The one fantasy that I have that I really want to act out is the 3 some. I don't care if it's girl/girl/guy or girl/guy/guy, I just really want to do this with my wife. The thing is, she has no interest at all in having sex with another person other than me. She is in her late 20's but has become quite conservative in her ways. I was wondering if any of you have convinced your significant other to try this. If so, do you have any advice for me or do you think I am just out of luck?
Absolutely forget it ! You are going thru a questionable period.
I'm going to side with the previous post. Psychologically, the fidelity you have will be threatened. Like the previous person says, spice it up.
Try other positions, sex enhancer herbs, watch pornos together, get some spicy nightware, get her some sex enhancer herbs, (there is stuff out there that will HELP stimulate desire) vibrator for her or you, soft lights, pleasant fragrance, different types of stimulation,( check jackinworld.com for you and her), tieing her or you down, try longer foreplay, stimulating lubrication, make her orgasm many times. Make her have the best time of her life...she isn't a prude...she is very normal.
Mutually or solely masturbate if you have to...but don't wreck your marriage over a fantasy that might bring disappointment in itself. You got a good marriage...don't blow it!
I would guess just talking nice can really stimulate a marriage. The grass is always greener elsewhere....don't believe it!
Don't do it because once you start you will most likely expect it from her.
Many years ago I agreed to this with my X. He ended up moving his tootsy in with us. She became a sex slave for him and a babysitter and house keeper for me. She was one hell of a cook though! But it wasn't worth it in the end, even for him.
I wouldn't recommend getting started. Keep it a fantasy. It will be best for all concerned.
Bad, bad idea. I know someone who did this - and was dumped by his (lomg term) girlfriend shortly afterward because she couldn't handle it... so he hooked up with the girl they'd originally had the threesome with, and was dumped by her also because she couldn't handle it.... then it followed him into his current relationship because the girl he's with now found out from friends and now she can't handle it...
Some fantasies are meant to stay fantasies.... play out one that just involves the two of you, or you might live to regret it. I don't think your wife is being unreasonable. If my boyfriend suggested a threesome I think I'd be helping him pack his things without a second thought. She should be enough for you.
I know it's probably not a good idea. I guess I should forget about it. I really have never known anyone that has done it and stayed together. I guess I am just looking to spice things up more. We already have plenty of toys and porn. I think I am just in some sort of sexual prime right now.
Always remember...there's absolutely nothing wrong with the wildest of fantasies, sharing them with and/or suggesting them to a partner. But the fastest way to lose a partner, is to insist or pressure another person into doing something sexually that they don't want to do.
Always consider your own needs...but always consider the effect of your needs and how you present them. Turn the table in every sexual 'situation' and ask yourself, "how would I feel right now if it was my partner asking me to do something sexually that I did not want to do?"
If you do that, you'll definitely enhance the trust in your relationship (which helps the other person to feel more free and able to express their own 'stuff'), and that WILL make your sex life 'hotter'.