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Hello! My grandmother's dentist told her that she needs to have a root canal on 3 teeth. I've read so many bad things about root canals and it leading to more problems, what can she do to avoid this?
Since she was experiencing lots of pain from the infected teeth, they had put her on antibiotics. The antibiotics made her very weak and ill. She has finished them and is now feeling better since off of them. The dentist still wants to go ahead with the root canal. Her teeth are still infected and swollen.
I read that oregano oil dabbed onto the infected teeth could help. Also, swishing with himalayan salt, Colloidal Silver , and unrefined coconut oil could be of help too, what do you think?
Oregano oil is one of the most powerful antibiotics available, it kills bacteria, fungal infections, MRSA and all types of troubles. Coconut oil helps dilute the strength of the essential oil (the oregano) and carry it into the tissues around the mouth where the infections hide and reside.
With root canals the infection has reached down to the bloodstream, so you need oils fine enough in particulate size to get right to the bloodstream and nerve tissue.
Oil pulling at the full 20 minutes will allow the medicine to saturate the jaw, both above and below, and the infectious material can circulate out instead of down the throat and back into the bloodstream, where it can continue the infection cycle.
Avoiding swallowing is important. The oil of oregano can trigger feeling a bit sick while the infection at the root of the teeth dies, because some of the oil of oregano goes to other tissues in the body, but it is not in and of itself poisonous like prescription antibiotics.
If there is too much unwell feeling, drinking activated charcoal powder, Bentonite clay or using activated charcoal tabs or capsules will alleviate the discomfort, alongside plenty of water. Activated charcoal should be available at all pharmacies/chemist shops, just ask the pharmacist.
Hello! My grandmother's dentist told her that she needs to have a root canal on 3 teeth.
My opinion is that she get a second opinion preferably from a holistic dentist
The pain indicates there is a problem, but the holistic dentist will determine to what extent, and advise on any needed treatment.
If he recommends removal, he will do it in a proper way. You didn't mention if the teeth had fillings in them that contain mercury, but that dentist will remove them making sure she doesn't consume any of the mercury.
Dentists love root canals - they're the big ticket item that keeps their practices thriving. If you have a sore toe, they'll recommend a root canal.
But as others have said, they can have bad health consequences. When I've had abscesses or other problems where root canals were recommended as urgent and essential I've done these two things:
1) If there's pain, puss abscess or infection - put a clump of Bentonite clay between the cheeck and gum of the tooth in question. Keep this up until the pain goes away, swelling subsides etc. The clay will start to smell terrible as it draws out the infection from the gums. Put fresh clay every couple hours.
2) (As others have said) oil pull at least twice a day with your oil of choice plus a few drops of oregano oil (or as many as you can take without your mouth feeling like it's burning).
The last time this happened - I went another five years or so before it became a problem again. Instead of going for the recommended root canal, implant, etc - I just had them extract it.
I always wondered if I kept oil pulling daily as recommended if i would have had to lose the tooth at all.
I got her to start the coconut & oregano oil pulling 2x-3x a day. I will also be purchasing the Bentonite clay and have her do that once it arrives. She has given up Sugar too, so hopefully that will help, and I'll be looking for a holistic dentist in the mean time.
Thanks again everyone! This is exactly why I love this site so much, everyone gives such amazing advice :)
Very good. In my experience the pulling with oregano oil definitely helps - if gradually. But for the fastest cessation of infection and pain, the Bentonite clay is FAR more powerful and fast acting for infections inside the gums. You'll be amazed.
Very interesting post, I have not heard about this before.
I have a gum that smells next to one Molar, I assume it will develop into an Abscess eventually.
No pain yet but I had the Molar next to it out 2 weeks ago because of a smelly gum that developed into an Abscess. Both teeth had root canal work done 12 years ago.
I am in the UK and have found 100% Oregano oil for sale online.
As you mentioned it should not be ingested just swished around the mouth. I can add a couple of drops when I Coconut oil pull everyday.
As far as the Bentonite clay goes. I have found Calcium Bentonite clay. It looks like powder in the picture, is that the correct one?
Some advertise Sodium Bentonite, others Calcium Benonite.
I would assume 100g would last a long time and would be a good amount to test with.
Clove essential oil also works very well for a tooth issue.I had a tooth pulled a few weeks back and applied some to my mouth and in about 5 mins my pain was relived. Clove oil is often times used for toothaches. Myrrh is the most commonly used essential oil for mouth sores. To use Clove oil dilute in a small amount of a carrier oil add a drop to a cotton ball or swab and apply to the affected tooth, or press against the gum around the affected tooth.
Amazing, thank-you for that information.
I had a molar extracted and the roots drilled out 3 weeks ago. I would have used it then if I had known.
The soreness went about a week ago thankfully.
It seems to be healing well.
I have been adding 1 or 2 drops of 100% Oregano oil to my coconut oil pulling and I have been using Bentonite clay around the molar next to the extracted tooth because the gum was smelling.
The next day the smell was gone. I will carry on using it daily.
I was thinking of putting some Calcium Bentonite clay in a mouth guard and treating all the teeth and gums maybe once a week as this could help with remineralisation along with taking out any heavy metals.
Yes the clay sucks the infection out of the gum and if you'll notice after awhile the clay starts smelling terrible because of it. Just take it out and put in more till the abscess is totally gone.
I wouldn't use it constantly because clay doesn't care what it absorbs. It gets everything in it's path, and therefore would harm the mouths bacterial balance. Not a good idea. Oil pulling with coconut oil would give you more than enough anti-bacterial support for daily use.
Even coconut oil I won't use every day for long periods of time.
I have been Coconut oil pulling twice a day for almost a month now.
I hope I am not overdoing it.
I would normally just do it once daily but I do still have 1 root canalled filled tooth and it was smelling around that tooth so in the evening I drink a cup of green Tea and then use the tea bag to place between the tooth and gum for an hour. It's much easier than clay.
Then oil pull with 2 drops of oregano oil.
The reason I asked about using Bentonite clay in a mouth guard once weekly was in the hope that it would remineralise teeth and reverse receded gums from past over brushing.
One thing that IS known to help regrow gums is COQ10. And studies have shown COQ10 in an oil base has a much amplified effect.
I confirmed that myself using liquid COQ10 along with my oil pulling. Taking maybe 30 mgs of COQ10 in oil while pulling had a MUCH more powerful effect than the 200 mg capsules of Q10 I was taking before.
The capsules barely registered an effect while the much lower dose added to my OP put my energy through the roof and caused a tingly sensation.
In fact any day that I went without sleep, I'd always do the Q10 oil pull and I'd still be able to work like a champ all day.
I had severe gum receding and 20 years ago a dentist told me I'd likely have almost no teeth in 10 years. Not so at all and I attribute that to the COQ10 (especially mixed with OP).
We talked about this quite a bit in this forum a year or two ago.
when it's that bad it's best to do the root canal. What is bad about them is that residual bacteri grow in whats left of the tooth and their toxins cause your bodys immunity against cancer to be low. What to do then is treat the canaled teeth with direct current to kill the residual bacteria. You can message me for more info.
I found this forum while typing in 'rape victims support'. I neep some advice from anyone here, other than talking to a teacher or friend because I don't want my mom to find out. I just don't know what to do. I'm a 14 year old boy who is being raped by my mom's boyfriend. They have been dating for two years and he moved in with us last year.
I thought Dave(not his real name) and I were getting along great and he seemed cool until four months ago when my mom went to work(she works evenings), Dave looked at me differently. Before he looked at me in a fatherly way but this time he looked at me in a very uncomfortable way, I can't even describe it. I never had any reason to think he'd hurt me in a sexua| way. He has said plenty of times how I'm such a cute boy and will be a hit with the girls but I'm sure dads say that to their sons on occasion. Anyway, he grabed me and started dragging me into the dining room. When I resisted and asked what he was doing, he slapped me.
He then threw me onto the floor and got on top of me. He ripped off my clothes and raped me anally. I screamed from the pain and he slapped me again. I couldn't believe what was happening. I felt so betrayed and terrified. I was bleeding. Why did he suddenly go from being fatherly to a monster? When he finished raping me, he grabed my hair and threatened to hurt my mom if I tell anyone what happened. He just left me there on the floor crying. When mom came home the next morning she noticed my eye lids swelled up and that I was walking funny. Dave told her that he gave me a whipping for not minding him.(mom allows him to spank me when I misbehave so this was the perfect excuse for him). Him raping me has continued almost daily for four months now and I have learned to deal with the physical and emotional pain from it all but lately I have been bleeding from my rectum more than usual when he's finished raping me. I notice it on my underwear and especially when I take a poop. It's so sore there too.
I have been hiding my bloody underwear but I'm so scared my mom will find out and I'm even more scared as to why I'm bleeding. Could I have a disease? I heard about diseases you can catch from having sex. I'm so scared. I can't go to a doctor or nurse without my mom finding out. I know this Dave guy will make good on his promise to hurt my mom because he's so violent. Like one other time when mom was getting ready to go to work, I asked her if I could spend the night at a friend's house(to try and get away from Dave) and Dave interupted before mom could answer and said "no,you can't.
I told you you were being punished for not doing all your chores" so mom agreed with him. So I was terrified when mom left because I pissed Dave off for trying to get away from him. He then grabbed me by my hair and dragged me all the way upstairs into my bedroom, threw me on my stomache onto my bed, yanked down my pants and underwear and whipped me on my bare backside with his belt until there were plenty of red and purple welts. Then he raped me more violently than he ever did before.
I thought my life would end that night because I was so overcome by intense pain. I just don't know what to do. Can someone tell me what the bleeding from my rectum might mean? And it's so sore too. I wince when I walk and sit down lately and mom has noticed but I just make up some excuse.
Is it just because of him raping me or could I have a disease?
Could I die? I'm so scared. I can't do anything whe my mom might find out because she would be so upset and I'm scared that Dave will hurt her. If it's nothing serious but just normal bleeding and soreness from sex then I can put up with that but if someone thinks it could be a disease, then I need advice on what to do.
Go to the emergency room, tell the doctor what happened.
It is important they get DNA proof and proof of penetration. If not your step dad can deny anything happend and he will try to turn your own mother against you.
It is the doctor's legal responsibility to report this to the police. This man is sick and needs to go to prison where he can't get to boys anymore.
If you are worried about your mom's reaction, I think she will be first shocked, angry, maybe blaming you. Don't put up with it, in time she will be glad you did it.
Afterwards, it is indespensible that you recieve treatment for PTSD, or your life will be ruined for many years to come. Please don't neglect this part.
Charkee is spot on! You must report this monster to the police---follow Charkee's excellent advice! I must add something, however, since you are underage, the hospital may not want to check you without a parent or guardian present. Get out of the house and go to the nearest police station---the sooner the better. It's best to get there as soon as the rape occurs.
Don't put up with this any longer! Also, don't be afraid of speaking to your school guidance counselor if you can't get to the police station. By law, the guidance counselor will have to report the rape to the authorities.
I know I should call the cops. That is something I thought about because then they could put him in jail but do you think they might call my mom a bad mom and put her in jail too? I mean, she didn't even know but some cops say that the mom should have saw the signs. But it's my fault for making excuses and pretending I'm okay. I don't want my mom to get into trouble. And do you think he will go to jail for sure? I'm scared that he might not get jail time and then he could come after us. I am scared to do this but I know it's the only way to make it stop so I will do it but I'm mostly scared about my condition. I think I mainly want to tell my mom and the police just so I can finally go to the doctors to make sure I'm okay. I just know that my mom will be heartbroken though. She cares for this man but I know she will feel so guilty once I tell her but it's not her fault. I think I'm going to go tell my mom today so I can go to the doctor. I'm so scared as to what might be wrong with me because of the bleeding. I'm nervous to tell her(my stomache is queezy just thinking about it) but I know I have to then maybe she will call the cops so I don't have to. I will keep you updated when I can.
Listen, please...sad to say, there have been many cases where the mom didn't know the kids were being abused by the boyfriend/stepfather---and the moms didn't get into any trouble. Once the perv was out of their lives, the mom and the kids worked together to get their lives back in order. So...the thought of getting your mom in trouble should be the least of your worries.
As for going to the police---I'm not saying that you should put up being raped again so please understand that's not what I'm suggesting here. However, the best time to go to the police would have been as soon as possible after the rape occured. They would have gotten you to the hospital where a rape kit would have been used. The rape kit would have collected semen samples which would then get DNA tested. With DNA results, the perv couldn't deny what happened. Also, since you are underage, he couldn't even make the case that it was consensual.
Yes, your mom should know what happened. However, telling her while this perv is still living with both of you, may not be the best strategy. Not only could he deny it to your mom but you could face even worse consequences from him if your mom believes him.
Here's where it gets tricky. I do hope and pray that he doesn't hurt you again but if he does...be sure you don't bathe or in any way compromise the evidence. Also be sure to wear the same clothes you were wearing when the rape occured. Stay calm so as not to tip him off that you are going to the police. If you have a Cell Phone , take it with you and tell him that you are going out for a while (shopping, visiting a friend---whatever you need to say so you can get out of the house). Then calmly leave. When you get a good distance away, call the police. Tell them what happened and where you are. Preferably stand at an intersection on a busy street, if at all possible. If there are other people around, should he find you there he's not likely to cause a scene. When the police come, tell them to take you to a hospital so that a rape kit can collect evidence. No doubt, you will have to give a statement to a detective. Stress that you are afraid to return home while the perv is there. Also, let them know your concerns for your mother.
If you don't have access to a Cell Phone , then do one of the following: 1) If you know a nearby location where there is a pay phone, go there and call 911. 2) If there is someone you trust (a friend or neighbor) that lives nearby, ask if they will let you use their phone. 3) If you live within walking distance to the nearest police station, walk there.
It's very important that you go to the police. If he gets away with this, not only will he continue to harm you but he will also harm other boys. Also, if he is raping you and not using condoms, he is putting both you and your mother at risk for STDs.
Stay brave and know you're doing the right thing. The police or the hospital will give you and your mother referrals for counseling.
As a mother myself, I know that if I found out my child had been abused, I would have moved heaven and earth to protect my child. Trust that your mother feels the same way.
Also, please be aware that none of this is your fault!
My thoughts are with you. Best wishes as you work to get this perv locked up and out of both of your lives forever.
I am so sorry that you are experiencing these trust-shattering experiences. You've had some superb advice - ACT ON IT, NOW. Don't wait for "something" to happen or for someone to make the call for you. Call Child Protective Services, immediately, and they will contact the police. A full investigation will be conducted and this will include a physical exam. Retrieve any/all physical evidence that may still exist, if you can.
You're a brave person to put your experiences into words and your courage will see you through this horrible part of your life safely and securely onto your healing path. Something that you may want to keep in mind is that your mother is probably being abused, as well. She may be turning a "blind eye" to what's been happening to you because she's probably been threatened that you will be taken away from her, forever, if she does ANYthing that might get this rat-bastid into prison. This is a threat that many abusers use to make sure that there is no interference in their heinous activities.
Take heart, dear one. As I said, you're very brave and this courage will help you to process all that's happened to you. You did nothing to deserve it, and you're NOT a bad person because this monster did what he did to you. You are not responsible for the actions of another adult. This person did all of this to you because he could - that's the only reason. Now, get on the phone, contact CPS, tell them EVERYTHING, and you and your mother will be taken to safety, and the rotten catfish will be thrown into jail.
--Edit: I first saw after posting just how old this thread is. I hope this post and video help later searchers who are in a tight situation! --
JMT14, my heart goes out to you!
I have family who were raped by a family member, an uncle. The word never got out, and the frustration and anger of the evil that happened to her stayed in her soul, and it shows right now while she has kids.
This is a group who are in the US helping against the evil of this sort of abuse! http://bacaworld.org
This is a video explaining what Bikers Against Child Abuse are doing:
Fear is the one enemy who allows evil to continue in the darkness, and it has always thrived there. Jesus is my light against it, but even as a christian if I do not act, I still suffer physically when I let fear put that collar around my throat, and then I am in chains.
Cry out and get this evil crushed!
You are a precious person, and the enemy of your soul wants nothing more than to grind your face in the dirt and tear your heart to pieces. It is VERY scary when it happens, and what you need when you are under attack is a WARRIOR.
No, mothers do not get indicated unless they are complicit in the plot- that is, agreeing and allowing the rape to happen. That is not the case here.
I have survived abuse too- fifteen years of it, from a mentally ill parent. It was when I was 11 that my parents divorced and I had a break from the constant yelling and screaming, but I still had to stand up for myself. YES, it was scary to do, no, it did not tear my home and family apart. We had to deal with it as a group, we had to come together to fight.
I agree. IT WILL MESS YOU UP FOR LIFE if you don't get this reported. DO NOT BE AFRAID. What charkee said is right. Make sure you let them know you are afraid for your mother's safety as well as your own. Knowing what you know about this dude, your mother will thank you in the end. Do it for both of you. If you get DNA from him get to the hospital as soon as you can. Ask a friend to take you. The hospital staff will understand how dangerous it would be for either your mother or her thing to find out before an arrest is made, but an arrest definitely needs to happen. Don't be afraid to tell them exactly what happened. Remember this is not your fault. This dude is sick for even thinking this is okay and he's just doing it because he thinks you won't be brave enough to report it. Sometimes they know how vulnerable you are and how afraid you would be to tell your mother. That's why he's doing it! If you can't get a ride to the hospital, find a teacher, scout leader, school counselor, or an authority figure or one of your friends parents you trust ... They are required by law to report it.
The blood is from tears in the lining of your rectum. They will test you for diseases at the hospital. No worries. You'll feel so much better once he's behind bars, trust me. You'll be doing a lot of people a favor. You don't have to put up with this.
How do I get a social worker? Will I have to have my Mom present to get one?
And yes, I am a fourteen year old boy. Why? Am I supposed to be a girl in order to use this site? Is this just for girl victims and is there an age limit for this site? I don't understand what you mean by 'tone'. I didn't know that this was for girls only. I'm sorry but I did a search for help on rape victims and this was one of them I came up with. I'm sorry if I'm not supposed to post here but I needed someone to talk to about this. I need help. If this is only for girls, can you tell me what site has help for boys who have been raped?
if u are smart and can really tell that he wont kill someone then i would make a plan to hurt him or threaten to tell pople wat he did. KICK HIS f***IN ASS INTO THE f***IN DIRT TILL HES IN HELL. u should tell ur mom and have him arested even though its embarissing and degrading its better then not getting help. its just another human u can outsmart him, dont be scared of him. DONT LET HIM RUIN UR LIFE. GET EVIDENCE OR VIDEO OF HIM ABUSING U NAD THERES all the evidence right there this man deserves to never live. i feel for u dont let him bring u down ur better then him hes not bertter than u hope the best for ur life
what u need to do is tell your mom. imso frekin serious (btw m 13) that man is rapeing u if you dont tell somebody it could get worse get rid of the problem now. its child abuse i dont think u can get a disase because its male on male and since u have a johnson ithink that u should go to the doctor because it might be a virus or something. uneed to tell ur mom like seriously. no joke no lie she can help u and the guy tht raped u is ass will be in jail.
Thank you all for your support and advice. Here's how the past few hard days have been. Last Sunday was spent trying to find the courage to tell Mom but every time I tried to, I couldn't get the courage or Dave was always around. Then I spent my time in my room picking up the phone & hanging it back up trying to find the courage to call the police.
Every time I picked the phone up, my heart would beat so fast & my stomach would get queasy. Then I just laid on my bed quietly crying because I was so mad at myself. At the dinner table, Mom noticed that I was upset even though in the past I've been able to hide it well. And as usual, I made up an excuse & just said I didn't feel well & asked to be excused. I wouldn't even make eye contact with Dave but I could feel his eyes burning on me.
I went back to my room & not even 10 minutes later Dave came up to "check" on me & he threatened me that I had better stop this moping around & instead make like everything's okay or else I'll be sorry. Monday night when Mom went to work, Dave raped me yet again. Because of the bleeding & soreness I was having, I tried so much to resist him this time but he was just too strong & I pissed him off as well. He raped me roughly in anger & the pain was unbearable. I think I passed out or something because I don't remember when he finished & got off of me. All I remember is finding myself on the floor. Ever since, my rectum had been burning very bad & still bleeding. I didn't say anything to Mom Tuesday morning and in fact tried to avoid her & Dave before I went to school.
In school is when I finally told someone. I told my best friend during break time, I guess because he's my age & I felt less ashamed to tell him then to tell an adult. I broke down crying in front of everyone but I couldn't help it. I went into the boy's bathroom to avoid any more stares & my friend followed me. He told me he had thought something was bothering me for quite a while by the way I acted & how I looked like I was in pain at times. He had asked me lots of times what's wrong but I wouldn't tell him. Now I finally couldn't take it anymore. He said I had to tell the police but I told him I couldn't find the courage to. He asked me what I was going to do and honestly I didn't know. So I left school like normal.
Then I couldn't believe it, the cops showed up at my house Tuesday evening just before my Mom was going to work and asked if a "Dave" was there and asked for me as well. They got an anonymous call that I was being sexually abused by Dave.(I found out later that my best friend's Mom called the police) Mom was shocked. They had a couple police officers questioning Dave and a female officer questioned me. That's when I finally told the police and Mom.
Mom started crying and ran after Dave and had to be restrained. She was screaming at him and the cops had to escort Dave away. On the way to the hospital, Mom kept saying "Why didn't you tell me when it first happened? Didn't you think I would believe you? Didn't you think I would kick him out of the house? I can't believe you think so little of me that I wouldn't have believed you. I can't believe you suffered through this for months without telling me. Didn't you know you could be hurt internally and need to go to the doctors right away?" I felt so terrible that I did this to my Mom. She was hysterical and crying.
To find out like this was bad enough and now I made her feel helpless and guilty. At the hospital, I got examined...it was an awful experience, that's for sure. It turned out that I had anal tearings, dilation, bruising and swelling of the anus.
The doctor assured my Mom and I the injuries would heal and I'd be okay. He gave me a healing cream and a stool softener and I'm happy to say that most of my STD tests came back negative. There are still a couple of tests that I don't know the results yet including the HIV one. I'm so worried about that one.
I'm relieved that nothing's seriously wrong with me but now after telling Mom and my friend, I don't know why but I feel sad. Maybe it's because my Mom cries whenever she looks at me now and she keeps saying she should have known. Our Thanksgiving was spent mostly in tears. She held me and we both cried most of the time. I feel so bad for my Mom because she finally found happiness & now she's heartbroken again. She made so many sacrifices for me & I just wanted her to be happy.
Now I feel like I turned her life upside down. She's alone again and she blames herself for letting this evil guy she thought she loved into our home. And now I'm also worried about when I go back to school that all the kids will know and I'll be so ashamed. I don't want to be called "homo" or "fag" but I know that's probably what some of those a**ho**s at school will call me. I'm glad I don't have to live in terror or endure extreme pain anymore but now I feel ashamed, guilty and don't even want to leave my house anymore for fear someone will be looking at me. I dread going back to school.
Why do I feel this way? Shouldn't I feel better now that Dave may go to jail? Oh, and Dave is denying the charges(even though his semen was found inside me during the examination). It might have to go to trial and I'm going to have to testify against him. I don't want to, I just want it to be over. I can barely get a night's sleep because I have nightmares.
Thank goodness some action has been taken on your behalf to stop this atrocity. I understand fully how much you feared doing the calling and telling. This kind of abuse paralyzes the victim... and we still live in a culture of ignorance which blames victims, but you must know above all that you are blameless. This experience will be behind you one day, though it does not feel possible right now. The strength of your character will be built from this and will unfold as long as you do not become what you hate ...
Thank goodness action was taken on your behalf to stop this atrocity!!! This kind of abuse paralyzes the victim. I understand how you feared the calling and telling. We still live in an ignorant culture that blames the victim, but know that the strength of your character will be built from this and unfold as long as you do not become what you hate...
I agree with Seek2b - thank God, The Great Creator, Jehovah, Mohammed, Buddah, or any other name you wish to choose. Someone took a courageous leap and made the call that was needed. Yes, there are many unpleasant challenges ahead of you, but you will - WILL - take them on and put these episodes in perspective.
I'm going to try to explain some things that might help ease your mind:
#1 - You did nothing to deserve what was done to you. You didn't "ask" for it, and you didn't want it. The man that did this to you is a monster, regardless of whether he seemed to make your mother happy, or not. He is a monster. A monster. SAY IT OUT LOUD - HE IS A MONSTER.
#2 - What he did to you may be legally termed a sexua| crime, but his actions had little to do with sex. Rape is not about sex. It's about control and ownership. This is a fact and anyone who has the nerve to call you names because you were victimized would be doing so out of fear - fear that such a horrible thing could happen to the, as well. If anyone calls you ugly names, walk away from them and pity them for their stupidity. Yes, you're allowed to be angry, but don't take that anger out on others or it will make you no better than that monster. You cannot control what other people are going to think, believe, or say.
#3 - Your mother is sad because (speaking from personal experience with abuse) she feels responsible for what happened to you and she feels that she failed you in the worst way that a parent can - she failed to protect you, she failed to recognize a monsterous predator, and she failed to stop what was happening. She trusted this THING, and her trust was shattered, and her confidence as a protector and nurturing parent has also been shattered. This is how she feels.
#4 - Intensive therapy is strongly and urgently suggested for both you and your mother so that you each can heal from this horrible breach in trust, and to prepare for the events which will follow.
Get mad at this man. You'll probably never know what went on behind closed doors, but chances are that your mother endured some type of abusive treatment, as well. You have an opportunity to stop this man from ever doing this type of thing to another human being, and you also have the opportunity to advocate for other victims of such crimes once your feet have settled firmly on your own healing path.
Remember this, always: you cannot control anything else in the Universe except you. You couldn't stop that monster, so please forgive yourself and don't dare carry any guilt for what he did to you. YOU are the victim and HE is the perpetrator - it wouldn't be any different had he beaten you on a regular basis, and our society tends to place a great deal of emphasis on rape as being sexually motivated, which is simply not true. You can't heal your mother, either. She is going to have to face down her own demons, or not. But, you, dear heart, are a brave, strong, and valuable human being and this experience does not have to define who you are for the rest of your life if you refuse to allow it to.
May you find peace, comfort, and strength in the days, weeks, and months to come, and may you be a beacon of hope to other victims. God bless you.
I had been thinking about you quite a bit and hoping that you were able to get this perv arrested and out of your lives.
Thus, I'm glad that you did post back with an update. You've been given some great advice from SoulfulSurvivor and Seek2clean. I do hope that both you and your mom get some counseling so that you both can heal.
Always remember that your friend and his mom are good friends to you. He did the right thing by telling his mom and she did the right thing by calling the police.
If you find yourself having a hard time at school, don't hesitate to talk to your guidance counselor or a trusted teacher. They can intervene if anyone is making your life miserable.
And, yes, always remember that this was never your fault. If you do have to testify in court, stay brave. The courts have victim advocates who will be there to give you whatever support you need.
I wish you and your mom all the best as you both work to heal your wounds.
Wonderful information!! I work in the field of Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault and everything you mentioned is spot-on. I am glad that this young man has been so well supported and well advised. The only thing I would add is pedophiles are masters at their craft. They groom adults as well as children/teens so that they can get away with their crime. This man that raped him TARGETED this mother because she had a child that would be made vulnerable at some point in the relationship. Pedophilia can not be cured , the experts are looking at teaching them to manage their urges. They are serial offenders and look for someone who is vulnerable, accessible and easily discredited. According to experts, the only time that pedophiles stop is when they are imprisoned. This young man is made of tough stuff. PLEASE seek counseling. Working through the trauma is the best revenge!!!
Hello. I'm a kind of average girl who talks to many people like you. I'm in school, yet have helped around 50 rape victims in total. I'm sorry to hear that this happened to you. If you'd ever like to chat, get some things off your chest or simply rant, you can kik me at: NightGathers or skype me at: danielleswanasaur
I know you posted this some time back and I hope that you are still here reading.
I am a retired psychological counselor, and I would like to see you get some counseling. There are many counselors available, and many good books as well. YOU did NOT hurt your mother by telling what was going on. HE HURT YOUR MOTHER by raping her son...she is much better off with him ot of her life. Iam sure she was stunned and also felt guilty that she didn't know and wasn't able to stop it.
You are not responsible for her happiness, though I know you want her happy...but a man like that is not going to make her happy. My heart goes out to you, and I do understand, I was also the victim of rape, by my own father over a period of many months when I was a young teenager.
You will come to acceptance of what happened, and you will know that HE is responsible foro your mother's unhappiness and your unhappiness. There's a lesson in this for you though, and that is that YOU are not responsible for hurting her. HE is.
I hope in the future if bad things are done to you that you will love and trust your mom to tell her what is going on There is no NO reason to suffer abuse of any kind, that's what mom's are for, to protect our children, so tell your mom...don't be worried abot her being upset about it....your mom is a loving woman, soo trust her. And God bless you and her. The pain will pass, you wont forget the rapes but you WILL get through this. If the kids at school give you a hard time, change schools if possible. Bullying is a no no in schools now, so talk to your school counselor he or she can help keep that sort of thing down. And, realize tooo that those bullies are NOT your friends...they are evil little troll that get their jollies hurting others. That kind of person is not worth the nail on your little finger, so just blow them off and ignore them. Again, God bless you.
Im glad you finally had the courage to talk to at least your friend. That was impressive of you. As for those bullies they should know that what happened to you could also happen to them and just because it did happened that doesn't make you any less of a man or that in any way mean you are a homosexual or anything of the kind. What your orientation is does not base itself on experiences but on your own beliefs and likes. If girls interest you then they do. If guys interest you then they do but no mayter what you are perfect. I am proud of you.
Don't feel guilty! That piece of shit will DIE in prison!!!! I hope that bastards gets his f'ing face ripped off while he is still alive like in that movie hostel!!! I personally would love to beat him to a pulp unrecognizable, set him on fire and throw him out of a 50 story building; of course after I cut his dick off and shove it into his mouth!! In addition to that this bastard is going to burn in HELL! I will pray for you!
You can ask your mom to move you to different school if you feel uncomfortable at your school.
Don't worry about your mom being alone.
I have been happily living alone racing my daughter.
It's better to be alone than have garbage scumbag people in your life. I am sure your mom will feel the same.
I am glad Dave is out of your life.
Be brave and testify against him. Don't be afraid.
Keep remind yourself that you can do this -solve your problem.
You will feel better if you go to a therapist to talk about it and let him give you advice. I know its scary but it'll be worth it.I assure you. I am 13 so I can imagine what its like but I have never been raped before. Also try to find a girlfriend to forget about homosexuality.
JTM14 it took tremendous courage for you to share and seek help. Now it will take even more courage for you to seek the help you need to work toward emotional healing. Long after the physical body heals from rape the psych continues to suffer. You will need a good psychiatrist (because you are likely to develop Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) and an excellent Therapist (a good Psychiatrist can recommend one) because you will need extended psychotherapy with a therapist you absolutely trust. Your road to healing will be long and hard. If you will work through the healing now, you will save yourself unprecedented emotional crisis later in life. Trust me, I know. I was repeatedly raped between 4 and 14 and never told anyone and never sought help. I tried to handle it myself and just keep quiet about it. This was a huge mistake. The answer to your question is, "Yes, you CAN feel normal again." It's going to take some work, your willingness to let people who care about you help you, your willingness to let professionals help you, faith if that is part of your life, and a lot of time. I want you to know and remember this: You are special. You are somebody. You are important. You have value. You are not dirty, unclean, or disgraceful because of what that man did to you. You are an awesome, terrific, wonderful young man with a future and hope. You are loved absolutely and unconditionally and not anything or anybody can ever change that fact. Evil came after you and you survived it. You must be one strong young man. Darkness is going to pursue you as you seek healing but it cannot have you. When it comes look around for a window of grace through which the light will shine. You will find it in a person, your mom, a friend, a medical professional, a teacher, who knows? When you see it keep focused on that light. In time, slowly, the normalcy will replace the abnormalcy. You will never be free of the memories. You will be free of the pain, the fear, the night terrors, the flashbacks, the numbness, the hypervigilance. You will love, you will be excited, you will live again without having to hold your breath. You will be a man - the man you always wanted to be - the man you hoped to be. Start your healing now. Your tomorrow holds a terrific future! Good Luck!
I am glad that you got help I also was having my own step brother too this day makes me do oral and anal occasionally luckily I only see him every other weekend and he is usually at his friends, at first I was up in my bed because I still have a bunk bed and I am 13 lol, anyways he was down on his bed and was acting asleep and I also had to share a room with my 3 step brothers anyways J (Short for his name but don't wanna expose him) was the only one up with me and he started saying all this weird stuff asking me if I wanted to suck it and I said ew no and then he started coming over to my bed a climbing um the ladder to get to me so I climbed into the corner of my bed why he was weirdly moving to me and he grabbed me by my hair and through me onto my knees luckily I was on a bed so it didn't hurt, anyways and he pulled down his pants and he has a massive d**k for a 15 year old it was like 6 or 7 inches long which is higher than the average of an adult and he grabbed me by my hair and PUT IT IN MY MOUTH AND HE MADE ME SUCK IT, but now he makes me come up to his room because he has his own room now and he usually just starts out with me sucking it and then he moves down towards my bottom and the he does the so so and it really hurts like an unbearable pain he doesn't use a condom or a lube and goes very fast and hard because now he doesn't have a squeaky bed, and then when he is done he says you better come back up here tommorow and then I go use the bathroom and I well wipe with toilet paper because I guess he does his c** in me and then I go to wipe and it is like a light pink/red color and it goes on and on and on so I am hoping once he gets his driver liscence it will stop. I didn't think it would hurt that bad and it hurts like even 2 hours after that any tips for help or somethin that will make it hurt less please contact me at
Phone: (270) 734 0266
Also @JTM14 text m maybe we could become friends like do you have an Xbox? Or PS4
First i want to say that i am sorry... im 17 and a victim like yourself so i know what you are going through... i still havent confronted my abuser and its been 4 years. im still plagued by the images and because of it ive been through drug abuse and self punishment (cutting and burning) because i blame myself. im now in out-patient rehab and depressed all the time because i feel like ive given up, if you need someone to talk to im here.Things will get better. i promise. im here to help with anything i can.
Hi Kat. I'm so sorry I didn't notice your reply to my posting until now. For some reason, your reply was seperated from the rest of the replies and in it's own indentation so I didn't notice it. Man, I'm sorry for what you went through too. I know exactly how you feel. I guess I could understand about not being able to confront your abuser because I was so scared to tell anyone or confront Dave too. Dave had me so scared of him with his violence and threats that I didn't end up telling my mom or the police. I finally ended up telling my best friend. I think it's because he was my age and I felt less ashamed than telling an adult. But I have to tell you, even though my life's still been difficult after telling I'm sure glad I did tell. If you don't it will eat at you until you do. Does your parents know what happened? If your Mom is anything like my Mom, I hope she'll be there to support you for your sake. And believe me, I know about self blame. I blamed myself too. I kept thinking because I'm a boy, I should have been strong enough to fight Dave off of me. I felt like I should have done anything to stop it but I didn't. I just let it continue almost every day for four months until I finally got so scared from the bleeding and pain in my rectum that I told mainly so I could go to the doctor to see if I had some disease. But either way, it's not our faults as to what happened to us. I know that now. And please let anyone in that will love and support you whether it be your parents, gaurdian or friends. If you isolate yourself, you'll never get better. I know this for a fact, because I know I couldn't do this without my Mom, friends and even the wonderful advice I've gotten from the people here. I'm so sorry you felt so bad about yourself that you felt you had to hurt yourself through cutting and drugs. That is so sad because you shouldn't be the one hurting anymore, the one hurting now should be that sick bastard that hurt you. Have you ever considered counseling? You really should. I know at our age we might think it's embarressing to go to counseling but there are times like this where we have to put our pride aside in order to help make ourselves whole again. I've been going for a couple of weeks now with my Mom and in that short time it's been very helpful. I really hope you realise you're a good person and worth something and know that that evil person that touched you isn't even worth the dirt off the bottom of your shoe. I hope you have the same kind of support that I do and I do want to encourage you to let your loved ones in as much as possible and to consider counseling. Thank you so much for sharing your story with me. I can feel your pain. I hope it gets healed soon. Maybe we can help heal each other in knowing that we are not alone. Take care, JTM.
It does get better. I see now that your post was three years ago so you must know it gets better now. I think violence and rape needs to be talked about more. People are still keeping things like that private. many abusers say they will hurt the adults in the kids lives, that is always used. I tell my kids I am a adult I can protect myself, if anyone is saying that they are afraid and weak. I have experienced some sexua| trauma in the past. It was so sad to read your story it just broke my heart. you are so brave i understand the flinching. what finally helped me was body work, i got some massage and cranial therapy. Hope everyone finds healing.
I just happened to stumble across this forum and baby you are loved please tell someone and get the help that you need. Your mother will never be upset with you for the pain that has been inflicted on you by this man. He is sick and you need to know that all perpetrators threaten their victims by sayin that a loves on will get hurt. I pray to GOD that by now you arr safe and I pray that the LORD keeps youand protects you! I pray that you never be ashamed for what happend to you because you could not control it! I pray that you use your experience to help others in need! Remember that the LORD never puts more on you then you can bare stay strong and I hope that you are doing better by now! Amen! We all love you, and you will forever be in out prayers❤️
I (the 14yr old boy) just wanted to write back to let you all know that everything is working out better than I thought it would.
Mom and I are both going to joint counseling to help get over this. It has been very helpful into realizing just how much my Mom felt guilty for not being able to protect me and how her love for this man turned to hate as soon as she found out that he hurt me.
It made me realize that I didn't have to worry that she'd have taken Dave's side over mine if I had told her, because she wouldn't have. Mom is trying to overcome her feelings of guilt and helplessness while I try to get over the feelings of shame and dirtyness.
Since this has all happened, I am having a tough time not feeling dirty and bad about myself, however this counselor has been so understanding. Her name is Ginny and she just listens and she doesn't judge me, she just makes me feel comfortable talking about those most humilIating, painful times he raped me. I feel better having Mom and I do this together.
If one thing good came out of this, it has brought my Mom and I even closer together. And as for the kids at school, surprisingly not a single one has mocked me or looked at me funny. A lot of the kids came up to me and said how sorry they were that I went through that and that they wouldn't know what they'd do if it happened to them. They said I was brave.
That made me shed tears because I had been feeling not brave at all. My friends have been so supportive and even the teachers have as well. It's been such a relief to me knowing I don't have to hang my head down in shame while walking the school halls.
And best of all, the district attorney has met with my Mom and I and has told us that we have a good case against Dave because of the medical records of my internal injuries, the semen found inside my rectum, and his semen found on my underclothes collected as evidence.
They are presenting all this damaging evidence to "Dave" to see if he stops denying the charges and pleads guilty to spare me having to testify at a trial. But if it does come to a trial and I have to testify, the district attorney assured my Mom and I that we have a strong case and that he believes that a jury would find Dave guilty and he'd have a lenghty prison sentence.
I'm not too happy with the idea of having people looking at me as I tell complete strangers about all the disgusting things Dave did to me but if it will put him in jail away from me and my Mom then it will be worth it.
So for the most part, things are getting a little better day by day. I still have trouble sleeping at night and have nightmares and I get much more startled when someone comes up behind me but I am working hard on trying to get better.
I want my life back and I want to be a kid again. I want to feel good about myself again and not feel dirty anymore. But one thing I know is that I am loved by my Mom completely and by my friends and family and that alone will help get me through this.
As for all of you that gave me such caring advice and support, thank you so much. I am so glad I did an internet search and it brought me to this site. You all have helped me more than you know. I know that most, if not all of you are female victims but you still opened up your hearts to a boy victim, when unfortunately boys don't get much support.
Thank you all, especially you BlueRose who seemed so caring and worried about me and also SoulfulSurvivor for your kind words and great advice.
I really think you helped me find the courage to tell.
In fact, I showed my Mom this site today and she read what I wrote which made her cry and then she read what you all wrote as advice and she wants to thank you all for taking care of her boy when she couldn't.
JTM --- Thank you for the update. I have often thought about you and your mom and was hoping that the two of you were getting counseling. Thus, I'm very pleased that the both of you are working on healing.
It's also good to hear that no one at school is giving you a hard time---instead your schoolmates and teachers have been very supportive. This, I'm sure, is making it easier for you to heal.
Whenever you feel "dirty", just remind yourself that none of this was your fault. You didn't ask for this abuse. In fact, you tried to resist and the perv had you thinking that he would hurt your mom if you told. Instead, you should hold your head high because you are very brave. Also, remind yourself that by speaking up, you are preventing this perv from hurting anyone else again. You have spared untold others from similar abuse.
I'm going to repeat what SoulfulSurvivor said to you:
May you find peace, comfort, and strength in the days, weeks, and months to come, and may you be a beacon of hope to other victims. God bless you.
Keep those words in mind as you heal. Perhaps someday, when you've healed, you may want to reach out to others who have been victimized as you were. You will be able to show them that you understand what they are going through plus you can show them that healing is possible.
May I ask this --- could you please keep us informed as to how things are going? I think we will all breathe a sigh of relief when the perv is convicted and locked up for years to come!
Do take care. All the best to you and your mom! Once again, thank you for the update.
Wow....I cannot tell you how relieved I am for you, J. In most cases, parents (especially, single parents) will understand what has happened to their child, though there are some that take the side of the abuser/rapist. I truly pity those parents and the innocent victims.
You are a valuable human being and you have something very important to do in your lifetime. I don't know what it is, and I can't say if it will tie into your terrible experiences. What I do know is that a child as brave, honest, and courageous as you are has "Something Important To Do."
Blessings upon your mother - I can imagine her sense of guilt because I carried my own for what happened to my sons for many, many years. Thank goodness you're both in counseling - she will have her own healing to do, and you yours. You will not be able to heal for her, but she'll lean on you a great deal in months to come for a great many reasons. Never be tempted to speak accusingly to her about your horrific ordeal, no matter how angry you get with her. When it comes to that point in your healing, scream it at your counselor and get it out, but never use this against your mother to get even or deliberately harm her. I have a feeling that you wouldn't do this, but it's just a reminder to you.
As for feeling dirty? You're allowed to - what that Thing did to you was cruel, sick, and he'll get what's coming to him when he enters prison, I promise you. Having said that, keep in mind that what he DID was filthy, but you, dear child, are not dirty, at all. These feelings are normal and will soon be replaced by understanding and acceptance that you were the victim of a sadistic Rat Sh*t - you will come to terms with these feelings, in due time, and move forward on a positive healing path.
There is NO DIFFERENCE between a male or female victim. The only difference is gender. A victim is a victim, and I'll say that it is a personal mandate for me to respond to people who have suffered cruelties at the hands of another human being, regardless of gender, race, creed, sexua| orientation, etc. If just one person breaks the cycle of violence and abuse, that's one person out of that wheel and, one day, the cycle of violence and abuse will collapse as a socially accepted behavior.
As Blue Rose has asked, please post back as time goes on. And, always remember: you are a very valued and loved human being, and you have something important to do in your lifetime.
this made me cry im really happy for u having spoken and u truely are strong i hope u have a better and a great life ahead of u i know it will be hard to forget this but i hope u burn those memories and live a happy life good luck
I am a rape survivor in my opinion. The person that did it was my own husband.
I admit that due to social and family dynamics over a 31 year period as well as the needs of the navy we had not had sex since before we were married.
Then he was trapped in the marriage because I am bi polar, and due to the cost that the state could potentially have his petition was denied for divorce seven years after our wedding.
My husband came back from the navy with ten years accrued senority at his civilian job. That was about two years more than about half the workforce, His father wanted him to reenlist in the navy and leave his civilian job to others. In his final refit they kept him on duty 106 hours straight. When he collapsed his blood pressure was up to 225 over 180. That was the end of the reenlistment plan we had. He was diagnosed as a paranoid from exhaustion, to many months under water, a total of 38 months in three and a half years, no leave or days off.
His father told us how his son needed controlling. How we could not let him have anything he might equate to a pleasurable activity because he would not agree to do things for others if it interfered with that activity.
I was told I had to control him. the plan was when he proved he could be the compromiser then I would be a real wife and have sex with him. This was an open ended promise that was never fulfilled. My own father in law helped me find dates because my husband worked 12 hours a day 365 day a year. He said just because this is what is required of my son doesn't mean his pretty wife should be without a social life
Thank you for sharing your story. My son recently opened up to me and I came here in search of answers. The bravery that lead you to open up to your friend will lead you through this. Reading your posts I can see confidence in you emerging more and more and it gives me hope. Reading what your mom had to say made me feel less alone. Be kind to yourself when things feel hard. Thank you for sharing your story. I can't tell you how much it helped me to read it.
I want to say i have been counciling teenagers onlienf or the past decade, when i read your story i was moved to tears. And so sorry that you had to endure this, i too had simular thing happen tome so i know how you feel personally. I shared your story with some collegues and kids who are also suffering a simular problem to show and use your story as an example in courage. You are a very brave boy. Bay god bless you andkeep you may he lif up his divide countenance upon you, and give you and your mother peace.
Thank you so much Bluerose and Soulfulsurvivor for such nice and encouraging words. You two are so very kind.
Like I said before, I'm so glad I found this forum.
I wanted to share the happy and relieving news that I finally got my HIV tests results back and they are negative. I was so worried because it was taking so long for the results to come back. All the other STD test results came back quickly so I was worried as to why the HIV one didn't.
My Mom was so great at trying to comfort me and stay calm but I know inside she was just as worried as me. Then we got the call and I think hearing the results of that call was just as scary as finally telling my best friend I was being raped.
The doctor told my Mom that the results were negative, however it takes up to 6 months for the HIV virus to be detected so I will have to take another HIV test in about that time.
For now, I'm very relieved and happy. Now onto Dave, he's still denying the charges even after being told of all the evidence against him so now we're forced to go to trial. I was hoping that bastard wouldn't be such a coward and just admit his fault and spare me and my Mom from having to relive this nightmare. So now there's a pretrial hearing set for next May 16th. Man, everything seems to be like a waiting game now. I just want it to be over with and as I said before, I am going to feel so humiliated having to give all those sick details of what he did to me to a bunch of strangers but I want him to pay for what he did to me, so I know what I have to do and I will find the courage to do it. The counseling has helped.
In a counsel session Mom said she felt like she failed as a Mom because she didn't protect me and I told her that she didn't know so how could she?
I told her that I didn't blame her and that I never will and that I loved her. We both hugged and Ginny(the counselor) said it was a great beginning on healing.
Mom and I are closer than ever now. She's actually been my rock through all of this. My one regret is that I didn't tell her myself and that she found out through the police, but I can't change that now.
I'm doing okay physically now. My internal injuries have pretty much healed and I'm not in any pain anymore.
Emotionally, I'm still dealing. I still have trouble sleeping. I've been experiencing my rapes all over again in nightmares and wake up either in a cold sweat or screaming in which wakes my Mom up and she comes running in my room.
So my counselor has told me to do a few things that might help like to take a warm soothing bath before bedtime, think positive thoughts, keep a lamp light on, keep on some soothing music softly and even have a pet sleeping next to me can help.
I tried some of these ideas already and they didn't work so now my counselor recently told me to write down the recurring bad dream and what happens in it. Then she told me to rewrite the dream in any way that I want so that it is no longer frightening and has a positive outcome and before going to sleep, go through the dream as rewritten, going over the new scriipt in my mind constantly to help re-program my mind.
I don't know if it will work but at this point I'll try anything. It's just hard to not replay or erase those awful painful moments with Dave in my mind so I'm worried this idea won't work either.
So my question is, does it ever get easier?
Do the nightmares go away eventually?
Another thing I noticed is that I thought I was okay and didn't feel ashamed anymore because my friends have been so supportive but I didn't even think about all my other relatives like my aunts and uncles.
Last weekend, Mom and I went to my aunt Susan and Uncle Bobby's house and I felt like I was under a microscope. My aunt and cousins hugged me so gently, it made me feel like I was made of glass or something and my aunt had tears in her eyes.
She couldn't even look at me that much. And when my uncle went to hug me, I flinched and backed away.
Honestly, I didn't mean to. I felt so bad. It was such an awkward moment. I hate this, but I can't stand being touched by any male anymore even if it's someone I love and trust. I wish I didn't feel this way, but I can't help it.
My cousin has an Xbox so we played games but I could still hear my mom, aunt and uncle in the other room talking about how fragile I am and how they don't know if I'll ever get over what happened to me.
So even though I thought I was coping, there are still a lot of things that are emotionally hard for me. SoulfulSurvivor, you said that your sons suffered something horrible too?
Can I ask what it was?
If it's too personal and painful for you, I understand but I was wondering whatever has happened to them, how have they coped with it?
Are they okay now and what have you and they done to help overcome whatever happened to yous?
I'm asking out of concern and for any similar situation advice that might be helpful for me to help cope with some of these emotional things that I just can't get rid of.
I'm becoming frustrated with myself because I want to be normal again. I don't want to flinch every time someone goes to hug me or have people talking about how fragile I am. I want to feel good again.
SoulfulSurvivor, you say you believe I'm strong and have a purpose in life to do good and I thank you but why can't I have that same faith in me as you do?
Will I feel good about myself again?
And do you really think I'm stronger than I think I am and will be able to face Dave at the trial?
My Mom and everyone says so but when will I ever believe it?
It seems more easier to accept what you, BlueRose and other survivors say because you can understand what I'm going through.
My Mom and everyone has been so supportive but they really don't understand what I'm going through because it didn't happen to them.
Hello J I read ur post n I am trully sry that you went through all this nightmare! No one deserves to go through any kind of harmful trauma! I my self am a survivor of rape. I was four at the time. It was a friend of the fam n later became a step cousin. He was 18 n I was 4. He was a total monster when he sexually abused me! Penetrated me made me bleed. He too beat me bad that I actually past out at times when he would beat n rape me. And he too threatend to kill my mom n my siblings n my dad. I lived with the embarrassment and fear for 17 long years n would always blame my self for what had happen to me when I was four! ... keep your head up. You'll see that time heals. Im a 29 year old man and do have a healthy life with my fam but specially with my mom! My mom also blamed her her self as your mom blamed her self too. But time will show her that u guys are not at fault! I'm glad things are turning out for the best for you. Keep your mind distracted n do much activity that u enjoy doing. Playing the drums n other instruments really helped me heal my soul n heart! Ull have ur ups n downs, but its only temporary! Ull be fine and you and your mom will have a healthy life style! My prayers are with you. Keep ur mind and heart busy with what ur heart desire! (Music, acting, sports, what ever it is u love to do) and share it with ur love ones specially with your beautiful mom! God bless you brotha! Need any advise or just talk feel free ro email me! Much love from my part to u and ur mom!
I am truly sorry that you have had to endure all this at such a young age. Know that you are a Survivor and that you are strong, even though you don't think you are. Lots of people could not cope with what you have gone through, so that proves that you are strong and that you will survive and thrive. If you can overcome all this then you will be able to surmount all obstacles that life throws at you. You are also strong in that you were so worried about your mom and her feelings, putting her above yourself. I hope that in the future you will know that you should always come first to a degree. Your mother was in shock with her reaction and it was a little selfish of her to react that way without thinking of your feelings and your shame and how you were trying to protect her, instead of protecting yourself. All she could think about was how she failed you and not how you were the adult and protected her, even after. You are truly a sweet, innocent, forgiving child and you never were dirty or guilty of anything. This reminds me of a story about a teacher who asks if anyone wants a dollar and then he spits on it, crumples it up and steps on it rubbing it in the dirt and asks if anyone still wants it and everyone still says yes, because the worth of the dollar is still there. No matter what anyone says or does to you, you still have the same worth and value. There is nothing that anyone can do to you to make you less than the wonderful, pure person you are. What they do is a reflection of them, not of you. You are clean and good and a survivor and a light to others that they can overcome.
I'm so sorry that you were raped by this creep. I, myself, was raped by a homosexual while I was recovering from my tank accident 11 years ago while I was in the Army. I totally understand what you are going through. How may I pray for you?
I am so sorry that you were raped by this creep. I, myself, was raped by a homosexual while I was recovering from my tank accident 11 years ago while I was in the Army. I totally understand what you are going through. How may I pray for you?
I came upon this article and your experience broke my heart. I would never live with myself if anything happened to my little brother. It's hard, but I hope you are starting to feel better about yourself, as you are a survivor, you are brave, if you weren't, you would probably taken your own life, and given up. But you didn't. Reading your story made my cry, and appreciate my life more, as I am under depression and I self harm. Silly, right? When there are people that have it much worse. I am glad that you and your mom share a stronger, closer bond, and I hope that bast*rd is in jail for a long, long time. I wish all the best for you. I know that incidents like this can scar one for a lifetime, but I believe you are strong, and will find much great happiness in the future that will help you forget. You sir, are a hero. Fight on.
Lots of love.
you need to tell your mother, a mothers love is allways their for her child and if she doesnt listen go to the police
also if there is someone that you can trust like your grandparents father you need to let them know not to
Hello I know you are scared anyone would be with an animal like that one thing you have to understand is sex offenders always threaten the victim with hurting there loved ones rape is about control not sex yes you can get STDs like chlamydia herpes etc you can even tearcyour colon. I know you are scared you need to tell someone you can trust and play stupid around this whole until you get the police to get to yourmoms work to keep her and you safe and you need to go to the hospital if you aare too scared just remember one thing he is already hurting you and your mother if you don't do anything now you both could die from sexual physical abuse. Your mom will not blame you shell probably want to kill him that's why get help now and doctors can tell when a child was raped if you survive through this he will do it again God Bless You and please keep in touch how you and your mom are there is light at the end of the tunnel and he should be exevuted
PS this is not you or your mothers fault this is one sick man who needs to be away from innocent people The sooner he is out of your lives the better it will be and you will get through this and heal God works in mysterious ways
I know that this is an old post but I have a few things to say.
I am here because I used the exact search terms that you used. I am a student conducting research and wishing to give service to the cause of male rape victims and the different obstacles they face in comparison to women. There truly are more resources for women, because there are more reported cases by women. Rape is the #1 un-reported crime, because of these feelings.
I am not a professional that can help you in therapy. I am glad that you are seeing one, and more glad that your mom is seeing one with you. I am relieved that this situation was dealt with so well, and I agree with the others that say that you are a tough kid, and brave as hell. I think you will be OK, because you are trying to be OK. You do have the strength to get through this, because you got help. You reached out, you spoke up. I have so much respect for you. And I don't hand that out so easily.
I came across this post in my research, like I said. There are some pretty mean and judgemental people on the internet. I am glad that you did not take offense, or get scared away from this site because I feel like this was your way of testing the water, to get some help, or at the least, relief from the anxiety this was causing you (and likely still is).
As I read, I was so sad for you. And honestly,impressed with your grammar and wordage. I was most impressed with your extreme self awareness, and your keen insight. Your way of saying how you feel or what happened in a very, scarily, real way.
When I read a few posts down where someone did not think you were 14, I was upset. I do realize anyone can join a site like this, but making an assumption such as this, well....
Basically, the person thought you were lying about your age because you are a very clever kid. You are obviously very bright, and decently educated. But here's the kicker....you are NORMAL!!! Quit telling yourself that you aren't. I do understand that you don't feel quite right. You are still experiencing PTSD symptoms. That is normal! For what has happened and what you have been through, that is absolutely your soul trying to purge the events.
Your counselor is awesome for having you rewrite your dreams. I would go one step further, and try to practice lucid dreaming. When I was younger, I could wake myself from a nightmare or tell myself I am dreaming and change the dream. Ask your counselor if that is ok.
My point is, that you are meant for something. You are an awesome human being, and so is your mom. I burst into tears, from the things you wrote. You said them in such a way that I truly could feel your pain. I read on, and I realized how your mom must have felt reading that. How hard that is for the two of you. And I think you are both brave. I think you both have huge hearts, and I think that soon your mom won't have to walk on eggshells. She is trying to forgive herself, just as you are trying to forgive yourself for not telling her. I hope that this is being talked about, too. It is important for victims to ask for help, but you cannot feel bad for your fear of telling, this too, is NORMAL. You cannot blame yourself for not trusting your mom, it is not to say she wasn't to be trusted, obviously she was, but the point is that another adult had broken your trust, and it is normal to feel like you can't trust anyone. YOu were brave enough to tell your friend, and they were brave to do the right thing and get you help. You are very fortunate to have a friend at that age that cares so much for you.
You WILL feel comfortable in your own skin, it will just take time. I just want you to know that by posting your story, you have already helped many, many others.
You have the power to make people empathize with you. And from your OBVIOUS skills in the written word, I would recommend you take some extra English courses, or follow a path that you have equal skill in. I personally have a lot of respect for you, and I hope that if you ever return to this site and read what you wrote, you will feel that same respect for yourself. You are brave. You are courageous and you are strong! You will be one heck of a man someday, keep your chin up.
And as for my research, I am working on ways to filter hateful comments from websites such as this, and to find as many resources for male rape victims as possible. I find it atrocious the lack of help that is available, and how hard it is to find resources for men and boys who likely find it hard to speak up to begin with. They should not be made to feel that all resources are solely for females!
I am glad you were able to get a good response from people on this site, and I hope in the near future that victims of any gender have equal resources.
I wish you the best, I really do.
Hello Sweetie, my name's Jess, I am 14 also, and i am a girl, i cannot image what kind of hell you are going through with this monster rapist you are having to live with.
My mum is a nurse, so i do know a bit about bodily health.
I just wanna say first, it is important to know that NONE of this is your fault at all !!! Xxx you are the victim here, and i am soooo sorry for you that you have had to have this happen to you in your life. But to answer your questions,:
1. Yes, You can get infections and diseases from sex. They are called STI's (Sexually Transmitted Infection) or STD's (Sexually Transmitted Disease) they can be quiet nasty and can cause serious damage... BUT!, I am pretty sure you don't have one, Because...
2. It is normally for a man to blead from you back passage after he had experienced rough anal sex or rape. You'd be surprised how common it is actually, you know, even a girl blead from her privates the first time she is penetrated (experiences sex) you are also in pain because you are definatly not used to anal penetration, and i take it no form of condom or lubrication was used, (what gay men used to have sex) witch would make it even more painful :'( . So Sorry For You xxx
3. Bye the way, Have you ever heard of the drug, Codeine Or Co - Codimals ??? They would help a lot with the pain, trust me, i have a lot of long term medical problem (i've had all my life) and i am in pain quite a bit, and they really help, they are almost as strong as morphine! Just tell your mum u have a headache or something, and ask her to get u it, but eat a cracker first, they can be harsh on the stomach, and u could put a cream called Germoliene (Ger - Mo - Lean) not sure of spelling, on, it would help with the soar ness, it has annastetic in it.
4. I live in england, not sure about you, but, we have a new law over here that my social worker told me about and it means 14 year olds can go to the doctor by themselfs without there parents finding out, so, for instance, girls or boys can get the pill or condoms without there parents knowing, maybe you have something like that where you live, you prob can go docs by yourself, google it for your area. Xxx
5. This is not your fault, you do not have to live or put up with this there is a helpline that you can call called childline, there number is 0800 11111, there conversations are completely confidential, they wont tell anyone about what u have said, unless you tell them to, you can also ask them to just pick you up and they will just say, "I'm 14, I've been raped, I'm physically hert, i need help, please come and get me!" and they will xxx.
I really hope i have helped you, and if you have any other Questions DO NOT hesitate to ask me, I'll make my email vis sable to you. Hope I here back from you soon when things have improved for you xxxx i'm sending my love sweetie, xxx ask for help, and stay strong xxxxx
I was sexually assulted a number of time's by by step father, it started when I was 12, my mother and he would get drunk she would pass out and he would come into my bed room and force me to suck him off, i was in another part of the house and my mother was passed out she would not hear me scream out as he forcrd me to do this, at 17 I left home and moved in with my aunt to get away from him not realizing my younger sister was the next target for him, I thought she was safe, she ended up running away also I did not know this until a few year's ago, I am 50 she is 49, my mother passed away when I was 38, my sister blamed me for the encounters she had and did not talk to me for 20 years, I am gay she said if I would have kept it up he would not have botherd her, I will carry that guilt every day for the rest of my life
I red your massage and I think,you should talk with someone that you can trust and dave dosent know him/her but probably they say go and talk with your mother but be aware of dave cause he might check you all 24 hours and about your bleeding I think its serious and you should go to a doctor and you should do it fast!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
tell you mom as soon as possible!!!
i dont now how long after ive seen this and all i want to say plz dnt be afraid and if im late i hope u have did something about that pig only u could end this i hope u have done something and made sure that pedophile got taught his lesson
You poor thing, tell an adult that you can confide in. People like that can easy manipulate victims into keeping secrets, but you have to think you might not be the last.v
I'm 14 and I can't imagine what you've been through, you need to tell a doctor and an adult to get him locked away.
Also there are child lines in which you can get supports! I wish you the best, you're an amazing soul.
Remember how strong you are.
Hi I was molested by an uncle at 14 . My parents didn't believe me and the constant passes went on for two years. From reading your story I think you should go to a teacher ,trusted family member , or a friends parent. Tell them what is going on and get the Police involved. He won't have a chance to hurt you or your Mother once this is reported. He will go directly to jail. This is not your fault you did nothing to cause this situation and he doesn't love you because no one who loves you treats you this way. Please report this as soon as possible it really is the best way to stop what is going on. If you have any younger siblings he may start doing it to them so it's best to stop it now.
I agree with charkee I hate to know that ur in this position so please promise me you'll do as charkee said please. p.s as soon as all this happens and wen hes being taken away do me a huge favor and tell him that TrustMe0000 is a very sensitive person and if he ever tries it again I will personally come and make his life a living hell and if he ever lays a hand on u I will end him ..thata all thanks.... bye love u guys and please tell me wen it all stops
This post is over 4 years old. Also, I wish to caution ANYONE with regard to responding to any solicitation to call or email ANYONE to "talk" about personal trauma. It could be totally innocent. Then again, it could be totally PREDATORY.
I agree. You say you want to protect your mom well then report the man who is abusing you. Because if ypu don't and trust me I dont meant to scare you or anything but if this gets out before you tell someone not only will he go to jail but your mom might also be in trouble with the authorities since she should have noticed or done something about it. As for the bleeding it most like is scraping of the anal walls due to constant abuse.Those small cuts are thus not allowed to heal properly and so with every evacuation the cuts or sores may get infected. Right now it might be nothing but if it continues then it might turn to something more serious.
Anal rape is a VERY serious matter. The bleeding I would suspect id from the internal anal sphincter being torn. This tissue is very delicate and easily becomes perforated or torn by force.
You need to go to an emergency and TELL them exactly what happened; they will call the police and this animal will be arrested. Your mother most certainly MUST know and right NOW. Do not delay because this is a VERY serious situation.
little man call me anytime i will help u resolve these issues with him nor ur mom or the police will ever know i promise 501-744-9969 i promise i can make him stop hurting u little buddy my father was also a pedo butt never went this far call or text me anytime i will help u bud
Hello, honey, I am so unbelievably upset to read your story and my daughter was also raped a little younger than you and she could not tell me either. She found a way by telling a friend whose father and his friend who were ministers in our religion came to the house to tell me for her and then they took us both to the police station so we pressed charges and as the man was such a violent man and would do worse as he would see as we were getting him into trouble as they knew of him and they helped us move to a new town away from this man and his family who were all on his side.
Your mother does need to know honey as as upsetting as it will be she needs to get this man out of both your lives as quickly as possible. If there is anything I can do for you please let me know as I will be happy to help in any way that I can.
My prayers are with you sweetie and hope you can find the courage to tell someone who can be with you and they maybe can tell your mother for you and if you are in a religion the ministers there may assist and tell her for you and the police seemed to listen to them and made things a lot easier for us I am sure.
Sending you all my love XXXOOOOOOOOOO
hey there. firstly you need to understand the main way such people make u do things is like. if u dont do it or if u tell somebody. il hurt ur mom or family. please dont ever get threatened wth that ever. he cant do anything if you take a strict action. now ur thinking that. if its normal bleeding its ok . i dont wanna tell anybody. please. u also need to think now that its only about you. its also about ur mom . u love your mom so how can u let ur mom live with such a person??? if u tell anybdy . he ll hurt ur mom . that what he said right? but. dear if u dont tel. he ll in future harm and ur mom even more than u think. u r young and confused but please follow my advice. u need to tell ur mom anyhow. its for her safety too just remember this. think like he is a demon n u need to protect urself n ur mom from him. only you can do it. for u for mom. nobdy else will come and help...yo need to take charge. n yup whenever u r going to tell ur mom or police. do it when he just rapes you next. so that his DNA can come. secondly now. you have to do another thing. wherever he rapes you. place a camera. good if u have. or borrow from friend. anything. even a phone and before he comes in room. hide it a bit some where like a flower vase..between flower..leaves etc. anywhere u can. turn on recording n just get that recording. thats all you need. n yes u have to be very carefull. keep all its tones. alarms on silent. b carefull. once you manage to get a vedio. its best. n just b strong. he cant do anything n you please trust b on this. your mom will be with you. yup trust me. she will b hurt. real bad. but only for you but she will protect u and take cr of u. bt if u dont . u r even putting her life at risk. so stand tall young man..u r a strong child of god. have faith n now. when you have the chance to take a stand for u n mom. dont let it go away. as per disease. u wont die. its cn be just rashes of friction or can be disease too but u wont find out unless u consult someone n if u dont. even a small rash can turn up later into a big disease. only if u postpone. it will get worsened. now b strong. plan things. now you r the planner. not him. plan it all. let him do it. then take a deep breadth. pray n without having any single thought. go n tell it to mum. she deserves to know. please do it. il pray for u and loads of blessings
I know it has been 5 years but I still want to know what happened next! If that pervert is still out there or (since your 19 now) stalking and still harassing you, remember god is on your side and he will never leave you. Pray to him (if "David" still harasses you) asking for guidance and peace and to remove your burden of sorrow. IT HELPS HE HELPS. He washes he cleanses he makes you a new.
If he is still out there, you have me and everyone on your side, don't let him control you
Oh honey please listen to me. As a mother I can tell you that there is NO threat he could do to your mom that would make her scared of him and not protect you. Your mother would want to know, so she can put an end to it immediately. Go to school, tell your teacher and they will call your mother to your school, you can get the police to pick him up witout you or your mother even seeing him. I'm sure the.next stop will be the hospital to make sure you are ok. Do not let this monster continue abusing you, your mom will not want that either. I'll be praying for you.
You need to go to the police and report the incident immediately. Don't worry about your mom upset. Don't put up with this. If you put up, then this ass will continue to abuse you.
If he rape you again, go straight to the hospital and tell them so they could collect his DNA as evidence. Otherwise, he could deny it.
It broke my heart to read your story.
I am a single mom with a 10 year old girl. I reminded her everyday that nobody can touch or see her private part. Even I can't see her private part.
I tell her to report to police if anyone hurt her and touch her inappropriately. I also told her to tell me everything, and not be afraid.
With that being said, you must report this incident to the police so this ass guy can go to jail, so he can't hurt you or other kids. They will register him as sex offender FOR LIFE!
Good luck and be brave. You can do it!
go to any one at your school principal security and tell them you have the rights to be and feel safe they will call appropriate authorities and get you and your mom protection from him him I know from what I went through
Your mother would love you no matter what, so when you get the chance be honest with her. No matter what a mother that loves you would choose her son over a coward (Dave) if he continues, send his ass to jail. No one should have to go through this and I am so sorry. But for real, be honest with your mother ans explain what has happened. She will always care and love you no matter what. If she doesn't right away, try catching him red handed. He deserves to go to prison. Good luck.
If you are anally being raped by your mother's boyfriend, I suggest you call the police for child molestation. As for the bleeding, it might be because you have never had that done to you and your body doesn't know what to do. And I am so sorry this is happening to you. If he ever does it again, try to defend yourself! If you have anything that could temporarily stop him or knock him out, use that.
I wanted to cry when reading what you went through. It really really moved me. I think you were so brave and deserve a medal for coping with such a situation. I wish I could have helped you. I understand all this happens a few years ago. Could you spare a few lines to say how things worked out? I imagine it's part of your life you want to forgot, if so, please ignore me and except my wishes for you to have good life.
I heard your story JTM14, I dont know how to express my emotions to you. when I read your story, I broke down crying, I am so sorry for what happened to you when you were 14. I am very hopefull that you are okay now. The story got in to right at my heart and I feel for you. I feel sadness, empathy for you. What happened to you is not right and it should never happen to a 14 year old boy. The tress and trauma you went through must been unexpressible. I wish I was there with you at that time and I wish I cold hold you tight, and hugg your very much and never let you go. I hope to to this day, on this day that you are still alive and well. I want to be wth you and hug you and comfort you and everything and anything for you. The horror of reading this story touched me and I have been thinking and thinking about it over and over. I hope you can email me privatly to talk more. I can tell you that your not alone, I was sexually asullted when I was five till I was 7 1/2. I know what you feel and the pain your gong through. The PTSD and Anxiaty is a total stresser. I have depression and I treid to kill myself at least 7 times now. I hope you pulled through this tramatic time in your life and I hope very much that your happier to this day and many days to come. My best wishes and luck to you JTM14.
PS - Please email me to talk more, I would love to chat with you.
I'm hoping someone on here can give me some advice for my acne problem. I'm pretty depressed about it. I'm 27yrs old (female) and have been struggling with acne since I was 11-12. I'm really exhausted over it. I've tried so much, even was desperate and went on Accutane when I was in high school.
I know it shouldn't, but it has prevented me from living my life to its fullest. So many times I stay inside because of my face. I cry about it all the time too. It has really done a number on me psychologically all these years. I would really appreciate ANY advice at this point. I'm sorry ahead of time for how long my post may be, I want to make sure I include everything I can. Thanks!
Current health problems
-Endometriosis (on vagina, left ovary, and colon). I had laparoscopic surgery for it about a year and half ago. The first surgeon I saw wanted to remove my ovary and colon, and parts of my vagina.... I RAN to get a second opinion. 2nd surgeon wanted to remove only part of my ovary and remove the rest of endo without harming organs. I went with the 2nd surgeon! Unfortunately, Endo returned 7 months after surgery with VENGEANCE! I couldn't leave the house for a month the pain was so bad. No matter what doctor I went to they all wanted to put me of pain meds (oxy...) and said there nothing else that can do except another surgery, what I have is "incurable". I refused the pain meds and on my own changed my diet, started acupuncture. My pain is almost 100% gone now. I do still have endo.
-Suffer from Ovarian cysts. I've had them since early high school. Most went away on their own. Have one now, am shrinking it naturally. One cyst needed to be removed through laparo surgery (same time as endo removal) because it grew to the size of a tennis ball. All cysts have always been benign.
-I STRONGLY believe I have PCOS but every time I ask a doctor to test me for it they dismiss it right away because I am not obese and have a regular cycle
-Allergic to benzoyl peroxide, gold, and shellac. (I try my best to avoid all)
Symptoms I'm dealing with
-Acne (only on face)
-Hirsutism (I hate this... :( . This also has affected my life)
-Hard for me to gain weight no matter how much/what I eat (I'm 5'2 and about 100lbs)
-Trouble sleeping, going/staying asleep. I've never slept well my entire life. My mom said even as a baby I was the same way.
-I have lots of energy in the morning and night. I crash in the middle of the day around 4pm-6pm. After, my energy goes back up again.
-Pain in joints. (palm of hands and knees)
-Any cut, pimple, scar, takes a LONG time to heal
-My husband and I tried to conceive for 9 months last year, had one early miscarriage.
-rarely eat meat
-trying to eat raw first half of day
-trying to have lots of tea throughout day (green tea, raspberry leaf, yogi teas...)
- 2 scoops of Green Vibrance daily
- 500mg B5 daily
- 1-2 grams Inositol daily
- 500mg vitamin C daily
-I also take Great Lakes Collagen (green bottle) every morning
-Although my skin looks horrible and unhealthy, my head hair is and has always been super healthy and very long.
-I don't exercise much
-never have trouble with bowel movements. I go about 4 times a day. never constipated etc...
-I am under a lot of stress, a lot of people rely on me and it weighs heavy on me
-I currently use only vegan (non shellac) mineral foundation. no other makeup.
-I remove makeup with coconut oil, wash my face with lush herbalism, and then apply apple cider vinegar (diluted with water) to my face, every night.
Thanks again for taking the time to read all of this! I've tried a lot over the years to cure my acne but nothing :/.... I haven't yet tried the bowel/parasite/kidney/liver cleanses. Do you think this is a good place to start?
Few suggestions for fine tuning your diet so it helps you heal. In case you are sensitive or allergic to any of the foods suggested, avoid those foods.
Base your diet on the next foods:
- raw vegetable like cucumbers, peppers, carrots, onions etc
- occasionally cooked vegetables
- raw ocean fish like raw salmon, raw cod, raw halibut, tuna if at all available. Raw fish must be very fresh, or it can cause intestinal problems.
- occasionally cooked ocean fish
- raw or cooked shrimps if you feel they are good for you
- fruit and berry smoothies if you feel they are good for you
- occasionally dried fruits with no additives added. Most dried fruits today contains preservatives !
- raw nuts like almonds, coconut, brazil nuts, walnuts
- occasionally fried nuts
- seaweed like nori
- eggs, including raw eggs if you feel they are good for you
- other fish or shellfish if you feel they are good for you
- beans if you feel they are good for you
Eliminate from your diet for 3 months all
- grains, including rice
- milk and milk products
- all foods with added sugar
- all industrially processed foods
- all foods with food additives , preservatives , benzoates , sorbates , citrates , nitrates , nitrites , etc
- all fried foods
- all meat except occasionally some chicken, if you feel you need some meat
- all foods sold ready made, packaged, canned, pre-made, processed, etc ...
- avoid restaurant foods as you have no way of knowing what it contains
Thanks so much! This all makes sense, thanks for explaining everything. I will be changing my diet right away and start reading about everything you posted. One last question, should I jump straight into a liver cleanse or do a parasite + Colon Cleanse first?
Hey, I'm NOT a doctor nor a dermatologist nor some health food nut, so, I can't and won't tell you what to use, or not to use, but, maybe my past experience can help YOU as it did for me!
From ages 10 to around 14 or 15 I had the absolute WORST facial acne and already felt really shiiii-tty about that enough already, than along with the nasty things other kids, and yeah, even some immature adults would say to me each and every single rotten day, and the rejections I would get from selfish shallow bitches-(who missed out on one great guy)-, I just couldn't take no more and decided I had to do something!
Here's how I got rid of Acne, and this I can tell you worked for ME!
I really hated how I looked, but, I couldn't afford any expensive meds. or concoctions sold in stores, so what I did was sorta pretty simple and affordable.
First, I used common sense and cut out ALL pimple causing foods to start!
I quit eating and drinking any and all sweets, especially chocolates, also cut out all dairy (milk/cheese/butter/margarine/mayo/ice cream/etc.) and every fried greasy foods imaginable and any foods and drinks high in acid were also out, I also stopped red meat and Pizza, and no soda.
Trust me, It wasn't an easy task living in a Sicilian household where everyone was always cooking or baking up something that looked and smelled great!
I would also wash my face good, hard and long with Caress brand bar soap and very hot water every 4 hours or so and would then use 70% or 80% Isoprophyl rubbing alcohol on a cotton ball and would scrub hard to really clean out my pores and then I would break open a 500mg vitamin E pill and smear it on my entire face and would let it dry.
I would also take a daily creatine supplement since I was not eating any meat and would ingest 1000mg vit.E daily.
I had also hooked up with a really hot Senior chick-(who luckily for ME was a real nympho)-around the end of my Freshman year of H.S., at the time I had mentioned how much I hated having Acne and how embarrassed I was due to it, she said that she once read in a magazine that "oral sex helps get rid of Acne thanks to urea, protein and other stuff in the fluids" and she wanted to try it with me anyway.
So, naturally, we sorta did the good ol' 69 a few times daily and I would also have her pee right on my face in the shower daily too!
(Not really sure how much any of THAT helped my Acne vanish though, but it sure was fun "experimenting"! lol)
I have read over the years that urea (pee) can help clear up skin and that sperm is also real good for skin,, and also many, if not all of the half decent anti-acne products that are on the market DO contain some form of urea (read their ingredient labels, it's always in there)
So, if you have a significant other, or even a close, close friend who can, or would be willing to help you, and I am being very serious here, why not have them pee and/or bust a load on your face, or squirt into a cup or jar and apply a couple times a day, do it in a shower of course, less mess to clean up that way!
Your not only doing your skin a favor, but you'll be getting some form of exercise and you will also be having some fun while your at it too!
BTW, I'd be glad to "donate" to your cause if you really need a "supplier"!
And what I can tell you is that within only 4 or 5 months the Acne I had was completely GONE and by my 16th birthday a few months later, I had the nicest, clearest, smoothest skin in class and my hair was as smooth as silk too.
I'm 48 now, my hair is still silky smooth, shiny and soft and I am completely wrinkle free and get compliments on how young I look all the time!
Endometriosis & ovary problems & other cysts are typical of Iodine deficiency in women. Additional symptoms include fibrocystic breasts, brain fog, cold fingers, cold feet & lower than normal body temp. In really severe cases, swelling in the neck. Along with Iodine deficiency are related cancers because the immune system needs iodine to kill cancer cells.
Thank you! I will be looking into iodine. I've read a little about this in the past. I even have Lugol's Solution 2% at home (haven't used it yet). I also have Colloidal Silver at home, so I will give that a try for my face too. Thanks again! Everyone has given me great advice here on curezone!
Acne make us frustrated and lost confident in ourselves. And natural tips can help to get rid of this issue which detroy ourlives.
For everyone suffer from acne should follow these tips.
Clean skin twice in a day, unsing effective home remedies based on natural products like
1)lemon with honey applying as a mask on face
2)Cucumber with rose water.
3)Honey with egg whites plus spoon of milk.
Your symptoms scream B6 deficiency. B6 is needed for both skin and moderating estrogen in the body. B6 does a couple hundred other things too. It controls inflammation, most notably. So if you have hormone related problems (endometriosis), skin problems as well as joint or muscle pain, nerve pain (carpal tunnel, aching feet, back pain)... it's probably a B6 issue. You also mentioned a miscarriage (I'm so sorry). Definitely get some B6, it lowers prolactin levels which are associated with miscarriage. B6 is the hormone regulator vitamin.
B6 is also the vitamin we need to make serotonin. And from serotonin we make melatonin. Low B6 can cause depression and sleep problems.
B6 is also important for the use of Iodine in the body. Many people think Iodine is a miracle cure for everything. And iodine is amazing. But it doesn't do it's magic alone. Each person's experience with iodine will completely depend on their body's status in other nutrients. This is why it's so important to take ALL the vitamins and minerals, never just a few. A person low in B6 could take 50mg of iodine and not notice much because it just passes through the body unused. B6 is required to transport iodine into the glands where it needs to go. A person who has A LOT of B6 could experience problems starting with even small amounts of iodine, causing hyperthyroid symptoms. This is VERY dangerous, and it will adversely impact your health by further depleting you of many nutrients. I believe this is why there is so much controversy over iodine. How much we need and whether iodine is safe depends on each person's nutritional status.
Ideally, start with B6 alone. After a couple months, then add iodine slowly. But if you've already started with iodine (which is how I did it), you should go slow with B6, backing off iodine if you experience adverse affects, especially rapid heart rate.
A couple other things too. (It's really helpful that you put so much info in your post. Your full diet, supplements, etc, that really helps.)
Large doses of B5 can compete for absorption with biotin, which is important for skin. You might consider lowering your B5 dose and adding a lot of biotin. Depending on how long you've taking the 500mg of B5, you could have gotten out of balance with biotin.
A diet high in raw fish can cause thiamine deficiency. Raw fish contains thiaminases, an enzyme that splits thiamine and makes it unabsorbable. Low thiamine can mimic hypothyroidism. Symptoms are almost an exact match. Thiamine is an extremely dangerous vitamin deficiency to have. Very large doses of thiamine are required once a deficiency sets in because we lose the ability to absorb and transport thiamine. This is the boat I'm in at the moment. Seems I had to learn everything the hard way.
Dairy products are probably the best source for riboflavin. Just be sure you're getting enough riboflavin from somewhere. I learned this the hard way. Low riboflavin is needed for hundreds of things, including activating B6, and other b-vitamins.
Green, black and white tea all come from the plant "camilla sinensis". This plan grows mainly in the soils of India and china, where fluoride content is very high. And this plant is the highest concentrator of fluoride. I know green tea is supposed to be good for you, but unfortunately, it has risks too. Never soak your bags more than two or three minutes to avoid the fluoride leaching into your tea. Fluoride will cause thyroid problems and pineal gland problems. It will affect your ability to make melatonin (sleep problems).
Tea also contains anti-thiamine compounds. As does coffee. I had to give up both.
No alcohol and no Sugar are the best choices you can make for your health. Both are total nutrient depletors. So good on you for doing that.
Thank you!!! I have not started the Iodine yet. I will make sure to get on the b6 before I do. Is there a B6 brand you recommend? I also drink A LOT of tea, so I will cut back on that. I didn't know about the fluoride connection :( I'll try to focus more so on just drinking plain water. I'll make sure to apply everything you suggested. Thanks again!! :D
My acne has gotten a lot better since I posted this topic. I believe it's been 2 months since the topic post? I haven't been able to try everything everyone has recommended because these past two months have been very hectic, traveling, wedding season, etc... I have much more free time now and will be diving into everything much more this coming month.
As I said, a lot of my acne has cleared up. The only acne I have is on my chin and above my lip. I would say about a total of about 8 - 10 small red pimples. They usually form heads too. No cystic acne. The pimples come and go randomly (at least I think it's random...). Other than that, my cheeks have cleared, including the scars, and my nose and forehead, which have always been pretty clear, have remained clear. My pores have shrunk too. My pores are still visable but not as much as before. My skin is by no means perfect but it most definitely a lot clearer.
As I said above, I wasn't able to do much of what everyone suggested due to the crazy month I had, so this comes to a surprise to me that my skin has cleared up so much. What I did get to do was the Oxypowder colon cleanse. I did this 3 times. Each time I did the colon cleanse, I would break out worse. Then after a few days my skin would look great. I think the Colon Cleanse helped a lot. I will continue the cleanses.
I also have been a lot more active. I think this might have helped too.
My acne isn't the only thing that's better, but my mental health is too. Maybe it's because I see my acne clearing up, but I'm feeling much happier and much more positive. Sleeping is still troublesome though.
Onto how I've been eating. Hate to admit this, but by diet has been all over the place... One week healthy, next week not so much, but I promised myself I will be getting back on track this month.
I also recently got blood work done for my hormones, liver, kidneys, etc... I had this done about a week ago, my results just recently came in....
TSH 1.82 uIU/ml
FSH 5.50 mIU/mL (follicular phase)
LH 6.6 mIU/mL (follicular phase)
Doctor said all those levels were normal, plus my liver and kidney were functioning fine. :D I'm happy to see my hormones are normal
There were a few things that were slightly off though...
Iron 36 ug/dL LOW
Platelets 110 THOUS/MCL LOW
Red Blood Count 4.95 Millions/MCL slightly high
Cholesterol slightly high at 184
BUN 9mg/dL on lower end. Not sure if this is good or bad?
Thought I'd post the results, maybe it'll give further insight to what's going on, but overall, I'm feeling better and my acne looks a lot better since my starting post :)
I first did the Colon Cleanse to prepare myself for the liver cleanse (on the cure zone site it recommends to do that first), then skipped the parasite cleanse (will do this at a later time), and jumped right into the liver cleanse. I chose to do the most gentle liver cleanse I could find since I was a little hesitant. I picked Livatrex by Global Healing Center. It's a 4 day cleanse and didn't require the oil + Epsom Salt drink. I thought this would be a good "start" cleanse then eventually do the big liver cleanse with the Epsom Salt & oil dink.
I didn't even follow the diet they recommended, was a little bad and ate some not so healthy things, but WOW by day 4 my skin looked amazing! Redness is pretty much all gone, all my current acne is shrinking/much much smaller, most cleared, even my facial swelling has gone down. I felt like I got a natural nose job because the top of my nose, the section between my eyes, got much thinner. I didn't realize it was always so swollen haha
I really didn't expect these result since this was a gentler cleanse and I heard of people doing the more extreme cleanse a ton of times to see anything. I'm going to continue on a maintenance dose of Livatrex and start on their parasite program soon and see how that goes. I've also started the Iodine so that too I hope goes well!
At the time I was 18 and my boyfriend was not. In my state it is considered statutory rape no matter the actual age difference. My now ex-boyfriend raped me. We were having sex but I told him to stop and he did not. We on occasion said kinky things during sex but I was now trying to physically push him off of me. He did not stop. I kept saying it. I was begging asking please. I just wanted it to be over. After realizing nothing would work I just laid there looking at anything but him and trying to think of anything but what was happening until he finished. He eventually did and I just rolled over on my side. He got mad at me for being distant. I told him I said stop and he said he wasn't a rapist. I already knew I wouldn't be able to do anything ever because of these shitty laws.
To add insult to injury we became close friends because his biological dad raped his younger sister and I opened up and told him my biological dad raped me as a kid.
I hate these laws and I hate myself for being an idiot.
I need help. I do not know what to do. Can I report it? Will I go to jail? I want to publically share this so people know but I'm worried about going to jail
Hey everyone! Please please help me with my die off symptoms that have begun since my 2nd day on my parasite cleanse. They were minor, just brain fog, irritability, aches but on my 4th night I went out one night, and woke up with cold like symptoms. Congestion, runny nose but now, im two weeks into my parasite cleanse and things are just getting worse. My ears are starting to hurt, my mucus is usually clear, and my throat hurts so much! I feel like I have something blocking my throat in the middle and it hurts to swallow anything I drink or eat. I've been having constipation even with doing an enema , drinking P&B shakes and doing bentonite clay baths and foot soaks. I'm thinking about trying the castor oil this morning internally. When I'm in the restroom pushing, trying to take out all this waste, I get pain in my lower back on the left side, my throats and chest. I'm currently on my week off of taking supplements of my cleanse. Please some one help me with this die off!!!!! Thank you!!!
Thanks for replying!! My diet has been super clean. Nothing processed, no sugar only in some fruit, ocassionally ezequiel bread and absolutely no dairy. I drink about 60oz of water a day, you think I should be doing more?
I took the castor oil internally and I did a liver pack. I drank ACV and lots of water. I was feeling super super sluggish and I went to the restroom hoping to get relief from constipation. I just "pushed" really hard and kept going. My stool was dark, weird shaped. Then after a final "rock" stool I got instant diarrhea, in my stool I saw black and red specs and some mucus. It was hard to see anything else. Should I continue drinking castor oil and psyllium husks? How do I know what I have to cleanse??
I've been on Oxypowder cleanse 3 days so far, been feeling great, until I woke up this morning. I woke up to bad pain in my upper right back/right shoulder blade. Thought it might pass, but it has gotten worse. The pain has now extended downward to mid right back. Pain is still mostly concentrated in upper right back/right shoulder blade. I was wondering if this has to do with my gallbladder. Is it a sign of gallstones?
This is my first cleanse. I'm a little scared, I don't know what to do. I hope I'm not doing more damage than good
Hey everyone! Today I did my first enema with the bulb and didn't see anything that that unusual. I just wanted to know if this was unusual. I had lower abdominal cramping for a couple hours and I continuously pass gas. I feel like as if I need to poop but when I go to the bathroom it's like I pas gas and there's some candida and mucus of some kind in the toilet. I still feel like I have tons of waste and I feel constipated. I push because I know I have something but it's just doesn't go.
Here's some background info, I started my parasmart from renew life cleanse about 14 days ago due to extreme fatigue, constipataion, hair loss and thinning, Acne, being on rounds of antibiotics and 19 years of poor dieting. I believe I have parasites because I feel bubbling sensations and movement in my tummy that feels like gas but from what I have read that could be worms. I started drinking P&B shakes about 6 days ago and feel more of a relief of constipation but I'm stillconsyipated, even while doing the cleanse. I'm still breaking out like crazy and I have a cold. I've been trying other ways of detoxing like castor pack oils and Bentonite clay bathe. My hair is falling out more and face is still not seeing much improvement. Should I buy parasmart again or try a different cleanse. Please please help. I just want to restore my health and have my healthy full head of hair again! I have also followed a clean diet free of sugar, proccesed foods and grains
I read the Iodine handout file but I'm still extremely confused on how much I should take for this and that, how to go about things. I'm feeling super overwhelmed.
Quickly, I have endometriosis, ovarian cyst, a fibroid, etc.., just wanted to put that out there, not sure if that makes a difference with dosages.
I read the first step is to first balance body's PH levels.
Next thing I read was
"If you have one or more rare HOT (toxic) thyroid nodules then you may not be able to take Iodine at all or else risk going into hyperthyroid. The hot (toxic) nodule(s) might need to be surgically removed before taking iodine. Risk is high for a deadly Thyroid Storm if you have hyperthyroid AND take iodine.".............. this scared the crap out of me. How do I 100% know if I have a hot thyroid nodule??? I'm so confused :/
Next was the co-supplement section. Here, no surprise, I'm confused again. This is what I have written down so far to start with 2 weeks prior to starting iodine.
-1/2 tsp Natural Celtic Salt
-200 mcg selenomethionine
-400 mg Magnesium
-2,000 mg Vitamin C
-500 mg Vitamin B3 Non Flushing
-10,000 IU Vitamin D3
Is that all correct? Start this 2 weeks before I start iodine?
And then lastly, I've been told to also include zinc and B6, I don't know how much of either to take.
Sorry, I know I have so many questions, I just want to make sure I do this correctly and don't end up causing myself any more harm
Misty (maybe because there are two Iodine forums you didnt receive a deluge of advice)
No need to worry, go slow and if you have any untoward experiences, stop taking it and post a question.
The advice discussing hyper thyroid is not helpful, and misleading if not outright controversial as to its value.
Dont be concerned to do all the pre PH stuff unless you are a basket case type person, really ill already, or have time to mess w that. Study it, sure. Know about it and why and what it all does or may do, but really the selenium and the going slow and waiting a bit to ramp up to beyond 35mgs a day(taking a week to get there is a good test of your overall detox situation. (5mgs per drop, increasing one drop a day, in 7 days would equal 35 mgs a day). Vit C, always a good thing, B6 according to Mallow really helped after she had supped with Iodine w not much happening (tho we don't know what her daily dose was/is, Mallow?).
Part of understanding this is taking into account what we experience when we miss one daily meal. A day of meals. A few. And to the degree we experience discomfort in missing a meal or more tells us what our bodies congested state is. So if not eating for a day is only a hunger thing and not a hypoglycemic or stressed and anger thing, we are probably alright and ready wout much added supplementation of free radical scavengers. Because that's what the Selenium and the C will do, help clean out a system that is being ramped up in it's ability to clean and process quicker .
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You can take one drop the first day, to start slow, adding a drop each day. You will need to buy selenium and take 200 mcg a day. B6 might be good choice as Mallow advises. Have a healthy salt available so you can mix a half teaspoon in a glass of water to drink if you experience any pains, head ache, or body.
At one drop a day , then two ect you might stop for a while at 7 drops a day to see how your overall system is responding, and stay there a week or longer, eventually if things are under control continue till you reach 50mgs per day, then wait a while again. Continue in this way till you reach 100 mgs a day (hopefully you will be more informed by then about what others in a situation like yours have decided was good level (many go higher, so keep looking at the literature).
If you experience detoxing like skin blemishes or rash or aches it isn't the Iodine doing it it is your cells functioning better. So you cant hurt yourself, tho many think that is the case and give a negative report om their Iodine experience. But again, its not the Iodine at fault or causing the discomfort, or an allergic reaction, its the cellular state we have allowed to happen in our system and the Iodine is assisting it to regain proper functioning. Its an element that is required by our cells and organs(especially the fluid expressing organs) for their efficient functioning.
You may add any supplements that you read about as you see and feel the need. Its not as necessary if we are going slow. tho Vit C (lyposomal is best if you can afford it) and making good diet choices will help the whole process.
Hope this helps you do it and keep reading about it.
Thanks so much for taking the time to explain :) I feel a lot better about what to take! I will get all that is necessary this week and begin as soon as possible. Sort of nervous but also at the same time excited to start! Thanks again!!!
Your symptoms are typical of Iodine deficiency. So you need iodine. We all need Iodine and I take it myself for my own prostate. I say the zinc & B6 are optional if needed. The rest of the supplements are recommended by Dr. Brownstein to help get iodine into our cells and the toxins out.
I personally like the go slow approach and I suggest that you go ahead and start the co-supplements and then 2 weeks later begin iodine with 1 drop of Lugols 5% iodine in a glass of water. Add a drop each week until you get to 50 mg daily. At some point you can switch to iodoral capsules, easier to take.
Iodine is not risk free, and there could be RARE problems as you saw documented. We all expect to see temporary detox symptoms as fluoride, bromide & chlorine are displaced by iodine in our cells. These toxins have invaded the iodine receptors in our cells and are the reasons for cysts, fibroids & rare nodules & related cancers. Women are especially impacted by iodine deficiency symptoms as fibrocystic breast disease, ovarian cysts, brain fog and more.
hi steve, i underwent an operation in 2005 for radicular canal stenosis, resulting in 3 vertibrae being removed (c1,c2,c3) and a "brantigan" cage fitted. The op. was high spec.entry via the throat, and i was under the knife for 11 hours, my nerves were "pinched" during fitting of " b" cage and it is only recently that i have been able to gain adequate use of limbs 'mainly arms and shoulder area. This is just to aid you in my condition criteria.
NOW!...To date... I recently 'pulled' a muscle in my lower back whilst opening a garage door (7 weeks ago). I had a little discomfort for about a week, when one morning i was literally brought to my knees by a searing, burning almost in-describeable pain in my left buttock, this lasted for about 45mins, and i took painkillers to help relieve the pain. Just recently (last 2 weeks) the pain has shifted to my right side and is the worst agonising pain to date. I will be having an MRI on 18/3/2011 and hopefully have an idea as to what is actually causing my problem, in the meantime do you believe your program could help me in any way. Awaiting reply in ernest. Boots..
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So you are suggesting I am avoiding acknowledging some aspect of myself I am ashamed of or unhappy with? There are certainly unresolved emotional issues within my immediate family I could tend to- while terribly uncomfortable to do so- I would do most anything for some relief.
Whether it's the magic brain pills or the runner's high after cardio. Uppers.
And then you take downers Clorapanezam (whatever it's called).
It's junkie behaviour.
And then it appears you have turned your health into a kind of game where you buy all sorts of strange concoctions and tests and obsess about statistics and so on.
Meanwhile back in your Real life you can't even perform basic functions and eat simple food.
What seems to me to be happening is you have lost contact with yourself because you enjoy the extreme things you are doing.
When you feel this "Derealization" I would guess that your Real self is trying to come through. And yes it is ill by now and doesn't feel good. After all somebody has to pay the bill for all the uppers and downers and so on.
But then you get rid of your Real self again taking more things.
I would suggest you pay the bill sooner rather than later, or more will build up.
That person in there who is full of panic and illness ... that is YOU.
It is clear that you are suffering from some bacterial of viral infection, and your mental drug is masking the disease. Is it Lyme? Or something else? I can't say. Likely you caught lyme again from all the ticks that attacked you when your were healthy. However antibiotics destroy your good gut flora and most of your immune system.
I suggest slowly withdrawing from your mental drug and take 3 additional measures at the same time to cure your symptoms.
These are really great suggestions, thanks so much!
I will most certainly look more into Iodine deficiency and Colloidal Silver . I had my Vitamin D levels checked a few weeks ago and they were indeed on the lower side of the spectrum. I have Thorne's sublingual D3 drops I will start up again.
I appreciate your thoughtfulness in formulating your response!
Yeah I've thought about this for quite some time. My Organic Acids Metabolic Profile indicated my levels of D-Arabinotol- a notorious marker for invasive candida- to be extremely low. If Candida is the culprit, or a factor, I'm sure the stool test results may indicate such.
You probably have hyperthyroidism. It's possible you have had it off and on for a long time. Sometimes it can be mistaken for a panic disorder. It can make you feel extremely anxious, depressed, confused, and give you a racing heart, cause insomnia and digestive pain. I posted to your other question in a different spot on CZ, but I wanted to post here too, for anyone else following this thread.
It's really important to recognize the signs of hyperthyroidism, which can begin as psychological disturbances, and some people may tell you it's "all in your head". It's definitely NOT all in your head. The inability to recognize hyperthyroidism only delays treatment. The sooner you catch it, the better the outcome of treatment.
Hyperthyroidism is a hyper metabolic disease that causes symptoms with every part of the body. The hyper metabolic state burns up stores of nutrients, causing multiple deficiencies. The liver, kidneys, heart, brain and nervous system are stressed from attempting to keep up with the metabolic demand. The list of symptoms for this is very long, including: weight loss, exercise intolerance, heat intolerance, insomnia, racing heart, fatigue, irritability, anxiety, chest pain, muscle pain, nerve pain, joint pain, headache. Most of the symtpoms are the direct result of nutrient deficiencies caused by the high metabolic demand.
I don't think the Clonazepam caused the hyperthyroidism, but it definitely isn't helping. It depletes folic acid, calcium, magnesium and biotin from the body. Low levels of folic acid will interfere with thiamine transporters. This combined with the hypermetabolic state of hyperthyroidism will deplete thiamine.
Thiamine and magnesium deficiency cause several serious problems affecting the nervous system, the digestive system and the cardiovascular system. Thiamine deficiency causes low stomach acid. The low stomach acid is probably why you feel worse after eating. It also begins a cycle of difficulting with all nutrients. You become under-nourished, both from the hyperthyroid state, and from the inability to break down food.
Thiamine, magnesium and folic acid are just an example. Every vitamin and mineral gets depleted in hyperthyroidism, because it's as if the body is running a marathon even when you're lying on the couch.
The medical community is woefully inadequate in dealing with this condition. But still, you will need an endocrinologist to monitor you and at a minimum do blood work. They will have medications that may immediately help you, if you choose to go that route.
First step is to slow down the metabolic rate. There are medications to do this, but there are also supplements that help with this: l-carnitine, melatonin, tryptophan, and niacinamide (B3). Under the care of a physician you could also try high dose Iodine therapy, but your response to this is impossible to predict. Your ability to handle Iodine depends on your B6 status and vitamin A status. You could have a thyroid storm, which is life threatening. So NEVER try this without knowing how to recognize a thyroid storm and having a plan with what to do next - like call someone to take you to the ER. That said, very large doses of iodine could successfully slow down your thyroid, it's one option. Combining this with high dose B6 with the iodine will ensure your thyroid actually takes up the iodine.
Next step is to slowly build back up your nutrition. Supplement with digestive enzymes and some form of acid, like ascorbic acid (vitamin C) or vinegar, which can be bought in capsules.
Thiamine and magnesium are the first two nutrients you should build back with. Avoid Sugar as if you are a diabetic. You are basically a diabetic right now, because of the hyperthyroid induced thiamine deficiency.
Get with a knowledgeable nutritionist who has experience treating patients with thyroid disorders. These are hard to find, but they are really the only medical professionals (alternative or otherwise) qualified to help you.
Does any here know of great websites besides Craigslist,Ebay or amazon to sell Kiddie Rides? These rides are in perfect condition and are beautifully designed. I will truly appreciate the help. Thanks in advance!
I am looking for a security camera and just get lost with everything on the Internet (can not really close to anything).but, I'm not sure what to look for nor where to start. Could anyone offer any suggestions or advice on these systems? yesterday I saw certain layouts from the API alarms ( http://www.apialarm.com/ )
Looking for recommendation for outdoor dome security camera:
- High image quality.
- The possibility of control over the phone
- Looking to record the cloud, how do you do it?
Can anyone tell me what this means:
"Adjacent but I believe separate from the pancreatic head there is a vague hypoechoic area 3.2 x 2.6 x 2.3 cm which is not identified on CT. Indetermiant significance. Unlikely to be lymph node but give the indeterminate ultrasound appearance CT through the area should be considered. Visualized pancreas normal with no dilation of pancreatic duct."
Is this a sign of Cancer?
Hypoechoic isn't good correct?
I am not a doctor but from what that says it basically tells you there is some vague mass that is, at this time, unidentified.
there is really nothing anyone can tell you about this; it needs to be further examined. i wouldnt worry about it. make sure you get a referral for further testing to determine exactly what it is.
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Nadia, obscure your email address somehow. Use (at) or add DOT where the . 's go, so you don't get spam harvested. There are plenty of folk who would want to contact you, but a lot more who just send bots out wanting to grab your personal emailaddress for buggery.
Yeah you might be right... but usually curezone blocks the function of editing in a few days since it was posted! I can check but perhaps nah...
And my email address has changed now too coz I tried to open it from different location and it asks extra security info and I do not remember it :/
Anyhow... the ones who wants to get support can find me on fb using nadia (dot) ever (dot) green (dot) 123 (at) gmail (dot) com . Just put this email in a search program and you will find me :)
I do not add strangers and also I KINDLY would like to ask ppl, who might contact me due to this issue, for the sake of joke or just little chat Please do not contact me - Please do not waste my time. Please. :)... Only if you thinking to make it happen or close to it... or just close to deadend.
I started taking clove oil for giardia and I noticed that it made me feel very hyperactive and uneasy. I also have a slightly burning feeling in my anus after pooping. Today I felt really bad so I realized that this is due to clove oil. Could this be toxicity and would it go away on its own? I feel kinda sick from it? Very nervous also.
I used NOW Foods clove oil.
I took 2 drops 3 times daily for 3 days.
I have been nauseous off and on for a year now with IBS symptoms, serious fatigue and serious joint pain...lately I also get a vibrating sensation like I have a Cell Phone in my pocket when I don't. I had a positive ana test with no rheumatic disease found. I off and on have a abnormally high leukocytes in my urine. I've had low calcium and low vit d but beyond that Drs have no idea why I feel this way. Also note worthy I have a cat who has no hair on her belly because she pulled it all out... Could I have a parasite? If so which one? How would I get rid of it?
First let me address the cat's problem. Her hair lose is likely an allergic reaction to the litter you are using. Litter manufactures keep adding chemicals to the point they are poisoning our cats.
One of my cats chewed out all his hair on his belly and legs. Suspicious of the litter I switched to the most basic none clumping litter I could find. It took a while and now his hair has grown back. The unpredictable benefit was that there is almost no litter box smell now. I pay 8 dollars for 50 pounds. I only put in just enough litter to be useful and then dump it completely when it becomes soiled. Saving me big bucks.
Your issue: I had the vibration issue also. It happened all the time before I realized I had parasites. Once I started treating the parasites this "buzzing" went away.
Low calcium and low D is like hanging out a "body available" sign to the parasites. I had no idea either. Start building up both immediately with Boron and Vitamin K.
I have no idea which parasite causes the "buzzing" but it really didn't matter to me. If you have one unwelcome guest you probably have many different types. Ascaria are the most common that cause IBS symptoms. Your poor cat undoubtedly has them also. Give the cat 1/2 ML of PINX every 15 days. It's pretty much a harmless med.
Start with Pyrantel Pomoate (PINX) while you read everything you can on CZ about parasites. I thought this step was worthless but it is what is recommended. It paralyzes the parasites so they are passed in a BM. The problem with me was that I had so many parasites the PINX stopped all bowel activity. I went to Fenbendazole. Passed pounds of ascaria for days. Ugly business.
There is no "could I be a host" YOU are a host. We all are. There are lots of answers on CZ. Please make sure you understand what you are taking and why. Don't just do something because someone told you to. I warn against herbals because they don't kill the parasites immediately and the parasites will do some very terrible things to you when they are trying to escape the herbs.
Is bloating normal on Oxypowder ? I'm on my second day, took 4 pills last night, first night I started off slow and took only 2. Both days, yesterday and today, I've had very bad bloat and feel "full". Is this all normal? Other than the bloat and fullness, I haven't felt any discomfort/cramps/pain. I'm trying to drink as much liquid as I can, at least half my body weight in oz. Am I not drinking enough fluids?
I do have endometriosis and have an ovarian cyst on my ovary, not sure if that may be the reason. Also, this is my first cleanse.
Thanks! I wanted to start Iodine therapy, it was recommended to me in another post, but thought I'd do a few cleanses first then start it afterwards. Can I use Iodine while doing cleanses? I have Lugol's 2%
Also, just an update, my bloat has gone away! :D I actually feel REALLY good today. Hoping it stays this way. I haven't felt this good in a while. Not sure if it's possible, but I am like 95% sure I passed 3 liver stones last night. They were about the size of a marble. I was pretty shocked. I ran to the computer looked up liver stones and it was exactly that. I'm not an expert so I can't be 100% sure, but I really think they were liver stones, if that's even possible during a bowel cleanse
Yes, you can do both. However be certain to take the recommended co-supplements especially the selenium. Iodine & selenium must always be taken together. The remaining co-supplements are needed to get Iodine into your cells & the toxins out.
so i'm pretty much stumped on this one, despite numerous efforts to attain balance. i used MSM and hit some significant obstacles, which- as you will read, eventually snowballed into some fairly serious bullcrap. some of you folks seem pretty savvy, and maybe you have some ideas..
it's hard to provide adequate detail while maintaining brevity, so forgive the length of this post (assuming you decide to read through it!)
i've always had health issues, mostly subclinical, stuff doctors shrug about. OCD during early childhood into adolescence, which went away but was replaced with ADD and depression. never developed much of a sex drive, and was very low self esteem. started having digestion/ibs issues in high school, along with considerable auto-immuney joint inflammation. eventually it got bad enough that i developed tendinitis in both wrists, forcing me to give up music.
these symptoms persisted throughout college, becoming much worse when i somewhat suddenly developed chronic prostatitis at 22 yrs old. no actual prostate enlargement, but severe pain when sitting/urinating, almost complete loss of function. saw loads o' docs, all were typically dumbfounded and entirely unhelpful.
started taking msm on a whim. had been recommended by
a friend of a friend. supposedly safe. mostly tried it out to see if it could help my joints, since i missed playing guitar.. and damn, if that stuff didn't work like a miracle. within a couple months of taking it at about 2-3g/day, my joints were notably improved. my mood, too, unexpectedly. i suddenly felt lighter, and better about myself. i was more social, funnier, etc. months later i started noting a marked improvement in my prostatitis. slowly but surely, i enjoyed a 70-80% improvement. my hair grew, fast, looked awesome (typical of msm, i understand.) also unexpected, i, for the first time, developed a healthy and significant sex drive.. basically, i felt 'healthy' in way i never had before.
there were no real side effects (other than an inner thigh rash that lasted maybe the first six months of me taking the msm) until after about 2 years of treatment, i passed a kidney stone. real small one, but painful. more followed, with an increase in flank pain. many months later, i decided to halt the msm, since i suspected it to be related. a bizarre almost withdrawal period followed, in which i got hives around my midsection and battled a hardcore fever for a week or two..
after this wore off, my kidneys felt a bit better, but- to my disappointment, ALL my original symptoms returned. major depression, severe joint pain, prostate ugghhh and etc. i tried other rememdies: turmeric, enzymes, probiotics, fish oil, et al. and pretty much ALL of them helped, but again--caused the kidney pain to flare up. this tug of war has continued for years. me trying to keep the inflammatory symptoms in check without my kidneys suffering. at this point, my inflammation doesn't really flare up, and my kidneys don't really 'hurt', but function is flawed and seems poor. docs look at me like i'm ridiculous (and i'm sure i am) and my urine tests show no significant protein loss, but the kidney issue is definitely.. bad. it's like i'm stuck in the "on msm" state, but not able to support that state.. my hair still looks real good, well.. farrrr better than i feel, hah...
SO (again with apologies for the length of this post) i assume, having learned what i have learned about msm, methylation, copper levels and so forth, that i treated a relative mineral imbalance with sulfur only to create a deeper imbalance in the process.. i follow a mostly vegan diet because it seems to irritate my kidneys much less..
anyone out there have ideas on how to potentially dig myself out of this?
It seems to me that you had a lot of mental/emotional issues before the onset of all the health ones. Take up something to drastically alter you thought pattern ... this has helped me. We actually programme ourselves or allow programmes to work us ... and choosing thoughts is key to deprogramming.
Did you ever try a water fast for a day or two, with solar charged water (put out water in a glass jar with glass cover/glass bottle with cork/blue bottle with cork, in the sun for 5-6 hours) and complete rest. (And complete rest means no music, books, talking or moving around except to drink the solar water and go to the loo).
Coming off the fast you must be very careful to go gradually to liquids .. juices, coconut water, cinnamon-honey tea, etc and then move to organic salads, fruit, and then steamed veggies and light food. Take two days to come to your normal diet for a one day water fast.
A morning to morning fast can do wonders and may inspire you to try a longer one.
You are not the least idiotic, and am sure you'll crack this pretty pretty soon.
Have a miraculous day!
yea, thanks. i've considered fasting, but it's also been recommended that i don't. i'm on the very thin side to begin with. very vata, in ayurvedic terms. fasting can be helpful for excessive states, but can worsen deficiencies, in my experience.. but you're right about the fact that i really ought to carve out more time for 'stress free fasts'..
That part about solar charged water triggered my Googling thing.
Heres what somebody had to say about it.
Abysmal Darkenin I read your original post and then went and googled sungazing and sun charged water. It sounded interesting to me, so I read all I could find. Although I'm a bit lazy to commit to sun gazing. I believe it could work. Suncharged water is much easier. Set it and forget it until the evening.
Anyways, I put some water in the sun to charge. I started drinking it that same evening, while still warm. That night I could not go to sleep until 2am. I usually go at 10-11pm. Next morning I was up a 6 am. Thats only 4 hours sleep. I continued drinking more and I was charged and more active than I had been in years. I wasn't tired that day for lack of sleep. I'm usually napping at some point though the day. Well not this day.
I definately believe in suncharged water now. I give to to my pets now also. I'm hoping for it to help them with some health issues. We will see. Thanks for posting the info. I have used it and believe in it.
P.S. Used sun charged /suncharged in your search.
Solar charged brought up more stuff about solar powered water pumps.
Its cheap & free.The FDA can't make it illegal anytime soon.
the most consistent comment i get from everyone who takes SSKI is that their joints no longer ache, they can stand in one spot for longer periods of time, traverse uneven terrain easier, then of course more energy and mental acuity.
iodine is like oxygen and water as a basic need. try that first(and take it for life). if lack of Iodine was the problem - problem solved.
hair, nails, everything grew super fast. came in thicker, too. the msm, i get the impression, speeds up the rate at which your body metabolizes other minerals. probably why it works great for many, but wrecks a few.
Like many on here, I've been on this healing journey for lotsa yrs (decades) and over the yrs I "established" that certain things caused me probs, so I avoided them. The thing is, when we're out of balance, all of that goes out the window. That is, once back in balance those "bad" things are no longer bad. No longer cause a bad reaction (but note, poison in, poison out--avoid fake foods). So I'll just offer you this.
These things created imbalance and malnutrition for me:
*avoiding all salt and sugar
*not drinking enough water
*eating carbs without protein and fat
*too much or not right type of supplementation
*too much or, more usually, not enough exercise
*no daily de-stressing ritual (yoga/meditation)
*no routine emotional/creative expression (writing, crying...)
*too much work, not enough play
So here are a few significant things that have helped me. Eating every few hours (2 or 3, at the most). ALWAYS eat about the same, or a little less, protein in grams as carbs, AND include the amount of fat that you can handle. I love raw pumpkin seeds, almonds, coconut butter, and olive oil. Exercise, yoga/meditation, filtered water... Sea Salt , 1/8 to 1/4 per meal, in water is good. Local honey. Lotsa of high fiber crackers (I don't eat bread or pasta). Ceasing my vegetarian diet was crucial. Now I eat meat(slow-cooked) from the healthfood store... Organic EGGS (boiled), 2 per day, crucial. Herbal teas, green, red, peppermint...
But the real key is emotionally healing. Nothing is really gonna work until that aspect of it is addressed. That "thing" within will continue to sabotage our efforts until we start honoring our emotional self. Sit, get still, listen. Write about what comes. Let yourself feel it, cry, feel the anger, punch a pillow, rip up paper, whatever it takes to get it out...keep writing about it. Commit to doing this at least every other day, or every few days--for the rest of your life. Don't shrug on this one, or you'll spend a lifetime in the same mode you're in now.
Emotions are life. When ignored, they'll slowly destroy us. When honored, they will bring us "back to life."
I would like you to have an open mind about what I am going to write.
The fact that you had so many ailments at 22 is a good indication of malnutrition. But I am not surprised. I you read what I read about the depletion in food of the modern farming. The fact that you benefited for a while from MSM is another indication of the malnutrition from poor/junk food. Because MSM is a natural element found on vegetables. You took MSM as if it was the magic pill. Unfortunately ain't no such things.
As an agricultural scientist,
I would like to state that 85% of the minerals
are depleted in US crop soils. We only put three
(Nitrogen, Phosphorus, Potassium) back into the
soils to grow our crops because farmers are paid
on yield, not content. The animal industry has
eliminated over 900 diseases that still plague
humans by feeding animals pellets that contain
45 minerals. There is no health insurance for
beef...the industry had to adopt a preventative
system of health care through nutrition or your
hamburger would cost $275.00 a pound. We eliminated
muscular dystrophy in our farm animals 50 years
ago through supplementation to name one. Why?
Muscle is meat...we cannot afford to have that
disease in animals.
From the above we see how minerals are important.
A way to take a wide variety of minerals at the same times is to take Epsom salt, Blackstrap molasses, Kelp, unfiltered raw apple cider vinegar.
Another indication of mineral deficiencies is to have an acidic lymphatic system. This can be measured easily by measuring the pH of the urine and of the saliva.
You can learn more about the Acid/Alkaline pH balance principles at the following CZ forums:
thanks for the many words. in general, and in your nutritional thinking, i agree with you. it's really a shame, i think, that so many people are willing to load their bodies with so, so many supplements in hopes of healing themselves when they are-as you say-more than likely suffering from deficiencies and excesses that are far too holistically complex to correct with random, isolated and often inappropriate supplementation. many individuals who attempt (even successfully) to treat one health problem using supplements end up developing new ones to take its place.. i work as the supplement buyer and health consultant for a health food store (somewhat ironically) and so i witness this phenomenon all the time.. i have dabbled and investigated deeply into the PH balance protocols both through my own experiences and those of my customers. results tend to be mixed. PH balance diets, i believe, work for many individuals largely because those who adopt it were eating sub-optimal diets in the first place, and PH diets will in general boost an individuals nutrient intake substantially, forcing out most processed foods. the logic behind PH, though, seems overly reductionist to me. alkaline bad, acid good? without acids, alkaline minerals are entirely insoluble! and there are so very many different acids, both found in foods and produced metabolically. PH pushers might cut out the excess arachidonic found in heavy meats, but suddenly they're consuming loads of oxalic acid from greens and beans. which is not to say that this is a bad thing, just an example.. sorry to rant! and yea, i need to work on more de-stress. my main issue is that it seems like i caused, for myself, a very specific imbalance.. something that i suspect could be corrected and that, if corrected, would resolve my issues substantially. i know that i caused it, initially and peripherally, by taking too much msm, which is pure sulphur.. figuring out how to undo whatever changes i created has proven quite tricky!
Have you followed the Water Cure with the ocean-sea salt added to it? Try the Water Cure found on this curezone site and try free-form amino acids, too. It sounds like you are still deficient in something that is virtually undetectable. Good luck to you, your healing will come to you. And, I can't wait to read about it!!
While you don't have to listen to what I write, I hope it will give you some productive ideas for a good outcome.
First, let me make clear to other readers here; I do not care who may disagree with what I am about to write. These words are the result of *my own* long and intensively tested experience. I will put zero energy into arguing tit-for-tat with anyone.
So here's my point, Martel-
I have been studying health and healing for more years than I can count (at least 30 or so). I've watched all the "never eat this" and "always eat that" cr@p come and go, today XXXX will kill you, tomorrow it has been found to be actually healthy and will be the only thing that may save you, etc, blah blah blah.
I have learned a few things over this long time:
1. Restrictive diets which exclude *natural and unaltered* foods result in some degree of imbalance and malnutrition eventually.
2. No one single thing is likely to cure everybody with the same ailment (Although there may be strong commonalities), one may be able to limp along improved, but if you will pay further attention to your *individual body's messages*, you are much more likely to be able to leave the condition in the dust entirely and walk away healthy at last.
Here is what I *think* *may* have happened to you, Martel:
It sounds to me like the MSM may have been a very good thing for you, but one of the (many) things MSM does is to help clear obstructions to the cell-wall incoming and outgoing circulation, so that the silted-up gunk which acts like plaster against the cell walls can be moved out of the way and healing of the cell can take place.
I *think* that one of the key substances your body tried to remove to improve your health is probably one which was being eliminated- for whatever reason- through your kidneys; The Kidneys were getting overloaded and so when you stopped the MSM the overload had to try to get out through your skin (an alternate route of elimination), which resulted in the hives you describe in your waist area (Near the Kidneys, get it?). So the MSM did not "cause a problem". It actually got you to the next level, and now you would benefit greatly by using Liver- and Kidney-clearing herbs to remove *this stage* of obstacles to your returning health.
The body's major organs of elimination for waste and junk are: the Liver, the Kidneys, the Skin, the Lungs, of course the Bowel and Bladder are all-important too (and barfing, another expedient way to eliminate, also earwax :-)). In my observation, if the liver/bowel can't get rid of it, it backs up into the kidneys/urinarysystem as a next resort, then if the kidneys get overloaded, it backs up through the skin (This is why your skin is referred to as your "third Kidney"). It's my guess that there are your hives.
So I suggest you think about herbs, because they can be used to assist and clear the body's various organs over time (sometimes over very little time).
***If it were me****, I'd think about Cornsilk Tea for kidneys bladder and urinary system clearout (non-GMO and Organic only, please- Don't try to improvise with grocery store corn[think high pesticides]) or Hydrangea Root tea, and Swedish Bitters (@ Healthfood store, NatureWorks brand) to assist the Liver as quickly as possible.
For nutrition (to provide trace and other elements which are lacking sadly in current-day farmed produce), if it were me I'd be taking broken-cell-wall Chlorella, Alfalfa leaf, Kelp or Dulse, Irish Moss, Horsetail (for silica), (Cayenne in capsules), and using Celtic Sea Salt on food and in cooking to begin with.
Also test your responses to see if Cilantro gets a good response from your body. If it does, go for it.
It looks likely to me that the stuff you are ingesting or exposed to, and then are not eliminating efficiently, is most likely the issue. Whether it is in supplements or foods or environment I cannot tell from what you wrote, but it could be any or all of them.
If that's not it, then you may be missing some element that completes the process of effective elimination.
PS if you don't drink enough clear water, stuff can't be transported out so it silts back. http://www.watercure.com
I discovered with myself that any supplement which contains Calcium Carbonate as a filler or excipient lays the stuff right down like a *very* tough silt everywhere. Then I have to get it out. "'NOW Brand' Super Enzymes" in capsules (NOT tablets) will eventually get the Calcium Carbonate out. For me. And it takes awhile (weeks).
IMHO there is a lot for you to think about here. But *IMHO* you did a good thing by taking the MSM, and *if it were me* I'd resume it slowly and continue it, although you didn't say how much you are taking.
If it were me I'd also immediately DROP soda pop, white bread, white flour, white rice, white Sugar from my diet. About unmoderated alcohol or any smoking, well, do I need to say anything..?
I also do not slather anything onto my body that I would not eat :-).
Lastly Martel, I would like to say this to you:
"NEVER GIVE UP your endeavor for health. Keep reading and reading, keep studying, keep going, keep working at it, no matter what anyone says, no matter who tells you they think it's incurable."
BTW the poster who wrote about the acid-alkaline balance, etc- IMHO is 'right on' and I applaud them.
I wish you (and all of us) the very Best of Health Martel,
I've always taken MSM with Vitamin C to balance it. I currently take 4gms MSM 3x per day and dissolve each dose with 1gm of Vitamin C. It is even more effective to blend this mixture into Aloe Vera juice. That gives me so much energy that I only do it before yoga in the morning. I'd never sleep if I took it that way in the evening.
Three grams is considered a safe upper limit, though some people take much more. Given that mega doses of Vitamin C could cause kidney stones, I'd recommend that you start with 100mg of Vitamin C with each dose of MSM and increase it if you tolerate it.
Vitamin C is an antioxidant that is filtered and "wasted" through the kidneys, bathing them with protection from the toxins that MSM is flushing from the system. The body also needs Vitamin C to form healthy new tissues, specifically collagen that comprises cartilage and keeps skin firm. Any excess is eliminated within a few hours, which is why one needs to take it several times per day.
There are two ways that MSM is made. One is distilled and one is chemically made. Most MSM on the market is chemically made and I suspect that the kidney problems are caused by the chemicals they use to make MSM. I have been taking MSM for 4 years and have not had a problem, I use distilled MSM. Check when buying to make sure it is distilled. If you are in Australia you can get distilled MSM from organicherbalcoloncleanse.com
I know a guy who got kidney stones from his well water...the doctor knew other men from the same street he lived on and said, Oh you live on kidney stone alley! So I wonder what kind of water you drink? Also, the type as mentioned previously matters. How it's made. I read to get it in a feed store because the turnover is greater then for people but I still think you have to care that it's not made chemically.
Hopefully, you can try good water, good MSM and get back to where you were or better!
Is it okay to take 800 mg of Albendazole a day? I'm taking 400 mg of it every 12 hours and have been taking it for 6 days to battle these worms I feel moving around in my head, neck, back, arm, GI tract.. I'm planning on taking it for 2 weeks, but if that is an overload on my liver can someone let me know?
Albendazole is a little confusing because I have read other sources which say that just one dose is enough to kill roundworms.
Does anyone know how albendazole works? I know it is supposed to immobilize the roundworms and deprive them of their ability to metabolize and convert energy (glucose) but how long does it stay in your system? and what if you have digestive and malabsorption issues? I just want to make sure I'm taking the right dose so these buggers will never get any chances to metabolize any sugars. What if they are moving more? Does it mean it's not working?
How does one detox to ensure no damage is done to the liver?
Also, does having Candida exacerbate Roundworms? Should I be staying away from Sugar completely? Because fudge me if that's true. I have been eating lots of white rice thinking these worms can't get to it because of the albendazole..
You should cut out Sugar and simple carbs completely. I wiuld eat brown or black rice in tiny amounts, sometimes if any. Complex carbs are good sometimes.
Alb is really not the drug on its own to do what you need. I think 200mg p day for months on is good enough. 800mg p day is useless, it only makes your liver worse. 200mg a day for a few months continuously works well.
To stop the movement you need piperazine. Mattk3 posted here before the natural version. You need to take this daily every 6 hours to stop them from moving. You also need to target their other stages. All suggestions by mattk3 are working well (been doing that for a while for a bad disseminated infection). Ascaris takes months to slow down and get weak. They move like snakes, especially at night.you meed the piperazine if you want them to stop. Ivermectin daily is also needed. Digesting their eggs is also essential. Take reese's pinworm med frequently so they are flushed out from your GI.
The 400 mg twice a day of albendazole is the correct dose. For Ascaris you should add other drugs that target different areas such as ivermectin or piperazine or pyrantel. Lornithine and l argine at night before bed help to calm them down. benadryl helps too.
If some one would take the time to read this; I'd apreciate it. (I'm new to this site by, the way) I've been too skinny for a long time; and have been healthfuly putting some weight on; but as I am, I'm starting to see cellulite appear on my but and thighs! And I'm still quite underwight! I eat a mostly organic, vegetarian diet which includes alot of fuit and veg; drink ALOT of water during the day; and walk about and hour a day! Anyone know what i'm doing wrong?!?! do you think I should do a kind of cleanse??? I do eat sugary foods; colud that be my down fall?? It makes me feel horrible about myself and makes me so depressed.any advice?? please!! I'm 18 and don't want to be stuck with this for the rest of my life!!
Yoga, Body brushing and cardio - a great combo for preventing cellulite (along with diet of course). These 3 keep your circulation going. Try aim for a 20-30 min cardio session (such as your walking) 7 days a week (i.e. everyday) and yoga 2-3 times a week. Body brushing once every day using a nutural body brush or loofah (avoid nylon as this damages the skin).Try body brushing for 10-15 min before your shower in the morning or evening.
With regards to your weight - avoid the bad fats (heated fats found in margarine, fried, and convenience foods)and replace these with the good fats (cold pressed organic flaxseed oil, olives, raw nuts and seeds, avocados). The good fats help your endocrine/hormonal system work optimally - which is the system in charge of you weight. Also by keeping out the bad fats - cellulite will dissappear.
and a note on water - drink when you are thirsty (learn to listen to your body), no need to consume large amounts, this will only strain your kidneys.
So all together: 20 - 30 minutes of cardio daily, 20- 30 minutes of sunshine daily (early in morning or late evening - not midday sun!), consuming good fats (but not too many as even too many good fats can drain your energy - try 5 - 10 olives or 1 avocado daily, or a handful of nuts and seeds daily, also corn on the cob contains your essential fatty acids. All of the above help to optimise the workings of the endocrine glands (hormonal system)to help stabalise your weight etc. You also need to avoid all endocrine/hormone disrupters - too much or too little exercise, too much or too little sunshine, chronic stress, heated fats, preservatives , additives, not enough sleep, foods such as gluten etc.
Hope this little bit of info helps, sorry i'm in a rush :)
Nutrition consultant in training
You are welcome to email me for more information! x
Than you soo much for the advice! I tried the skin brushing in the shower this morning; but I had to stop after about 5 minutes because it kind of hurt. But about the water thing; maybe you could help me with that too. I drink ALOT of water. Over 10 cups a day, im not forcing myself to; I'm just really thisty! I think this could be a problem. I weigh about 95 lbs. I only drink water and tea. Maybe I should try drinking other things? could it be a vitamin defeciency of some sort?? any advice????
I would recommend that you stop eating vegetarian. I ate healthy vegetarian for 14 years and ended up with many health problems from this way of eating. Eat healthy organic meats. Include omega 3 oils,(fish, flax, hemp) and coconut oil in your diet.
Cleanse your body: Colon/Liver/Parasite/Kidney. At the very least do a parasite cleanse.
hello naturalist. ... i love reading your posts in the water fast forum and started looking at what else you were writing. i'm pretty new to curezone, or at least posting, and i have a copy questions. is it possible to briefly explain how to do a kidney, parasite, and liver cleanse. i've looked up a lot of Colon Cleanses and it still is all so overwhelming and everyone seems to have a million ways to do them. thanks a lot !!
There is no problem with being vegetarian, as long as you are not a junk food vegetarian - then yes you will end up with a host of health problems. Eat plenty of whole food, and remember the less meat the better (meat is cooked and therefore contains the heated fats which our body does not digest well at all - you need to avoid them in order to avoid cellulite).Nuts and seeds, olives, cold pressed vegetable oils, corn on the cob, avoados and flaxseed oil contain your good fats (eat these foods raw, once again heated fats do not help your body in any way).
Some lightly steamed fish is fine but also not necessary (we can get enough protein and essential fatty acids eating vegetarian too - the choice is yours), but remember to not eat animal protein (meat or dairy) more than once a day (your kidneys and hormonal system will love you for this). Would you consider yourself a junk food vegetarian...this could be why you are finding your health to not be in top condition.
I eat pretty healthy ( I think) I eat alot of fruits and vegtables through the day as well as things like whole grain pastas, oatmeal, whole grain breads, rice, beans, tofu,nuts and peanut butter,and sea vegtables. But I have a downfall; like organic chocolate and soy ice cream, they have no dairy, but I'm shure the sweets aren't good for me.
I am glad to hear you are eating alot of fruit and vegetables. Do you consume alot of dairy and gluten (i.e. foods like bread, pasta, oats, wheat, barley, yoghurt, cheese milk, chocolate etc)? These foods can compromise the workings of the hormonal system which in turn can result in many problems. Did you know that people who are gluten intolerant are usually very thin and underweight? Try taking gluten out of your diet for 6 weeks and see how things improve...
Perhaps eating the majority of your diet fruits and veggies, fewer grains, and ensuring that the nuts are raw will help (no cooked fats - nuts or oils). Peanut Butter is a cooked fat. Try raw almond butter instead :) Soy ice cream I'd also consider to be a problem... processed soy like that really isn't good for you. It can slow your metabolism. If you must have a fake ice cream, it would be better to have rice ice cream than soy ice cream. Or even better, freeze ripe bananas, blend them with some water in a blender when frozen solid (chop into pieces before blending), and add some frozen fruit to the blended banana and blend again. Yum :)
I can't recall the lady's name that has a website and books on this problem. She says to buy a rubber mallot and pummel the cellulite away. I would think deep tissue massage would help and feel great at the same time.
My personal experience: don't eat processed Sugar and processed grains (ie. white bread), don't eat cooked fats. Eat fats (raw nuts, oils and seeds), but don't cook them. They can be added to cooked foods afterwards as a dressing, but not heating. Watch processed (non-homemade) foods for these ingredients. I also juice citrus nearly everyday - grapefruit and pineapple are supposedly especially good for cellulite (must be the raw juices) as they break down the fatty deposits over time. And finally exercise everyday, even if it's just walking. Skin brushing is supposed to help to, but I've never done it. My cellulite did improve greatly after doing these things and now isn't visible.
I agree with magic_glitter. You might have an intolerance to grains. Dr Mercola recommends a no grain diet. If you have dark circles under your eye that is a good indication as well as other digestive problems.
Chappatti is south indian flatbread using wheat flour that is allowed to ferment overnight. This allows some of the gluten to break down through bacterial action. Even this is hard for me but better than commercial bread. If you still want to eat grain you can try sprouted grain breads or tortillas like ezekial.
I believe your excessive thirst is due to the grains and refined sugars in the diet. If you make dietary changes take it slow as it takes time for the body to adjust.
I'm no expert in anything, but I know that you're drinking TOO MUCH water. For your body weight, you should be drinking no more than 50 ounces of water a day (a quart and a half, six 8 ounce cups). Of course that's just an average, maybe 60 ounces for any exertion in a hot climate, but certainly not 10 cups (you unecessarily wash out too many nutrients from your body).
It can also cause a mineral deficiency or imbalance.
Right now, your body uses a lot of energy in digesting solid food that might be better used in healing, proper functioning (metabolism) and weight gain. Vegetable juice would give you the same nutrition as vegetables, but your body would not have to DIGEST (metabolism) the solid food.
Consider making your food choices more tasty and flavorful. Since they would be more satisfying, you wouldn't be so thirsty all of the time. It is not normal that you are thirsty all the time,...dry skin?
Digestive enzymes will help normalize digestion of what you do eat and will also help your body digest oils.
Background info on digestion here.
The truth is: most people really don’t know what “cellulite” actually is, or, what causes this odd appearance of the lower body trouble zones…"
This is no surprise as there actually is no such thing as ‘cellulite’… So how do we get rid of something which doesn’t exist?"
Here’s the answer:
"The word, “cellulite”, was cleverly made-up several decades ago, in a European beauty-spa, to DESCRIBE the bumpy, shadowy and dimpled appearance of skin in the lower body trouble zones of the female body. (butt, hips, thighs, legs)"
The beauty spas then started cashing-in and profiting big-time by marketing "beauty"
services and products to get rid of "cellulite".
And if you're like most women who've been
challenged by this issue, then you probably already know all of those passive and superficial beauty treatments do not get rid of the dented shadows and mushy dimples on your buns, legs and thighs."
Continued on next page...In order to make your lower-body smooth, tight and attractive, there are 5 steps to follow.
The term cellulite is used to describe the appearance of the skin as it tends to take on a dimpled look due to the fat deposits under the skin. No women want cellulite on her body. The most effective treatment in reducing cellulite is massage cellulite. Along with massage cellulite, regular exercise like squats, lunges, etc. also helps in reducing cellulite.
Hi! I hope I can help you with this. By the way I'm seth, 24 years of age and have been a victim of dreadful cellulite! So disgusting. Well, what I did was search through the internet and found this one: Truth about Cellulite by Joey Atlas. Go, check it out. You are not doing anything wrong with your diet. Probably, you're lacking with this kind of activity, which is exercising with the proper routines and squats. It really affect one because it depends on how you apply every exercise you do to your body. By the way, this is a legit program, and I assure you 100% of effectiveness of this for I'm also into it. :) Well, good luck to you and I hope you could try this one ;)