I am a stay at home mother of 2 and about once every 3 months with my partners knowledge I buy a $ 20 pack of cocaine and a six pack of Mgd Beer aswell as a pack of Newport Ciggarettes and snort cocaine from 9 pm ( bedtime) till around 3 in the morning... It relaxes me and I like it.
I usta respect ya ren! How freaking judgemental can one get? Holier than thou, treatment, eh? Yeah, THAT'S always helpfull. LOL! First off, the name of the fo
rum is not, the PUT DOWN AND BELITLING forum, secondly, if you have any experience with the subject at hand, it would perhaps be more helpfull if you would share that, along with the steps YOU personally did to overcome your personal handicap.
The fact that ( and here, I apologize, maybe you were at a tender enough age when you sw the movie "Tough Love" to be permenentally affectrd, I don't know)this remains a support site, no matter the subject matter, deems your response clearly out of line. Ren, I used to revere your opinion on a multitude of subject matters, but now, guess what~! Ya just make me laugh~ ...........And CRY for a poster who needed a boost up NOT a shot in the A~~. From one who HAS been there and is not AFRAID to admit it.
Judgmental? I'm just repeating what you just said. You said you liked taking your coke and beer and I'm telling you the truth. It's selfish and you need to stop and get therapy. You are an addict and your addiction can possibly endanger the lives of your children. When you admit this to yourself, you'll be a changed person. Sorry if you took it the wrong way, but better I tell you than some policeman tell you OR your husband tells you in divorce court.
Another thing I forgot to add, you should start thinking about why you are taking those poisons into your body. It's just not good for you. Maybe there is something in your background, boring marriage,etc. but cocaine can kill you. I mean this in love and don't take it the wrong way. I don't know how else to say it.
Substance abuse and addiction are defined as 'loss of control' and /or inability to stop when one chooses consistently. There are MANY MANY people who use chemicals (drugs, alcohol, etc) 'socially' or recreationally and never develop 'AN ADDICTION". YOur point is WELL MADE that this women is engaging in 'dangerous' and/or RISKY behaviors... not only to herself but to her children and family. She could get busted buying drug, could get 'mixed up' with the wrong kinds of people etc. My point is that noone can say, based on the data she presented that'she is an addict and/or 'needs therapy'. Is she using drugs or engaging in behaviors that may very well be or become problematic? YES!. Is she 'irresponsible' to herself, her children and her family? IT WOULD SEEM THAT WAY !... I'm more curious that this person chose to share on this forum... Guilt? Fear? Concern? I don't know.. but its a beginning. It is my hope and prayer that she does find what she is looking for so that she doesn't have to live in shame, pain and or risk to herself and her family soon.
I think you miss the idea or concept behind a confessional forum ! I beleive its meant to be a place to open up and admit your indiscretions with undue harrasment! Just by the act of confessing admits an awareness of wrong doing, it needs no rebuttal, or admonishment! This I believe is not a place for the perfect person ,but for those who err, make mistakes, (it is human nature) and have the courage to face them and make them public! An airing out so to speak to help put things in perspective to those who so desire! Or even a place to concur with those of similar regrets or remorse!
Few will confess if known antagonists are waiting for them! Defeating the whole purpose of this forum!
Perhaps a cup of valerian tea and chammolil tea, with some chocolates and some good company can be ahead of you!
Your children have a right upon you and you have a right upon them, but they have a right that they are taken care of and protected. I know you get stressed out- I know! but there are better safe ways to cope and relax, hot tub and calgon, a funny movie at home with popcorn and hubby, a nice dinner out, family outings, Spiritual growth, please be easy on yourself and when trying to relax, remember not to do harm! You need to love yourself! You can do it!
Thanks :-) Maybe I could have phrased my response a bit differently so as not to make someone defensive BUT my concerns stay the same. I just have to remember not everything about me and also can't tell people what to do. You give some EXCELLENT advice though.
I was thinking.... and I dont want to cause negative feelings.....but this is a regret/confessions forum, I was assuming there is regret, if there is, then work to remedy the situation. No one is calling you or attacking you personally, but since I am outside of your world it may seem we are jumping on your case. I personally , when I do things, need a true "opinion"- it hurts sometimes-
If you do not see anything wrong with it then I have stated my thoughts and am not attacking you personally.
Yes there are a lot of people who do worse- but deeper inside there is a you that needs to relax, and you can do this in different ways if you want.