The one fantasy that I have that I really want to act out is the 3 some. I don't care if it's girl/girl/guy or girl/guy/guy, I just really want to do this with my wife. The thing is, she has no interest at all in having sex with another person other than me. She is in her late 20's but has become quite conservative in her ways. I was wondering if any of you have convinced your significant other to try this. If so, do you have any advice for me or do you think I am just out of luck?
Absolutely forget it ! You are going thru a questionable period.
I'm going to side with the previous post. Psychologically, the fidelity you have will be threatened. Like the previous person says, spice it up.
Try other positions, sex enhancer herbs, watch pornos together, get some spicy nightware, get her some sex enhancer herbs, (there is stuff out there that will HELP stimulate desire) vibrator for her or you, soft lights, pleasant fragrance, different types of stimulation,( check jackinworld.com for you and her), tieing her or you down, try longer foreplay, stimulating lubrication, make her orgasm many times. Make her have the best time of her life...she isn't a prude...she is very normal.
Mutually or solely masturbate if you have to...but don't wreck your marriage over a fantasy that might bring disappointment in itself. You got a good marriage...don't blow it!
I would guess just talking nice can really stimulate a marriage. The grass is always greener elsewhere....don't believe it!
Don't do it because once you start you will most likely expect it from her.
Many years ago I agreed to this with my X. He ended up moving his tootsy in with us. She became a sex slave for him and a babysitter and house keeper for me. She was one hell of a cook though! But it wasn't worth it in the end, even for him.
I wouldn't recommend getting started. Keep it a fantasy. It will be best for all concerned.
Bad, bad idea. I know someone who did this - and was dumped by his (lomg term) girlfriend shortly afterward because she couldn't handle it... so he hooked up with the girl they'd originally had the threesome with, and was dumped by her also because she couldn't handle it.... then it followed him into his current relationship because the girl he's with now found out from friends and now she can't handle it...
Some fantasies are meant to stay fantasies.... play out one that just involves the two of you, or you might live to regret it. I don't think your wife is being unreasonable. If my boyfriend suggested a threesome I think I'd be helping him pack his things without a second thought. She should be enough for you.
I know it's probably not a good idea. I guess I should forget about it. I really have never known anyone that has done it and stayed together. I guess I am just looking to spice things up more. We already have plenty of toys and porn. I think I am just in some sort of sexual prime right now.
Always remember...there's absolutely nothing wrong with the wildest of fantasies, sharing them with and/or suggesting them to a partner. But the fastest way to lose a partner, is to insist or pressure another person into doing something sexually that they don't want to do.
Always consider your own needs...but always consider the effect of your needs and how you present them. Turn the table in every sexual 'situation' and ask yourself, "how would I feel right now if it was my partner asking me to do something sexually that I did not want to do?"
If you do that, you'll definitely enhance the trust in your relationship (which helps the other person to feel more free and able to express their own 'stuff'), and that WILL make your sex life 'hotter'.
Just think about it.... It will release all your wife's pent-up "conservative" ways and flush them out and it will help you clear out your crazy thoughts of bringing someone else in your relationship.
And... if you did bring somebody else in, just think of all the possible diseases they may be carrying in their intestines!...you would need to be flushing constantly!!.... now if that's enough, I dont know what is! (hearty chuckling!)
Seriously, not a good idea relationship-wise and health-wise.
Look, this is about respect and prefrence. Regardless of her level of conservativism... she has a right to say who she does and doesnt share her life and body with. You need to respect that regardless of how you feel or what you want. Fact is, if you really love her you will give up the adolescent ideas that may land you in the hospital or a divorce court and grow up! I want a million dollars and a new house but Im not willing to wreck my marriage over it, ya know? Sometimes when we reach adulthood and make commitments we give up certain things for another person because thats what adulthood means, compromise. You have a right to your desires but not at the cost of hers.
I had sore itchy nipples when I was breastfeeding, and found out my baby had thrush which is a yeast infection in his mouth. Some people are more prone to yeast infections, and it will surely get into the nipples and cause soreness. I don't know if this is your case, but it may be something to check out. I think the doctor gave me a prescription for Nystatin which cleared up my nipples in a few days, but your boyfriend/husband needs to get checked too.
You and your wife ..sit down and read the book Conversations with God by author Neale Donald Walsch....my life has done a 360 degrees from changing my reality and perception of how life in this society is and how it is meant to be.....your wanting this fantasy will become clear to you and possibly open your wife up to being less conservative...porn and what not is NOT sexual deviancy and toxic body...that is all religiously fanatic based...However..the purer the body ...the purer the mind..thepurer the spirit ,therefore the mind, body and spirit does not require so much sex in order to feel pleasure in other ways of life.
My wife and i have had many threesomes in the past and some regular gf's. How we did it was like this. Mind you, she is a hotty. We would go to the gay club on lesbian night (they are not all lesbians) and there were couples for couples some gay guys and of course lebians and bisexual girls. The easiest way to hook up since she was shy was to walk, say 30 feet behind her and see who was hott and checked her out. Then when we would turn the corner I would tell her who was checking her out etc. 9 times out of 10 if she went and near the girl the girl would talk to her. Of course we did not always hook up, but I was in very good shape and remember they are not all lesbians!! Sure was fun, but most of the women both of you hook up with you will find are mental!! Good luck!