I was just wondering if there was a support group for young people that have to get dentures. I'm 35 and I have to get dentures soon because there is no other alternatives. In fact I should have gotten the work done months ago, but the thought of having all of my teeth pulled out, even though I have one missing in front, has been traumatic for me, a life changing event to where I keep going into depression in regards to it and keep delaying the inevitable. It would be nice to have a support forum to talk to other young people who have had this done, and be able to provide tips and support on how they got through it, plus for everyone supporting each other.
In short, I just wanted someone to talk to about my situation, and thought that maybe others going through this would like to also. For me, I'm fine as long as I stay home (which is almost 24/7), and I don't think about it, or look in the mirror at all. Basically I have litterally hid myself from the world because of this. When I do think about it, I almost want to cry, because for one, no one is going to want a 30 some yr old woman for a girlfriend who takes out her teeth at night. Plus the fact that you can tell just by looking at their facial structure. Least I can, I have a friend who has his uppers gone, and you can tell when his teeth are out, but he is also male, so it is a bit different because of our society's viewpoints.
I don't know of any support groups for young people who have to get dentures, although I'm sure there's a group out there, but I just wanted to write to let you know that you're not alone. I am 31 and also have many teeth difficulties that cause me a lot of psychological pain. I have periodontal disease, which has caused my gums to recede dramatically. I worry everytime I smile that people are disgusted by my gums. The roots of my teeth are exposed, and I'm very self-conscious of how they look. My teeth are also loose, so I worry often about losing my teeth. I also feel unusually young to be having such serious dental problems. I also have decay problems--many cavities, many mercury Amalgam fillings, and one root canal. I totally understand your feelings about your teeth because I feel the same way. I get very depressed about my teeth often, and I also isolate myself socially a lot because I worry that people don't want to be friends with someone with gross teeth and gums.
I try to be healthier for my teeth's sake, but it's hard. I am addicted to sweets, and although I am successful in avoiding them for periods of time, I have almost constant cravings that cause me to give into them again and again. Also, I start to feel deprived because it seems like every other young person gets to enjoy candy bars, soda, cake, etc without any negative consequences for their teeth. I know it sounds stupid, but when I feel like I'm the only person who can't eat sweets, then I feel even more isolated and alone and like a pariah.
Well, just so you know--there's at least one other 30-something out here with major dental problems. Write me if you want.
Have either of you seen a periodontist and been told you have to lose ALL your teeth?? In this day and age,there are very few reasons to have full dentures,let alone when in your 30's. Even if you can save only a few of them.its well worth it in the long run. You have so many options,but most of them will involve a lot of time and some expense (and maybe more than you are capable of doing.) PLEASE do some research before you go into this mindset. You won't be sorry!
BTW....leaving the diseased teeth and gums untreated is not good for your overall health. They can create a ton of problems.
I've been involved in dentistry in one form or another for over 30 years,and if I can help,please let me know!
The reason a lot of people end up getting dentures at such a young age is due to not having the money to have them fixed. Not having the money for insurance. If you are below poverty level and living on a fixed income you don't have the same choices as other people have. I do not wish to have dentures but due to not affording the proper care over the years my teeth have gotten so bad that now they can not be saved. The only thing I can have done is get them pulled one at a time as they get infected at the free clinic. now I have so many missing teeth I look ridiculous.
Hello I'm 26 years old and I need two root canals done on my front teeth but can't afford it so now I'm having to get them extracted. I can't afford partial or dentures and don't know what to do. I'm depressed and always crying.
Thank you for the insight to the other posts.
I totally agree with the men who wrote responses back that they rather see healthy, pretty smile versus an unhealthy one, fake, or not.
I had a pretty smile until my teeth started to fall out one by one this past yr, and through many different dentist visits (for opinions), and 2 oral surgeons, I had 95% of my teeth extracted this morning. I have 11 left right now, only 4 or so will remain after the second appt of extrations.
But I will get pretty teeth once again in dentures. My bottom teeth in front were very crowded. I would cut the floss just trying to squeak it in between them to even floss. Plus I had a root canal in one back in '92. Due to the gums receding and the bones deteriorating, that tooth fell out right before X-mas of '04. So I have spent 6 months with no front tooth, so I'm biting the bit to get this done and over with. lol
Plus with dentures now a days I have found out from talking to various people that I know have them, young and old, you can sleep in them at night now and just take them out to clean them while you are in the shower. No one has to know, unless you tell them yourself. Me, I'd rather be upfront to potential dates that I like before we start dating. If they leave because I am getting my teeth fixed, then they aren't the right person for me. I'm not a shallow person and I wouldn't want to date someone who was either. Truth be known, I started this thread back on February 20, 2005. Since then I have had done much research and talked to several people about this, so I feel a lot more positive about this, and can even make jokes about it. :)
For one, it will be far easier to take care of dentures than my regular teeth were.. I won't have to adjust my smile so not to show my bottom front teeth that were crooked and only expose my good upper ones.. Plus I have no pain through all of this, except what the dentists have caused me. So.. I am warding off potential pain from coming on as I have a low pain tolerance. Plus did I mention that I get to have pretty pearlies again? lol
To #45981 who posted to my first post, please get yours fixed and ask about a good method for you to be able to do so. I had to get what is called a Care Credit Card, and put all of my dental work on it so that I can pay it off in monthly payments just like a regular credit card because I have no dental ins. Where there is a will, there is a way hun. :) Do some research, and ask a bunch of questions, but it isn't the end of the road for us if we have to get dentures. :)
I am 25 years old and like many of you am faced with either getting dentures and all the stigma attached, or spend up to $36,000 to get full implants! Currently I am faced with the dilemma of either buying teeth or buying a new home! I'm recently married and although my husband assures me that he married me and not my teeth, my anxiety/self-conscious feelings toward dentures are making me procrastinate my decision. I wish there was a support group out there for young adults like me who are faced with getting dentures. It helps to know that there are other people out there facing the same dilemma that I am.
i also am only 26 yrs old and struggling with all of my teeth and i am goin to have to have alot cut out and removed but cant seem to find ne docs to accept my insurance which isnt but a medical card bc i recently lost my job of 3yrs.. its hard to even think bout all the work ill have to have done like soon! but i keep puttin it off bc i dnt wana b 26 yrs old and toothless and have people makin fun of me and have my boyfriend of 6yrs look at me as unattractive! It scares me i wish i could afford to have everything takin care of but theres no way with my medical card ive looked everywere and tried ejust about everything!! if ne one has ne good info for me plz let me no i am wanting to either have the teeth i have left just fixed if they can even b fixed or get dentures i guess!!
I had 16 teeth removed five days ago .. Basically my whole top roll of teeth .. And the temp dentures put str8 In but I'm having major issues with it so that's why I came to google it ... Something's not lined up right .. . My tongues constantly bumping the upper mouth part .. And my lips barely cover the teeth at the same time it never feels securely in place . . I can't do anything with my mouth without the denture adjusting or felling weird starting last night the dentures rubbing my upper mouth now it hurts to talk or move my tongue .. The doctor said they won't fit until the swelling goes down .. But I'm not swollen anymore and I still can't chew ... I'm nervous I'm only 27 and I'm really trying not to let the world know my teeth are fake and have to explain the why I had to get them story over and over every day ... Any ideas on what i can do ? Also the adjusting the gum part ? What's that do ? I'm
Worried because the dentures don't fit right and my gums will shrink like the doctor said they will if I don't wear them majority of the day ..
It's killing my self esteem and i refuse to go places anymore .. I've been wanting a new smile for years and finally take the leap .. And now idk ..
I feel your pain. I wish there was a support group for us too. I'm 42 and need dentures. My issue is my fiancé is 20 years younger, I don't want to feel old and ugly. I want to look as good as possible for him. The threat of a younger gal stealing him away scares the hell out of me. Although he has said a million times what your husband has said to you, he isn't with you for your teeth or looks. He loves you for you. Right? My man is very loving and supportive and still wants to marry me, real teeth or not. I guess I'm the one with the issues, the fears. Either way it sucks.... feeling too young to have to deal with this sort of thing... I always thought I wouldn't ever need dentures... I never want anyone to see me with no teeth. I plan to keep them in at all times except for when I take a bath *that's when I'll clean them* or when my fiancé is at work...
I know it sounds stupid but my other fear is this: Say I need to go to the ER/Hospital for something, I do not want them taking my teeth out, waking up and looking like a toothless freak. I'm sorry but I have seen what people look with their teeth out, face all sunken in. It looks scary to me. My mom has dentures and I love her to death but when she has her teeth out It scares me. So if I ever end up in a situation like that I guess I better make sure my fiancé tells them to LEAVE THE TEETH IN or have them near by for when I wake up.
I don't have any self esteem right now but I guess you can tell. I don't have any friends, I don't like to go out or be around other people and when I have to I don't smile or talk much because of my missing front teeth. Yes I think I will feel better when I finally do get dentures so then I can smile.
I guess right now I have anxiety over the whole issue... Being bi-polar doesn't help...
Hello, I recently went to the dentist. Have not been to a dentist since around age 10. I am 31 now. I was told that I would need dentures, as well. However, the thought of that almost depressed me. Glad I found this forum. I don't feel so alone now. In the mean time, just trying to figure out some other solutions.
Don't feel bad, your not alone. I'm 37 and was recently told that I need all my teeth pulled. I was hoping for caps, but I hardly have any bone left so my options are very limited. I know I'm going to put it off as long as I can because like you I can't help but think about my age, my appearance and the fact that I don't want my teeth to come out at night. Even though I'm married I can't help but feel my husband will look at me differently. Maybe we think to much :). Anyways, I don't know of any support groups, but if you find any, would you please let me know? Thanks and the very best of luck to you!
There is a support group for denture wearers. It is a MSN group called Dentures A New Smile. You will find people getting dentures every day and all the issues that go along with them. You will also find others your age and will not feel alone. Hope you check it out. It has helped me.
hello...i am new to this site so please forgive me! I am 30 years old and am experiencing the same issues as you...i am faced with getting dentures as well, and it has me very depressed and mentally drained! i was told i had no other option 1 year ago...and i still havent got it done, and i am in severe pain everyday, and almost to the point to where i cant chew anything, i am unable to chew alot of meats and when i do try i am in pain! i totally understand what u are going through and i just thought id reply to let you know that you are not alone! i face the same fear! i wish there were more people to talk to that is our age it makes you feel somewhat better to know you are not alone! please feel free to reply back anytime...i need the support as well so just know you can chat w me if needed! thanks !
i know what your talking about, i'm only 26 and had to have what was left of the top teeth taken out.before i had this done my front tooth had broke and the other one started to get a cavity from behind which changed the color to a sort of clear black. i use to talk while looking down so no one would see it. this is difficult to do when you work in retail in a toy store. when i had my teeth taken out they put the temp denture right in, so i go back to have the soft lining redone just about every week. has anyone else had a problem with the denture being too big? i mean it fits in my mouth there is too much of the gums and the teeth are actually bigger than my teeth, which makes them alot lower than they should be. it doesn't look right and i know everyone at my work knows this.
Hi everyone on this thread.
I have the same thing going on as you guys and girls, I have to have an upper denture due to periodontal disease.My gums are giving up the ghost as it were.My front 4 teeth are migrating forward and the front left is extremely mobile.Was at the consultant yesterday and we have reached the end of the road after 3 years of working hard to keep them.So I am terrified and my main concerns are the procedure of getting them out...11 in total.and also what I will look like with a denture.Worried about not being able to speak/smile.My heart goes out to you all as I know how it feels.I am only 32 and getting married in 15 months.Partner very supportive but still feel so anxious.
Please reply with any info on dealing with new dentures or just for a chat
i had what was left of my uppers taken out in April, i was very nervous going in not knowing what would happen and my appearence. is the dentist going to put you under or are you going to be awake? the best advice i can give for the next few nights after having the extractions done is, sleep wit your head elevated like your sitting up with a towel or something because you will drool alot after the procedure. this did stop for me on the 3rd or 4th night. some people are able to talk the next day but it does depend on the person. the best real food that i found is overcooked pasta until you mouth starts to heal.( i ate this for 2 weeks before going back to work.) hope this helps you, if you have any questions or want to talk email me.
I am a 33 yr. old woman, and I totally understand your situation. 1 year ago I went to a dentist and found out that I had waited too long to fix my teeth. All my friends told me if I would just suck it up and go to the dentist, I'd be fine. Well, you are never fine when they close the door and begin to explain what Dentures are. Cut to one year later, and I am fine. I will not lie, it took some time to get used to...eating, talking...kissing. But I've started to figure it out. My husband of 3 years is also very supportive, so that helps. I'm now looking down the barrel of having my "uppers" extracted. I keep putting it off, but I know it needs to be done, yesterday.
Stay strong and I hope the knowledge that someone else "gets" you. When I went through my ordeal, all they could tell me was they did the same operation on one other person my age.....but he was a meth head!!!!!!!!!!!! That crushed my spirit. E-mail me if you every need a friend. email@example.com