I'm working on our safety measures for the one evening the girls will be here with their dad while I'm at work and at this point I'm thinking my baby will be staying with my mom or her godmother. My husband is also older and out of shape and tends to put a lot of the responsibilities on the girls when I'm not here. And that just can't happen anymore. there's never been a court order custody or visitation issues because they've just always worked together. But since we have gotten back together and got married she has had some very childish and selfish outbursts. We have went round and round about me wanting this stuff in writing and for him to get at least joint custody cause she loves to play the I have full custody and will do what I want card.its just all so very overwhelming and frustrating!
First of all, you need to make a connection to the step daughter so you can talk to her. She is still very young and if you blame her straight forward she will become defensive and secretive not to mention, she will become more bitter..You need to spend time with her on a regular basis. Do not put that girl’s trouble on meds and therapy yet as you can help her, right? She basically needs to learn some life skills that she missed to learn due to , sorry to highlight that, family education. If you are be able to get connection with her( after a numerous hours of spending together and doing different things)just talk about what you have seen she was doing with baby. Describe it in words with no emotional exclamations. Just present a fact. Then ask her gently, what she thinks she was trying to do? Basically you need to introduce her to her sexual feelings that she probably started to have in an intense level. Then you need to discuss the ways to express her sexual needs in appropriate way. You also need to bring up the subject of learning the ability to resist temptation, in other words, learn to do right things while ignoring wrong thoughts coming to our mind and urging us to act on them for the personal satisfaction. She needs to learn how to redirect her wrong urges.. If you have more questions, you can freely ask here...
What this girl needs now is an adult who is a role model to her, who is concerned about her: her diet, her regime, , her emotional state. Someone, who she can talk to. It is not easy to be that role model but before adults label her with ADHD or OCD person they need to connect and see that she is more than just ADHD teenager.
You have said, you live with her dad. I can imagine what tremendous stress she was going through before and after divorce her parents had. Is her mother in a good emotional balance nowÉ
So, I just made some videos to share with you all about what happened to me... How I became paralyzed and bedridden for a year and how I found my way out.
It is a series of 8 videos. I've streamed them together in a playlist, but I'm not seeing an option of how to make the playlist public, so I've put a link to the next video on the bottom of each one. They total about 50 minutes.
(Bedridden, inability to ask for help, brushing and flossing while almost totally paralyzed, neurological symptoms from laying on sides too long (thoracic outlet syndrome), importance of caretaker's role in helping patients to stretch arms open, vision impairment, furrowed brow caused me to not be able to open my eyes (forgot to mention that!), burning hands, burning arms, burning brain, hiatal hernia- belching, weight loss to 90 lbs.)
(Paralysis, out of breath from tiny movements, isolated or generalized throbbing feeling, potty chair next to bed (no longer able to walk to bathroom), I didn't mention this but it look three people to bathe me and I took a wheel chair to get to the bathroom, hopeless/hope, unable to speak)
(No house calls for those who need it; sensitive to sound, sensitive to light (blinds closed, lights covered with towels), sensitive to stress; ER would not keep me or run any further tests, fire department had to come to get me back in the bed, in desperate need of proper caretakers, no money, level of suffering akin to being in a concentration camp, problem solving alone, conversation with neighbor- look for holistic/integrative doctor, first ray of hope, appearance of my trio of angels that saved my life: a massage therapist, a frequency therapist and an applied kinesiologist chiropractor.)
(Angels willing to come for free, miracles and parallels, neck dysfunction symptoms, frequency therapy with the harp, frequencies corresponding with different areas of the body, chiropractic applied kinesiology, laying flat in the bed, snow angel, slow improvements.)
(Finally able to sit up and travel in a wheel chair, went to neurologist, discovered herniated disks in neck, chiropractor fixed hiatal hernia, explanation of seizure- like symptoms/crashes, occipital fixation, head half off atlas, decompression therapy at Palmer college for herniated disks, six months since bedridden now, can walk short distances now, can speak, contractured hands from thoracic outlet syndrome, stenosing tenosynovitis in index fingers, achilles tendinitis, shoulder brace, educating people, changes that need to be made for severely ill people, and gratitude for those that are helping to support my recovery.)
I think my next video is gonna be called "Four months worth of boogers". I forgot to mention that part.... When I started to be able to pick my nose again, wow! What a special treat!
I have not been on this forum to much anymore. Only from time to time.
I just watched all 8 your videos. All I can say is you are amazing.
And, God certainly has a plan. He has sent very special people to your door with a start of healing of hands, mind and soul.
I am just to happy for your progress.
I can't imagine the extent of your illness when it was at it's worst. But, I can attend that I have probably been to half way point, as you have, but not bed ridden.
Please keep us up dated on you progress.
I have had various improvements in some areas and worse in other areas now.
My mood and anxiety levels were always the worst and that have made sustantial progress just in the past 2 months.
As well as a slight increase in strength and indurance.
But, my muscles have been so weak for for lone ( 3 years) of vertually almost no exercise, that now as I slowly increase exercise, I am experiencing chronic muscle soreness along with joint problems and stiffness, almost like arthritic symptoms.
I also developed plantar fasciitis in both feet, moreso in one over the other ( bad heel pain) this us usally caused by runners in many cases, but also from inactivey, thus in my case relating to very weak leg muscle to support the stress caused to the plantar fascia and the achillies tendon. So now I'm aggressively tackling this along with the adrenals.
I started nutritional balancing 3 months ago and after starting to take potassium, increased magnesium and vitamin A. . . it took a while but this has helped.
The 5-HTP took about 6 months to work better, along with being off Zoloft for over a year now. It took that long to get that nasty drug out of my system and get neurological transmittors back in sink.
Thanks for sharing your story. I can tell it was hard to even talk about. Quite understandable. I don't like to talk about my darkest days with my AF, as it still stresses me.
But, I'm glad neurologically to see such progress.
That's okay sweetie! Have you tried massage? I have massage therapy three days per week now (some people are helping for free) and it is slowly starting to help my muscle and joint pain. Also, a book called "The TriggerPoint Therapy Workbook" is really excellent for teaching a person self massage with tools like the theracane. This book has been a godsend. Please check it out!
Sorry for the question, I didn't get a chance to watch all your videos.
If you are Have you tried near infrared? it can have incredible results on stuff like this. And it's really not too expensive either. And I'm not talking about those Far infrared Panels that they put in sometimes. Forget that. You need NEAR infrared.
Cold laser therapy is supposed to be the top of the line for pain and inflammation, which I've read.
Tried one treatment on my plantar fasciitis and it helped 20%.
Insurance does not cover it for me. So cost is a major consideration. One treatment was $45 and I need to have this done at least twice a week, but can't afford it.
What cold laser machine or device are you using Beth?
Is it a hand held one that touches the skin, or the big MLS cold laser machine, that does not touch the skin and directs the red beam of light to the skin surface?
Or did you purchase a laser device to use at home?
Thank you Beth.
Will wait to see what you find out.
I've been having chronic soreness and stiffness with all my muscular system now.
Did notice a slight increase in energy with added potassium.
But, to, I also had been titally inactive the past 2.5 years along with catabolism, plus weight gain
( so I know my thyroid is greatly effected because or the adrenals, or vs. versa ) as you lost weight, I gained, even with thyroid tests all normal. In the beginning though, I had high reverse T3, which was caused by high cortisol and anxiety.
I can go out a little. It's waaaaaay better than it was. I was severely EMF sensitive for 2.5 years and that is gone, but I do still have some sound sensitivity and I do get tired more easily than most. I sleep for about 11-12 hours per night, so that's a lot.
I can go out to a store or a little get together and do fine, but I have to have quiet time in between socializing, otherwise I start to feel irritable and sensitive.
I turn the lights off at 9am (light candles) and try to go to bed at 12. If I don't do that then I don't sleep well.
Those are the main AF related symptoms that remain. So, I still feel like I would benefit from more adrenal support, but to be truthful, I'm sort of afraid of changing much, after what I went through as a result of the ACE drops. (But, I want to remind everyone that they are helping and would have been fine if I had known that I needed to take potassium right away).
I'm going to start meditating again and I'm thinking about doing some coffee enemas to see what I can effect from that vantage point.
Thank you for watching my videos Ricky! I sincerely hope that they reach the people who will benefit from them.
Hi Beth, does your chiro feel that your health issues all relate to your herniated discs? I have an Atlas subluxation, several her iated and bulding discs in neck and back, reversing of the natural C curve and minor scoliosis. I found this all out through a NUCCA chiro. I went to NUCCA for around theee months and there was definite improvement in things like all my dizziness and motion sickness went away, but still struggled with my other health issues. I had to stop going as it was so expensive. I found a new chiro who though not a NUCCA chiro, is supposedly a miracle worker. I plan on seeing him soon. My biggest issues right now are a majorly messed up stomach and almost non-existent digestion, dizziness, anxiety attacks, reflux, have to sleep sitting up, which I know has made my neck worse, gas and bloating and a whole laundry list of other symptoms. NUCCA chiro said all my symptoms could be being caused by the atlas subluxation. Did you have any digestion issues and have they been improvong at all since you started treating your neck? Thanks!
Yes, definitely! I find that when my neck is acting up, my digestive issues act up as well... Especially belching and bloating. My chiro says "anything can cause anything". There are nerves that run from the neck that control the diaphram. I think that might be what is happening to me. Anyhow, you might have a hiatal hernia if your diaphram is spastic from issues with your neck. That can definitely cause reflux, gas and bloating. I belched constantly and had to sleep sitting up too.
So the first chiro didn't fix your atlas subluxation? That should be an easy fix by someone who knows what to do, although, you may have to have it treated over and over until it sticks. Same with a hiatal hernia. Did you watch my videos all the way through?
Dizziness can definitely be related to your neck issues, especially if your sternocleidomastoid is spasming. Are you working with a massage therapist?
I just looked over some of your older posts... Did your vision issues improve as well with the chiropractic treatment that you received?
If you feel like chatting, please feel free to PM me your phone number. I see a lot of parallels between what you've described and what happened to me and I'd love to share any insight that might be helpful.
My vision never improved, but I definitely think that there could be a connection. My husband used to be in the military and we had to move a lot, which means I did all the packing. While he was gone to Iraq for a year, my health, while not good, was much better. When he got back, I had to get all of our stuff out of storage, get it unpacked, etc. before he got home. We were living in TX at that time. Though I had movers to lift the furniture, heavy boxes, etc., they were way behind schedule, so I helped them, out and was doing heavy lifting along with them. It was not long after that, that I suddently had to get glasses for the first time in my life, was back going to chiropractors, and started to develop asthma out of nowhere, and my already crappy health got significantly worse. I also never used to have seasonal allergies but all of a sudden developed them living there.
In my childhood, I had a whiplash when my neck locked doing a summersault. I also blacked out when I pulled a mirror over on top of myself as a kid annnnnd, my dad dropped me accidentally onto my head, on a cement deck as a toddler. Later as a teen, I had a bad car accident, where my car was t-boned and pushed sideways about 30 feet. I'm sure my head flew sideways when that happened. So it seems like I have had a lot of trauma to my neck/head. My mom also told me when I was born, they had to use forceps to get me out. How long did it take working on your neck to get the adjustments to finally hold? I would love to talk to you, but my reflux makes my throat so raw that talking can be hard for me.
Different adjustments took varying amounts of time. The atlas subluxation took right away. I've only had to have it adjusted again once more recently. My hiatal hernia took maybe 4 months of regular care and massage to get rid of the trigger points and adhesions in my abdomen.
I understand the throat pain too. That was part of the reason why I couldn't talk. Maybe I could talk to your husband and you could whisper to him? Just an idea... Otherwise, we can keep talking here. That's no problem. Or by email?
I'm glad there is a forum for IHSS, but it looks like no one has posted for quite sometime, so I'm hoping to get an answer. I have not received my time sheet for the last part of November. I called my county and they said that Sacramento just sent them out on 11/28, but I would have thought I would have received mine by now. I have called my county, but they just tell me to wait. My questions are, is there anyone else still waiting for their time sheet and is does anyone know who I can call in Sacramento to get ask when they sent them out?
Call your county and ask for payroll. Also ask for the person who does the payroll for your countys name. Then call tha county and ask for that person specifically. Leave a message foracall back if no one answers. I have found it os a good idea if you can to know xactly who is helpful in payroll andwho is not.
The people inpayroll for IHSS usually have a pretty good handle as to what is usually going on.
good post! i don't think enough people have *ever* considered this--that one harms oneself instantly and for "always", so long as, and while one's believing that self and others are separate. naturally, all that is an illusion...
It's so obvious! Yet, the simple is the opposite - always, of what the world teaches.
I find ho-oponopono to be wondrously healing, as well. And the blessings are equally for self and any perceived other. People miss so much grace and goodness, it's really heart-breaking, holding onto blame or any unresolved pains or ideas of same.
Another thing people don't think of is self-forgiveness. Often there's forgiveness of all others, and a real wish to be in union, and yet, the self-recrimination is sent deeper, and is that much harder to find.
That reminds me of one of my personal experiences with forgiveness. At
about age 13 my 25 year old sister-in-law (who I related to more as a sister
than an in-law) falsely accused me of sexually molesting her 5 year old
daughter. At that time my SIL was divorced for about a year from my
brother who was serving in the Navy in the Pacific in WWII, and his daughters -
the 5 year old and a 3 year old, were living with my parents and myself because
my brother had gained custody of them in the divorce. The accusation was
made in about 5 pages of a hand written note that was personally delivered to my
father, who after reading it in explicit but false detail handed it to me to
read. I was devastated, and I was angry and hateful. My dad didn't
believe the charges, my mother did. My nieces continued to live with us
until about two or three years later when my brother returned home after the war
and remarried, but my hate never diminished.
In those days after the accusations I had a difficult time getting to sleep
but I would use that period of time to think up a new way I could kill my
sister-in-law, every night for eons. If I couldn't think of a new way to
kill her, I'd just kill her in one of my previously thought up torturous
ways. During this time I suspected that my mother and all my extended
family hated me for what I "had done" and I withdrew into myself and
created a facade of a brick wall that I thought that no one could
penetrate. I also refrained from making friends - particularly females
during this time. I eventually served my own military service, did find a
woman that I married and began a family. After many, many life experiences
and creating a career at about age 35, I had some thoughts out of the blue one
day. I recognized that hating my SIL was irrational and I instantly
forgave her and it felt as if a load had been lifted from my shoulders.
Fast forward to more than 50 years after my SIL had falsely accused me after
I had learned and been practicing meditation and during those meditations
learned to really forgiver her - and myself, which I did over time. It was
not a one day occurrence. From my niece (the younger one, the one I'd been
accused of molesting died after creating a family of 5 children) I got the
address of my SIL and sent her a small greeting card which was a simple hello,
nothing more. Within three days of sending the card I got a telephone call
from her (I had not included that in the card, she got it from a directory) and
the first words out of her mouth were "I lied about you. My mother
made me do it to get custody of the girls." That caused me a bit of
anger because she had never told my parents or anyone else about her lie.
However, I was glad to chat with her because prior to the accusation we had been
very good friends. The call led to her visiting me a couple of weeks
later, which was from a distance of about 400 miles. The face to face
visit was invaluable and I learned a lot from it. I found her to be very
shallow and childish - something that a 13 year old could easily relate to, so
from my new perspective could see how she did such a thing. That does not
diminish the friendship that I had with her during my puberty, I still value it
a great deal.
I believe in completing cycles with relationships. My original
forgiveness was the completion of one cycle. My meditations and
forgiveness of myself for the withdrawal that I'd done was the completion of
another cycle, and the telephone call and face to face meeting with SIL was the
completion of still more cycles. SIL has also been my prototype lesson on forgiveness.
I've learned that I've had to forgive many, many people in my life, particularly
That is a terrible thing to be accused of. I was accused likewise by a girl that wanted revenge on my daughter who had broken up a friendship with her.
I ended up in prison and my family was bankrupted by the court costs.
I had a terrible time forgiving her and a terrible time forgiving the court system as I discovered them to be corrupt and more evil that the people they put away.
It took me over 2 years before I could again sleep a full 8 hours. I found relief when a friend sent me a book on EFT while I was in prison. The relief was instant and I'm so grateful that the book was sent to me.
Mum passed away from COPD on Monday in hospital. I have been her carer for nearly 7 years since she was diagnosed with COPD. I contracted a Virus about 2 weeks ago and it went straight to my chest ( I have Asthma, Allergies,Chronic fatigue and a weak immune system). ... ... Mum said to me If I get your virus you know it will kill me. The a few days before she passed away she sneezed once and we knew she caught my virus. It went straight to her chest like mine. We called the Doc to the house and she gave mum a prescription for powerful antibiotics and said if you get worse go to hospital. ... ... A d ... [This message is long. Retrieve the whole message]
I am so sorry for your loss. My sister has COPD so this is very troubling for me to see such a loss. Ambulance drivers are stupid and maybe they did contribute to your mom's loss but in the end it was her destiny. Nobody dies one minute before their time. If it was not in the ambulance, it was in the hospital.
I am sure she is in a better place. Yes, unconscious people can hear you. So any words you spoke would of been heard by your mom. Even if you did not convey your love for her, I believe she would know anyway.
You could not save your mom because it was not meant to be. Life is hard for us all. I remember the day when I was standing in the rain with no roof over my head. I had no way to go and Allah provided for me and today I live a very good life but it did take time.
It is a time for you to ask God for help and pray for your mother. I find it amazing that people are sad because a love one has died. For surely if the loved one dies and goes to heaven to be with angels and God, I would not be sad.
I know, because I lost my husband and I was not sad. It was a beautiful death and the angels took him home. Like your mom he was unconscious too.
God bless you Uly, Ask God for help and he will answer you. Pray that you can see your mom and hopefully you will.
If you want people to help you, ask nicely and people will come running to help.
I understand how you feel. I have lost faith also in a lot of things and human beings. I find comfort in my dog ..the only person i can trust.
Your mom is in a better place. You will see her again.
there is a woman dr. kilde who wrote a book "we don't die"..i watched her video on youtube. she has fascinating stories of how she knows there is life after death.
I understand how you are going through health issues. I am too. Sometimes i just want to end it all..i mean just end my life. it's just too much sadness.
I hope that everything works out for you. you seem like a nice person. you have a dog and a sister who love you!
Bless your heart Uly. I offer you my deepest and most heartfelt condolensces.
Yes, a person's hearing is the last thing to go. And yes, one can hear everything going on around them when they are unconscious. I personally experienced this when I was in a coma for a day and a half in November of 2005.
Regardless of what we do to care for a loved one, upon their departure, it is normal to feel that we have not done enough. I did the very same thing upon my mother's death and I still carry some guilt as to what I could have, should have done. Maybe....... just maybe.......... The thing is we did all we could and we did it with all the love in our hearts. Realistically, we could have done no more. Whether you told her you loved her or not, she knew of your love for her. You would not have cared for her in the way you did if you did not love her. Love is just not words, its actions. In fact, actions speak louder than words.
As to what went on with the paramedics. sigh....... I went through several experiences where doctors did not make the right call and I knew enough of the condition where I had to confront them and insist on the right protocol. Keep in mind that back then I knew nothing with regard to natural healing, so I did the best I could. Even then, doctors were negligent informing me at times that her breathing was fine when I knew for a fact that it was not. My mom also died because of COPD. In my opinion, the paramedics should not have carried her, especially if she had serious congestion going on. Where was the gurney? And we will never know what went on in the ambulance. My own mother died because of the negligence of aids bathing her. After I had specifically told them to leave her in bed, when I went to the kitchen to prepare a breathing treatment they carried her to the bathroom and this caused an immediate massive heart attack that took her life.
It is true that a viral infection is very dangerous to a person with COPD. Yet, her catching the virus from you was not your fault. It is just life. You did all you could.
Uly, your mom is not gone, she was reborn into another life. Furthermore, she knows how much you love her. Death does not break the bonds of love.
I hope that you are able to locate the missing documents, but please bear in mind that this has no bearing on her. No matter what goes on in this plane, she is at peace.
Please do not lose faith in natural healing, as it does work. You just have to discover what works for you. Keep in mind, you have been and are still under a lot of emotional stress and this affects our physical bodies. I always say, if the emotional root of the problem is not resolved, no matter what we do, we will not realize total healing. You are only 34 years old, you have your whole life ahead of you. If it makes you feel any better, my thirty's was the worst time of my life. I suffered from chronic fatigue, anxiety, panic and I thought I would never get well. For me, it took quite a few years but I did achieve total healing. In my case, the basis for these health problems was emotional. Yes, and with these conditions very often a conventional doctor cannot find a thing wrong with you. Very frustrating.
With regard to your worries, try not to project. This can result in "what if" thinking and "what if's" seldom materialize. Take everything one day at a time. There are always solutions. Can you stay with your sister until you are on your feet, or can you get some type of government assistance? Ask around, investigate, there are always solutions.
I know that life seems hopeless right now, but I promise you it's not. Just take everything one step at a time. And take time out to grieve. This is a part of healing.
I sincerely hope I have been able to lift at least part of the burden in your heart.
Hi Uly, I was searching for something and noticed your post and figured I would put this here just in case it helps.
I've spent a couple years trying to overcome a few things myself, and settled on a mineral-balancing program (with extra help from other little methods). My symptoms have been getting better over the last year, especially my energy levels (no more fatigue, falling asleep during the day).
It's been nearly 7 weeks since mum passed away. I am still here. My pc blew up shortly after I wrote my 1st post. I have just recently got it fixed. Cost nearly a $1000 to fix...something I didn't need!
Thankyou to everyone who posted. I am very greatfull for your kind words :)
Life has been hard since mum's passing. I am naturally a thinker and curious about all aspects of life. Living now alone gives me too much time to think,so I have started to meditate again. I was gearing up for a career in natural therapies and healing but I just don't have the confidence in it for now...maybe in the future?
The government is trying to force me back to work when I am too sick to work. I am trying to be positve, and manifest my future and ask for guidence from the universe.
I believed Fully, to a point where I thought I knew with out a doubt healing and spiritual matters. People used to come to me for advice! Now I am questioning things.Maybe this is all part of my learning? One thing I am leaning is to have compassion for everyone. I could have treat mum nicer while she was alive, not that I treated her bad...just little silly things got us in to arguments. Then in 30mins everything was back to normal.My teachers said If you have mastered yourself other people will not effect you. I use to let people effect me, now I learning to stay calm and not have to be right all the time. What a gift for my mum to give me.
I am determined to change my life around. Use my mums passing as a source of strength! I am going to try to be of service to humanity, animal life, to the earth and to the universe....I don't know how it will happen...I will just have to trust the cosmic.
As for the Ambulance guys doing the wrong thing. It does look like carring her wasn't right. My siters husband's friend is an ambulance driver and he said the way they did it was wrong. Also my sister is a channel / Psychic and she got a message that the ambulance guys hurt her arm and told her to shut up!! :(
If it wasn't for My dog and his love and humour, My sister, Andre rieu's music, Ceaser Millan the dog whisper and his Tv show, and a few other people, I may not have made it thru this!
Luella - I hope your right that people can her once unconcious...that would make me very happy to know she could hear my siter and me. We haven't found the missing documents yet :(
To the poster about Dr Kilde...I will watch the vids on youtube, Thanks for Info :)
Sara Thankyou for your post :)Mum said before she passed away that she would find a way to contact me...hopefully she will soon. I have had some strange things like all her fans and air conditioner turned off. Anyone who knows my knows how she needed her Fans and Air con in summer to help her. They have never turned off before and aince that day have never turned off again.
Spo - I will read the article, always interested in new health articles. Thanks.
To the people who private messaged me, I will try to get to your messgaes soon :)
This is very sad. I am very sorry for your loss. I can understand your annoyance at the ambulance drivers. Ambulance drivers play a critical role during this time. My condolences is with you. http://www.horizonamb2011.com/services
My mother died of a copd age 56 years old. she did suffer it was a very painful death i will not water it down. She would have died anyway but what caused her death to come on so fast was a carer came in the house with a virus and gave it to my mother. Is there something i could do about this. I feel she should have never been there with a virus.
Hi! Welcome to the In Home Supportive Services forum. This forum is for
Consumers and providers to share their experiences, concerns, and anything else they would like to talk about. The best way we can help each other is to share our experiences about home care commonly called
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In the hospital I work at, I have been noticing a lot of doctors and nurses texting patient info like release dates, second opinion requests, etc.
According to HIPAA, if the phone is lost or hacked, and the data is released publicly, then the doctors and hospital are open to law suits.
My boss asked me to look for a solution to look for a solution, and so far the only thing I can find for secure texting that is HIPAA complaint is this app called Tigertext which is on a closed network and will delete text messages on all phones after X period of time.
It doesn't seem to cost much and at least would allow doctors to text without a HIPAA problem.
Is this really HIPAA complaint, or am I missing something?
What I found interesting is 'TigerText, a short message service (SMS) security company, announced yesterday that more than 250 healthcare facilities around the country are using its HIPAA-compliant messaging platform for their secure communications. Considering the company’s healthcare mobile security experience, it can speak to the struggles that CIOs or CISOs can face in maintaining a secure, HIPAA-compliant mobile platform.'
The fact that they got 250 healthcare facilities using thier app/service speaks to the fact that they are a valid service, and it also speaks volumes about how concerned healthcare is about HIPAA and doctors sending text messages.
I am not sure if this right place to post this but here goes. Someone I know went to the beach on saturday (5 days ago) and got a pretty bad sunburn. Teh pain is almost gone and the redness is starting to go away but her legs are very purple/blue looking, especially along the borders of the burned area.
She didn't have any major symptoms of sun poisoning, fever, throwing up, etc.
Does anyone know what can cause this? is it dangerouis?
I need some recommendations for a barrier cream appropriate for someone with MCS. Here is the detail:
She’s having her allergies to soft plastic affect her ability to use catheters, and it seems her bladder isn’t excreting properly, so she’s been on catheters for a few months now. She’s asking for help to find a ‘barrier cream’ or something like that to help her body accept the plastic as she’s getting raw ‘down there’ when her skin rejects the plastic and blisters.
Hello. My dad was just diagnosed with NETs in his stomach, intestines & lymphnodes. I've learned so much in the last month & a half, I'm SURE I know more than the doctor he's seeing who's the head of oncology at Univerisity Seidmans Cancer Center in Cleveland, Ohio. It's very upsetting :( He just received his first Octreotride shot yesterday (30mg). None of the tumors are inoperable but they've said there are just too many (& some were described as free floating salt and pepper ize in his stomach), so they won't. In fact, the doctor said if they go to his liver or pancreas, they still wouldn't operate because there's so many. Also, he has a tumor under his clavical bone that didn't light up in the scan and they're not even going to remove that! I read that up to 30% of NET patients present with other types of cancers. My question is, in my haste, all I knew is I wanted him to get the best care and I've learned a NET patient needs a team of specialists in this specific field. Someone told me Dr. Woltering and his team, at LSU, are "the dream team". My dad signed a release form and now all of his records are in the process of going there but I never really did any specific research on the different carcinoid clinics themselves! I'm praying this clinic is as good as the others. Did I jump too fast??
Also, I've heard of Essiac Tea . Is there anything else that has shown to be effective, naturally, without interfering with my dad's treatments?
Thank you SOO much!!!
Doctors know mostly what they are taught in medical schools who are funded by the big drug companies and whose curriculum is set by the AMA (which operates essential as a union for doctors and mainstream medical treatments).
Keep in mind that chemo does not address the root causes of cancer, damages healthy cells as well as good ones, often damages the liver and/or heart, and does nothing to prevent cancer from returning.
The combination of oleander extract, Essiac and the Budwig flaxseed/cottage cheese (or quark) has been a very good one for many people here. A mainstream oncologist might not agree, but it should not interfere with chemo and might well enhance it if one goes that route. Whatever you do, a healthy diet and lifestyle is essential. You can find out much more about good things to do and take for cancer if you read over the older posts in this forum.
As a genuine old fart I can tell you to give your dad what information you
have, and then let him make his own decisions. Having been through a few
difficult diagnostic decisions myself I can tell you there is nothing worse than
having friends and family, particularly my children or grand children trying to
tell me what to do. I've lived through more in life than any of them,
probably you too, and I'm still here.
"I'm SURE I know more than the doctor he's seeing who's the head of
oncology at Univerisity Seidmans Cancer Center in Cleveland, Ohio."
With a statement like that I'll bet you think that you know more than your
dad (all kids do, and they don't). And you don't know more than that
I've had tumors in my lungs for decades, one grew a cancer and it was removed
a couple of years ago and I'm none the worse for wear. Another tumor in
the other lung began growing a few months ago but a recent biopsy revealed that
it was neither cancer nor fungus (the only options my doctor originally thought
of) and is simply an inflammation that will return to normal size in the near
Fear is the biggest block to healing anything (in fact fear causes
disease) and when you go into fear you are not helping your dad at
all. Learn that you are mortal just like your dad and everyone else
on the planet and then learn that death isn't a big deal and you'll be able to
handle life and family a lot better.
I'm an Essiac Tea supporter, have it, use it, and believe it's one of the
best supplements out there for cancer. You may wish to also look at Pau
d'arco (which I also have) and do a Curezone search for Canadian Yoda who has
cured herself from stomach cancer with these two items. You can begin your
search for her story here:
One great way to celebrate Mother´s Day! Thank you for allowing us to join in this celebration!
Beyond Flowers for Mom.... NYTimes
By NICHOLAS D. KRISTOF
In a few days Americans will celebrate Mother’s Day with roses, chocolates and fine dinners, inducing warm and fuzzy feelings all around. But, in addition, I’ll bet helping mothers less fortunate would also render any mom giddy.
That’s what some Americans have decided to do: commemorate motherhood by saving the lives of mothers halfway around the world — such as in this impoverished nook of Somaliland in the horn of Africa. Beyond celebrating moms with fleeting flowers, they are helping an extraordinary Somali woman, Edna Adan, run a maternity hospital here to make childbirth safer.
We in journalism often focus on villains, but Edna is one of my heroes. She’s a tireless 73-year-old whose passion is to save her countrywomen’s lives, get them access to family planning and end female genital mutilation.
Somaliland is a breakaway republic carved from Somalia but recognized by no outside country. It has only two OB-GYNs, and a woman here has perhaps a 1-in-10 lifetime risk of dying in childbirth. Just about the most dangerous thing a Somali woman can do is become pregnant, but Edna — with her American supporters — is changing that. They provide a lovely example of how Mother’s Day can be about something richer than the finest chocolate, and more lasting.
One of the first Somali women in this region to get a proper education and study in the West, Edna became a nurse-midwife and served in a senior post in the United Nations. For a time, she was foreign minister of Somaliland.
But Edna’s life dream was to open a maternity hospital. After she retired from the United Nations in 1997, she sold her Mercedes and took her entire life savings of $300,000 to build a maternity hospital on land that had been the town dump.
When the hospital was almost complete, her money ran out. But then an article appeared in The New York Times in 1999 about Edna and her flickering dream, and a few readers in Connecticut and Minnesota reached out to help. One of them, Anne Gilhuly, a retired teacher, told me that she and her friends leaped at the thought that they could use spare cash to keep women alive.
The Americans founded a tax-deductible charity, the Friends of Edna Maternity Hospital (www.EdnaHospital.org), and a remarkable partnership was born that allowed the hospital to be completed and flourish. “If it weren’t for ‘Friends,’ we would never have built this hospital,” Edna said.
What they have wrought is stunning. On a continent where hospitals are often dilapidated and depressing, Edna’s is modern, sterile and hums with efficiency. She lives in an apartment above the hospital so that she is available 24/7, and she accepts no salary. She also donates her U.N. pension each month to help pay hospital expenses.
So far, the hospital says it has delivered about 10,000 babies, some of them after the woman was rushed to the hospital gate in a wheelbarrow. Edna has also used her hospital to train Somali midwives to serve in remote areas. Training a midwife at Edna’s hospital costs $215 a month for 18 months — and then that midwife will save mothers and babies for many years.
If there’s ever a time when the needless deaths of women in childbirth — one every 90 seconds or so somewhere in the world, according to the United Nations — should be on our radar screen, it’s at Mother’s Day. And we know how to save those lives.
CARE says that $10 pays for food for three days at a hospital for an expectant mother. When food is provided, a woman is more likely to deliver at a hospital. Or with $190, CARE can buy a bicycle rickshaw ambulance to rush a woman in labor to a hospital.
Save the Children runs a midwife training program in Afghanistan (where women are 200 times more likely to die in childbirth than from a bullet or bomb, the group says) and points out that $80 will pay for a midwifery kit for new graduates. And for $450, the Fistula Foundation can repair a woman suffering from an obstetric fistula, a devastating childbirth injury that leaves her leaking wastes.
In a column a year ago, I suggested that we move the apostrophe so as to celebrate not so much Mother’s Day — honoring a single mother — but Mothers’ Day, to help save mothers’ lives around the world as well.
Eva Hausman, a retired social studies teacher in Connecticut, and five other women took up that challenge. They started a Mothers’ Day campaign, which has its own Web site at http://www.MothersDayMovement.org.
They hope that Americans will consecrate the mother in their lives not only with presents but also by helping impoverished women and girls through a particular charity (this year it’s one that works in a Kenyan slum). They’ve found matching funds from a foundation to do that.
But here I am anyway. Husband and I began eldercare for his mother, stepfather, grandmother and their dog eight years ago after his brother died. Now the mother is all that remains. I didn't think it would be eight years. I thought she would get back on her feet but she becomes more dependent as time passes. She doesn't want to do for herself. She likes being taken care of. I've been told by family she has always been like this. I am 36. My youth has been wasted taking care of elderly people. When she is gone, my parents will be very old and will need my help. When do I get a life? When do I get to travel? Do I have to wait until I'm old to live? My sense of responsibility keeps me from abandoning them. How do other people simply walk away from their old ones and get away with it? We didn't ask for this responsibility. It crept up on us (well, mostly ME). It started as a small thing and has now consumed our lives. It's like being a parent to a terminal child, only the child was an accidental pregnancy. I hate my life.
Wow. You are so young to have such a burden. Either your in-laws had their son late in life or they just had serious illnesses at a young age.
I commend you for your sense of responsibilty. Most people would have already checked mother-in-law into an assisted living home. Is she able to get outside....walk around? If so, I would check into retired "day care" centers. They do have them...I know we have them here in my state of Mississippi. If she would just mingle with people her own age, it would help her and give you a break, too.
The way you live won't be forever. You say most of the eldercare falls on you. Your husband has a fulltime job? I sincerely hope he appreciates all you do.
DO you guys ever have a "date night?" If you don't, make one!
We both work full-time jobs. He's been laid off twice (he works in the computer industry). He does shift work and can't get off from work as easily as I can from my salaried job. We took over this burden after his brother died, eight years ago. My youth and much of my marriage has been spent dealing with a woman who should have been able to take care of herself. I married the baby of the family. The mother in law is now 75 years old. When I started this, I thought I was just getting her through a rough patch, what with her oldest son dying, her mother died two years later and her evil second husband who had been running through her money finally died. I thought she would be more active in taking care of her own bills and trying to clean. That's when I learned that she is a terrible housekeeper and completely irresponsible and has always been so. The grandmother kept the house clean and the children fed when they were all younger. I do the minimum but I don't want home health care to think her family has abandoned her to squalor and hunger. And because Louisiana has filial responsibility laws, I don't want to run afoul of that and have liens put on our house for nonpayment of her medical bills. Elder care is less of a choice and more of something that creeps up on you like a cancer. I know what women who get accidently pregnant and have an unwanted child must feel like. Only this child has legal rights and this child's doctors and bank won't talk to us without her consent, even with power of attorney documents. I'd get more sympathy from others if she were a witch but she's the type who kills with kindness and compliments and keeps demanding more and more. I tell you, there are days when I seriously think about boarding a plane and running away to England to start a new life.
Bless your heart, it looks like you've had more than your fair share. However, the fact that you have not walked away from this responsibility, which you seem to have inherited, says quite a lot about your character.
Caregiving is the most demanding job in the world, both physically and emotionally. You may very well benefit from a caregiver support group. I am going to provide the following link which has excellent tips and also a link where you can join a support group.
Think of it like this.
In your case, it seems your husband's parents have had two boys. So, if a mother can look after two boys, why can't two boys look after a mother?
Yes, true, you didn't ask for this, it has been lumped on you. You need your husband's help. Ask for it, if it's not forthcoming, assess your situation and walk if that's how you feel.
Wow...hi...ummm...this is a site where people are often times ill...and this is how you are talking??....I mean...ok..I can understand and sympathize with you a bit..but you are barking up a bit of a wrong tree by posting this here...
at least too bad for you that I read this post...I am the same age as you...and instead of being lucky enough to have been in the position of care giving for others and being what I would trust is fairly good health for yourself....meaning you do have plenty of available opportunities to take part in life through decisions you want to make for yourself..I ...and I can only imagine a number of other people to come across what you have written can't do much except to say...get over it...bc myself my story is that since turning a teenager I fight everyday in every way to just stay alive...so...yes...be sad and sorry and that's ok...but you can change places with me or many of us on here any day..I would make that deal...
I am currently researching alternative treatments for cancer other than chemo...as it is so scary..but really want something with real Science behind it...rather than trying mushroom soup or some juice...
thought i would pass this on..looks really important to learn about.
I found this information and thought that it would be very valuable to post a link to this website in which a treatment in Germany for cancer is discussed and currently approved in the EU..but not yet in the US....Looks really interesting to use the immune system to fight it's own battle....this treatment seems to be appropriate for many types of cancers...
In the 80's, I worked for Ruth Otte, CEO of the Discovery Channel as an on-retainer-like-a-lawyer doctor. My job was to keep her and her family well. Her family included her friends and people who worked for her. This lady got a $ million a month for her job.
I lived in between LA and SF in CA while I worked with her and her Pasadena people and also flew to her home in MD to minister. This was a 24 hour a day job bringing people back to life, with wheat grass and baby greens being flown in daily. The friends in her 'family' had been diagnosed with terminal cancers that had metastasized, were on palliatives (medicine to control pain) and were flown in from around the world (some from Gambia in Western Africa where the father had been told to pick out his burial plot) .
For him, it took 3 shifts of people for 2 weeks who helped to feed and implant wheat grass juice into those souls in order to get him strong enough to continue the Ann Wigmore Program and get well. The men who had their wives support made quick recoveries. Those without, took a month longer. As a Mayo Clinic doctor, Chunyi Lin has expressed it: "If you believe it, it works; if you don't believe it, it works."
They ate Energy Soup which included watermelon, baby greens and weeds, sauerkraut and nut and seed cheeses, Rejuvelac and dulse, at least 3 times a day, usually more, They used a trampoline to get their lymphatic system going, usually to begin with, with my assistance, as we both bounced gently, with my arms under theirs, supporting them. The lymph system cleans the blood. Dirty blood cannot but poison a whole system.
I particularly remember one friend who fell out of the taxi who had flown from his brother, who is a Mayo Clinic doctor, and after I asked him if he was ready to work, and he had said yes, I got him under the armpits (which was easy because he was over 6' tall, after we had climbed the huge frame and he stood leaning against me as we surveyed the scenery, far above L.A., seeing the lights of Hollywood below. He told me he couldn't see very well and could barely hear. The liver cancer had spread to his brain and head. I had him to myself for a month.
Five weeks after he had arrived, he was out there by himself, leaping up into the sky from the mat of the trampoline, roaring and screaming in joy. All I could do was smile. It had happened again! Expectedly. This healing process is a scientific inevitability. A physical science. Once healing starts, it continues and builds on itself as long as one doesn't eat any foods without the qi energy; as long as one doesn't eat any cooked foods. At that point, the cells are vibrating so fast that they push out anything in the body that is not like themselves. There is no room for dead cancer cells, which are starved to death because they are not being fed by mucus-producing foods, like flour products and dairy, nightshades and caustic liquids like citrus, vinegars, alcohols and Liquid Aminos. The new cells are not being clogged up and killed by vegetable oils, cholesterol foods, and processed flours and salt.
The enemas made sure that the waste material, the dead cancer cells and excess fat,protein and starches did not re-absorb (resorb) into his body. This is what kills people. It's not the cancer. It's the body drowning in its own waste. The wheat grass juice implants built new blood and prevented reinfection by the fluke eggs that were being spewed into the body by the dying parasites, trying desperately to perpetuate their species in their host. When you see someone who is getting well who has puffy bags under their eyes, like our exPrez, tell them about colonics and get them a book by Norman Walker so they know how easy it is to have continuing success.
It's not enough to stop putting dead cholesterol foods in one's body; you must provide the body a means to get rid of the garbage that will be thrown out of the cells once they gain strength to do the job. This must be done daily before one is awake 2 hours. It is done by the life giving colonic irrigations (enemas and colonics) and implants of fresh (made within 15 minutes) wheat grass juice.
How do you reconcile TCM and their emphasis on cooked foods?
If one's digestive/endocrine systems are less than strong and vital, nutrition is not absorbed even in the most ideal dietary regimes. Light cooking/steaming facilitates the spleen (primary organ of digestion) in breaking down the food's nutritives.