well, yes, i can see the contradiction. i mean i am childless, i want to find others who are childless like me. i have a friend who wants to have kids in the future, i guess no i wouldn't dump her, but i don't want to be spending time with someone else's kids. i have met other childless ppl who say they have their own lives and don't wanna be spending time with ppl's kids. i love meeting people, but i don't wanna hear anything about kids. for example, when i was single, i went on a date with a guy who was 21 (at the time) with 2 sons he was raising. he "challenged" me to go out with me saying i was negative and close minded about those who have kids. so, we met offline and went to see a movie. he was hot (i was 18), funny, and nice to chat with. i told him the condition was don't bring your kids with you and don't talk about them, so he agreed. we talked for a while online then we went our separate ways. i could NEVER date/marry someone who has kids, that is a dealbreaker for me as it is for most childless women. i told him from the beginning, i do not care for kids (have nothing against them, knew as a little girl i never wanted to be bothered).
its hard trying to find childless ppl. i wanna party not take care of kids. i grew up the youngest child, never had to raise kids, or take care of any. my goals were to have a career and have a lot of money with dogs and cats, that was my dream. honestly, i do not know how to "talk to kids." i never had googbie feelings when seeing a baby, it wasn't for me. i have played with this 6 yr old when i was 10, she played too rough so i stopped playing with her. women get mad when i tell them how i do not want kids nor do i wanna go to "family events" with them that involves kids. i have found some groups on meetup.com for childless people, but they were for women over 30 and i am not in that age bracket to join it.
i was tired of meeting people who didn't want to party, stay out, get drunk, and go clubbing. i felt why do i have to settle for the less? the guys i knew back then, that was the reason why i dropped them. i had friends who put stipulations on me and dropped me for other silly reasons. i havent been able to party a lot or go clubbing, people in my age group feels they are 2 old as if they are 50 years old!!! i believe you can never be too old to have fun, too many older people listen to society about what age is appropriate for fun not me. im a party person out and about thats who i wanna meet like i said not someone who doesn't have a social life. i am never home, i like to see things out there. not interested in meeting people who go to work and come home not wanting to even go outside to smell the roses. ppl like that they wonder why their own friends do not bother, these people have told me this personally to me.
i listen to my friend even if i think it is boring. the friend i have who wants to have kids in the future, i have to listen to her talk about kids all day because she does work in daycare, but i listen. my passion is money and pets that is it. i want a financial stable life, i am like ann coulter (don't like her but she is independent goal orientated that is all i like about her), i want independence and make my money. i would feel hurt if she just disregarded my feelings to whatever i am passionate in. that has happen to me before, i had friends who were hypocrites they never lasted. i had friends who didn't listen to me, but had no problems listen to other mutual friends and leave me out in the dust.
i get tired of talking to my doctor about depression, i do not do pills at all. i used to exercise at my ex college's gym, but that's another story i did feel better after exercising. i work on my depression by myself by doing my own research, i have suffered from depression for 7+ years for personal reasons. doctors were like here take this pill instead of listening to my problems.
honestly, i met a lady who has twin sons she is so nice. i met her at the workshops i am attending we talk a lot and she has invited me out to lunch. i never understood why i attracted parents, i do not have a problem if they have a teen or adult kids, fine with me - a teen is basically a mini adult anyway i can relate to that. the reason why i was venting is because i have siblings who are much older than me, my views some of them come from my siblings. my older sister likes to party but has 2 kids damn great mom always put her kids 1st.
i remember a guy told me one time that i was too outgoing for him because i always want to spend money. not like i asked him to spend his money, i named things we can do and he was so picky complaining how things outside cost money i said what difference does it make when you put gas in the car? that is still spending money!
my female friends know i am not a kid person, but they don't like it. i told them i could never be a Godmother, that still isn't my style. most college students like to party get drunk and be stupid yet i find those who just want to sit at home and read a book. i had childless men who don't want no kids tell me that i do not see a problem with your lifestyle. he said i am not friends with anyone who has kids, i don't mind my siblings' kids cuz they are related to them, outside of that i do not want to be bothered. this was coming from a guy yet he wasn't hounded for not wanting kids but i was!
i have had people put stipulations on me and it ruined friendships saying how everything was fault yet these people couldn't find what they did wrong themselves. i had a friend for 10 yrs, was never a good friend, but got rid of her in 08 due to being very disrespectful towards me and my boyfriend, so she had to go plus she had a bad attitude towards people and me. i use meetup.com and join social groups for those who want to host parties and go to clubs.
Well, i gotta go to bed need to get up early tomorrow.