Wow! When I read your post I swear it's almost identical to my relationship. I'm 22 and she's 20. Knew her from high school loved her we talked off and on finally started dating a year ago and boooom about 6 months ago totally changed. Things can be fine one minute the next she's upset coming up with some bogus illness like a headache just to get attention. Also pressures me everyday about getting married and swears she's stands behind me but completely gets pissed off and starts a fight when I have to work a weekend...I work in public service for a town I have to work on weekends and holidays and I also make twice the amount she does but she can't fathom that instead gets mad acts like a child starts a fight says I don't care...but for real man they are the ones that don't care I believe that they do care about us but they don't care about us more than they do getting their way at any means. Soooo I'm with you man! Agreed she can make me the maddest and then so happy but I'm more mad alllll the time than I am happy. I think we both should say bye bye to them forever and move on
I used to think something major was wrong with me. I made lots of friends but when most of those relationships were tested...most of them failed. I felt used quite a bit because I like to help people out. Took me a while to understand that people will use a person like me and then dump them.
I now have two people I can trult call my "friend." They care to listen if I need them to and give me advice if that's what I'm looking for and visaversa. I still have lots of people with whom I associate, have in my home, help out etc...but they are pretty much in the acquaintence category.
I think most girls go through something like this, cause most of all guys look at porn. I know you don't wanna hear that it's normal but it is. I still get a bit upset when husband does it, but at the end of the day, if he's only physically with you and sleeping with you, you shouldn't worry. i have a very open relationship with my husband so he explained to me why, he said it's just a thing guys have grown up with, they started looking when they we're younger and i guess it's just fun for them to see naked girls, and i'm sure it means nothing bad about you. But what's good for him is good for you, if he can do it so can you, even if you don't wanna it might feel nice to let him come across some of your naughty pics, show him how it feels. If he doesn't like it go home one day with some porn and insist you watch it together, i did and it opened up the discussion, he'll be less opposed to talking about it. I have a million friends going through the same thing so all i can think is that no matter who i find it's gonna be the same so don't let it bother you, or try at least. You'll be fine don't worry and just concentrate ont he thnings you love about hin, afterall we all have our faults.
i too am going through a difficult time right now. My girlfriend dumped me after 7 years because of my insecurity. In your case, you remind me a lot of me. We want to savage things quickly before it is too late. The only answer to your problem is TIME.
Giver her space again. Let her think and wonder what she did and what you are doing. Let her MISS YOU. She will feel guilty and then realize to call you.
You are worried if she moves on with her ex. So let it be. If she does, then she is either confused or she was never yours to begin with. If it is meant to be, she will come back to you. Who knows she may be using her ex just so she can feel wanted and not alone. In the end, she will end up hurting him and she will come back to you.
Unfortunately, woman need and love attention. They look-up to their family , friends or ex's for comfort. Going to the ex is always a way that they just need to be pampered unlike what the family and friends would do. They wanted to feeled loved unlike family and friends would share. That is probably why she went to her ex. I'm sure she doesn't love him the way she loves you.
Give it time, and she will realize her fate, and she may come back to you.